Girls Only Trip (old planning thread, see link to new one in 1st post)

Ayden's test results are in...he tested positive for Strep throat. Part of me is relieved because like Laurie mentioned now he'll be on antibiotics for awhile and hopefully that will help boost his immune system. I ended up staying home again from work today......one because I still hurt and two I'm causing myself to have panic attacks about this stupid flu being in my own backyard!!!! It's not like I work in a small office...I work in a HUGE office with hundreds and hundreds of people. DBF thinks I'm nuts....but even him going to work and coming home freaks me out. I think it's because I am getting over being so dang sick I don't want to do it again.

Kelly I completely understand your fear of not wanting to take the girls to practice. BTW that cake looks soooooooooooooooo good!!!! She looked so happy! She honestly looks familiar to me...wonder if I've seen you guys around or something. I think I'm keeping Ayden home the rest of the week. He has a school performance on Thursday night that I'd hate for him to miss though. I'm just so confused!

So Ayden's dad was supposed to take him today...as soon as I told him he tested positive for strep he changed his mind real quick on that. Must be nice to be a parent at your convenience.
As a single mommy, I completly understand. Must be nice huh? Like this past wknd was the baseball parade and games, well dear ole dad, went to Seattle on his 4 days off, to see some friends. But thought stopping by Kaelebs school to say Hi, was good enough? :mad: Oh and he hasn't seen the boys since I came home from DL.

Hope everyone has a good day!

I would be relieved for Strep also.



Kelly she looks so happy with her DS. Kaeleb loves his!! Ex DBF got him Guitar Hero for Christmas on it, he flippen loves it! Her cake looks yummy!!


Dawn I hope you start feeling better soon!!
 
Janelle I was going to say I so feel you on your rib problem. When I was in Disney World this past Nov I had been there almost the entire time and then RIGHT before we left I woke up in the middle of the night with this terrible pain that felt almost like I was having a stupid heart attack. It was this pain going down my left arm and my dh had to go get ice to put in my arm pit of all things. But it was this burning stinging in my arm pit that went across my chest. Well it turned out to be this thing called interstial cystitis. And it was some type of inflamation of the membranes in between your ribs but it bothered me for months. And apparently it was from some type of blunt force injury that I had sustained while there. Like getting knocked around on all the rides. So I sure hope you start feeling better. I know how much that can hurt when you can't take a deep breath etc.

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That sounds almost exactly what I have. My Dr calls it Costochondritis. The pain is so hard to describe. I'm more sore this morning for some reason. I pretty much only have my right side working for me now. I shampoo my hair with one hand, get dressed one handed, it's such a pain. You said yours bothered you for months....did the pain decrease during that time or was it the same the entire time?
 
Must be nice to be a parent at your convenience.
As a single mommy, I completly understand. Must be nice huh? Like this past wknd was the baseball parade and games, well dear ole dad, went to Seattle on his 4 days off, to see some friends. But thought stopping by Kaelebs school to say was good enough? Oh and he hasn't seen the boys since I came home from DL.
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I just dont' get it at all. Sometimes I feel like either be involved or completely removing themselves from their lives would be better. I call his dad the Am/Pm dad....the dad by convenience.
 
Janelle ok now I'm embarrassed. You are right. It IS costochondritis. Crap I have had so dang many things wrong with me I said the wrong one LOL. :eek: The other one is the name of the bladder condition I have. You are right though the costochondritis is the rib one. And for me it lasted quite a while. He gave me these pills I had to take that were supposed to help with the inflammation. I had to take them for like two weeks. For me it felt like a bee stung me in my arm pit and then it itched really bad in my arm pit and across my chest and it went back and forth between itching and severe pain. I feel for you cuz that SUCKS!! ((hugs))

Anyway I guess we ARE going to go ahead and go to practice even though I am not too thrilled about it because like I said we have our time trials and the girls need all the practice they can get but if I feel at ALL like there is anything suspicious I will pull them out again on Wed.

Thanks to everyone about the pics. Shelby had a GREAT birthday eventhough she didn't have a "kid" party. She loved Red Lobster and the guy made a big deal (waiter) so she had fun!

And she picked out that cake herself! ;)

Anyway I am work and mom needs help so gotta run. Back later!
 

Janelle ok now I'm embarrassed. You are right. It IS costochondritis. Crap I have had so dang many things wrong with me I said the wrong one LOL. :eek: The other one is the name of the bladder condition I have. You are right though the costochondritis is the rib one. And for me it lasted quite a while. He gave me these pills I had to take that were supposed to help with the inflammation. I had to take them for like two weeks. For me it felt like a bee stung me in my arm pit and then it itched really bad in my arm pit and across my chest and it went back and forth between itching and severe pain. I feel for you cuz that SUCKS!! ((hugs))

Anyway I guess we ARE going to go ahead and go to practice even though I am not too thrilled about it because like I said we have our time trials and the girls need all the practice they can get but if I feel at ALL like there is anything suspicious I will pull them out again on Wed.

Thanks to everyone about the pics. Shelby had a GREAT birthday eventhough she didn't have a "kid" party. She loved Red Lobster and the guy made a big deal (waiter) so she had fun!

And she picked out that cake herself! ;)

Anyway I am work and mom needs help so gotta run. Back later!


LOL don't be embarassed.....nowadays everything has such a weird name they all start to sound the same. My dr gave me something called Refalen?? I haven't had the itching part of it.....only the pain.

I don't blame you for wanting to get in as much practice before time trials. I used to nanny 4 girls that swam for Glen Oaks and time trials were VERY important!!!

Oh and she's got great taste on the cake!!! lol:woohoo:
 
I just dont' get it at all. Sometimes I feel like either be involved or completely removing themselves from their lives would be better. I call his dad the Am/Pm dad....the dad by convenience.

When my exhusband moved to PHX when my daughter was 14 it really was easier because then I knew I had to do it on my own and it removed the expectation that he would be there to help out. My parents lived 4 hours away and my sister 1 hour. But I was and am to this day so very grateful for my DD's best friend's family who took her in after school until I could get home from work. I worked downtown at that time (Why couldn't I have worked from home then??? That would have made that part of my life so much easier!)
 
I just dont' get it at all. Sometimes I feel like either be involved or completely removing themselves from their lives would be better. I call his dad the Am/Pm dad....the dad by convenience.

I don't get it. I feel bad for my kids, but there is nothing I can do about his lack of interest. He was a stay at home dad, so he uses the well I was with the kids for so and so years and you worked and traveled. So I just smile and say ok and walk away. He is really not worth fighting with or wasting my energy.
I never say anything bad about him, infront of the kids. Well I never say anything bad about him at all really, unless he has totally ticked me off and then its just venting to a close friend, but nothing to bad. Karama....But they are getting older and are starting to get it. I just sit there and listen to the kids, and smile and say well you need to tell him then. If I tell him, he thinks that it is me, not the kids. So I just bite my tongue almost off somedays, but after all he is their dad and they don't need me bad mouthing the other parent. Mainly because I would be totally ticked if he did that to me in front of them. When Jordan was younger, and Kaeleb was a baby they had more than their share of listening to us fight & battle it out. Now I am have taken up being the better person, counting to 50 or 1000 and say will this matter in 5 years? Nope, I let it go. It might have taken a few years to get to this point, and I do almost everything on my own, but at the end of the day, I know I can live with myself, but can he?
 
Vegas girls 54 days!!!!!!!
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I'm sure you can tell by her expression she was VERY excited LOL.

And this is her with her birthday cake.
Awww, great pics! She looks over the moon happy. That's cool. And that cake looks really, really good.




It was really such a happy time. Thank You, CheryL for making this happen.

I'm back to bed, i'm still feeling really sick.
I'm glad you had so much fun and were able to hang out with everyone. I hope you get better fast.




Ayden's test results are in...he tested positive for Strep throat. Part of me is relieved because like Laurie mentioned now he'll be on antibiotics for awhile and hopefully that will help boost his immune system. I ended up staying home again from work today......one because I still hurt and two I'm causing myself to have panic attacks about this stupid flu being in my own backyard!!!!
Well, at least now they know what it is, and can get him on some meds so he'll be better soon. I'm sorry you are in pain today. It's interesting both you and Kelly had the same thing. I'd never heard of it before. Hang in there.
And don't panic. :hug: That won't change anything, and you'll only make yourself more stressed and hinder your healing. Just make sure everyone is washing their hands, especially Chris if he's the one out more often.



I just dont' get it at all. Sometimes I feel like either be involved or completely removing themselves from their lives would be better. I call his dad the Am/Pm dad....the dad by convenience.
Wow, that's so rough. I honestly don't know how you and Debra do it. I do a lot around the house since I am home and Ruben works, but just knowing he's there if I need him makes a huge difference. All the single moms really deserve extra credit for what they do. :worship:
 
Good morning ladies!! Hope you all have a good day today. :)

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I don't get it. I feel bad for my kids, but there is nothing I can do about his lack of interest. He was a stay at home dad, so he uses the well I was with the kids for so and so years and you worked and traveled. So I just smile and say ok and walk away. He is really not worth fighting with or wasting my energy.
I never say anything bad about him, infront of the kids. Well I never say anything bad about him at all really, unless he has totally ticked me off and then its just venting to a close friend, but nothing to bad. Karama....But they are getting older and are starting to get it. I just sit there and listen to the kids, and smile and say well you need to tell him then. If I tell him, he thinks that it is me, not the kids. So I just bite my tongue almost off somedays, but after all he is their dad and they don't need me bad mouthing the other parent. Mainly because I would be totally ticked if he did that to me in front of them. When Jordan was younger, and Kaeleb was a baby they had more than their share of listening to us fight & battle it out. Now I am have taken up being the better person, counting to 50 or 1000 and say will this matter in 5 years? Nope, I let it go. It might have taken a few years to get to this point, and I do almost everything on my own, but at the end of the day, I know I can live with myself, but can he?

Very well said. I dread the day that Ayden grows up and realizes how little his dad did to help out. Everyone says Ayden will figure it out one day.....and I know he will but gosh I don't want my son to think his dad is a deadbeat. I guess the hard part for me is I work my hiney off and sometimes we go paycheck to paycheck...and he can survive just fine unemployed....uh hum, I mean working under the table and live just fine. You are so right about karma though...and his is coming.
 
I don't get it. I feel bad for my kids, but there is nothing I can do about his lack of interest. He was a stay at home dad, so he uses the well I was with the kids for so and so years and you worked and traveled. So I just smile and say ok and walk away. He is really not worth fighting with or wasting my energy.
I never say anything bad about him, infront of the kids. Well I never say anything bad about him at all really, unless he has totally ticked me off and then its just venting to a close friend, but nothing to bad. Karama....But they are getting older and are starting to get it. I just sit there and listen to the kids, and smile and say well you need to tell him then. If I tell him, he thinks that it is me, not the kids. So I just bite my tongue almost off somedays, but after all he is their dad and they don't need me bad mouthing the other parent. Mainly because I would be totally ticked if he did that to me in front of them. When Jordan was younger, and Kaeleb was a baby they had more than their share of listening to us fight & battle it out. Now I am have taken up being the better person, counting to 50 or 1000 and say will this matter in 5 years? Nope, I let it go. It might have taken a few years to get to this point, and I do almost everything on my own, but at the end of the day, I know I can live with myself, but can he?

I was the same way, I never said anything in front of her about her dad even though he totally drove me crazy...never paid child support, booked air flights at crazy inconvienent times, never followed through on his promises to her, etc but as she got older she saw it all for herself and finally realized why I had wanted the divorce. ;) And you will get your reward someday - I did...at her graduation party I was outside cleaning something up and he came out to talk to me and he got very emotional and thanked me for doing a great job on raising our daughter! It made my day knowing that he finally realized that I didn't have any help from him and that we had a great daughter! :thumbsup2
 
I was the same way, I never said anything in front of her about her dad even though he totally drove me crazy...never paid child support, booked air flights at crazy inconvienent times, never followed through on his promises to her, etc but as she got older she saw it all for herself and finally realized why I had wanted the divorce. ;) And you will get your reward someday - I did...at her graduation party I was outside cleaning something up and he came out to talk to me and he got very emotional and thanked me for doing a great job on raising our daughter! It made my day knowing that he finally realized that I didn't have any help from him and that we had a great daughter! :thumbsup2

Now that is wonderful!!! What a feel good moment for you!
Have either of you ever had people say to you that you should have tried to work it out for the sake of the kids? I still sometimes get that.....and my answer is NO. Divorcing him is the best thing I did for me AND Ayden. His dad was cheating on me with a 20 year old he was working with. There was NO WAY I was going to stay with a man that I couldn't trust every single time he walked out the door. He goes in and out of phases where we get along great and take Ayden to dinner together etc etc...then there are times he withdrawls and wants nothing to do with anyone. Regardless..I have a son that knows he's loved so I guess it all balances out. I just am in awe of people that think we should have stayed together. I would have been miserable the rest of my life, and he obviously wasn't happy either, which would have been noticed by Ayden sooner or later. Why subject any of us to that?
 
Beth~ Thanks, I do get my breaks. My cousin will take them for the wknd when her BF's son is there. Or if I go on an adult vacay she will keep them if something comes up that dad can't. EXDBF he is great, he helps out a lot. He is a really great guy, we just don't click. But he loves my kids & my kids love him. It would be perfect if we could just click.

Very well said. I dread the day that Ayden grows up and realizes how little his dad did to help out. Everyone says Ayden will figure it out one day.....and I know he will but gosh I don't want my son to think his dad is a deadbeat. I guess the hard part for me is I work my hiney off and sometimes we go paycheck to paycheck...and he can survive just fine unemployed....uh hum, I mean working under the table and live just fine. You are so right about karma though...and his is coming.

I work my hiney off too! In the summer I bartend to pay for school, vacations & sports, and mostly I am just a workaholic.
Thanks, the sad thing is is that Kaeleb who is younger, figured it out before Jordan. Jordan always, always defends his dad. I just take a deep breath and again walk away.
There is this country song, I told him ya know this is going to be the kids someday, I think its, I wish I could have been there, by John Anderson.


I was the same way, I never said anything in front of her about her dad even though he totally drove me crazy...never paid child support, booked air flights at crazy inconvienent times, never followed through on his promises to her, etc but as she got older she saw it all for herself and finally realized why I had wanted the divorce. ;) And you will get your reward someday - I did...at her graduation party I was outside cleaning something up and he came out to talk to me and he got very emotional and thanked me for doing a great job on raising our daughter! It made my day knowing that he finally realized that I didn't have any help from him and that we had a great daughter! :thumbsup2

Ahhh that's great that he realized that!

Now that is wonderful!!! What a feel good moment for you!
Have either of you ever had people say to you that you should have tried to work it out for the sake of the kids? I still sometimes get that.....and my answer is NO. Divorcing him is the best thing I did for me AND Ayden. His dad was cheating on me with a 20 year old he was working with. There was NO WAY I was going to stay with a man that I couldn't trust every single time he walked out the door. He goes in and out of phases where we get along great and take Ayden to dinner together etc etc...then there are times he withdrawls and wants nothing to do with anyone. Regardless..I have a son that knows he's loved so I guess it all balances out. I just am in awe of people that think we should have stayed together. I would have been miserable the rest of my life, and he obviously wasn't happy either, which would have been noticed by Ayden sooner or later. Why subject any of us to that?

Not really. But leaving him before bad went to worse was the best thing I could do for myself & the kids.

We get a long for the most part. We take them to Silverwood once a year together. If we are in Spokane, we might go to dinner together with the kids. But I mostly only do those things so my kids can have good memories of their parents. Not just the fighting & yelling and crap. Laramie use to get so jealous. I just told him, its not about you, its about my kids. They come first, you either deal with it, or its just not going to work out.
 
Beth~

We get a long for the most part. We take them to Silverwood once a year together. If we are in Spokane, we might go to dinner together with the kids. But I mostly only do those things so my kids can have good memories of their parents. Not just the fighting & yelling and crap. Laramie use to get so jealous. I just told him, its not about you, its about my kids. They come first, you either deal with it, or its just not going to work out.

My DBF is understanding of it too, thank goodness. In fact, we invited Ayden's dad to come to DL on our Xmas trip. He was given 9 months of advance notice to start saving. Putting away 50 bucks everytime he does his shows wouldn't hurt him. I am not holding my breath....he can't save a dime. I just wanted Ayden to experience DL with his dad too. That AND....it's better than him one day taking him for a week on his own to go. I don't trust the man at all!
 
How is everyone today?

Sarah~ What kind of glasses did you choose?

Molly~ How is walking & E?

Capri~ How are you essay's coming along?

Tracey~ Hi!

Cheryl~ Are you still recovering from the wknd?

What's for lunch ladies?
I am having baked BBQ chips & Turkey sammie & Logic homework (I don't understand it).
 
I just dont' get it at all. Sometimes I feel like either be involved or completely removing themselves from their lives would be better. I call his dad the Am/Pm dad....the dad by convenience.

Geesh.. my sons dad was the same way. Now he doesnt even bother to show up anymore. Fine by me. We havent seen him since Alex's 5th birthday. No child support, nothing. Whatever.. My husband is a better dad to him then his own dad ever would have been. In fact...it had been so long since Alex had seen his dad, that he really though my dh WAS his real dad. That was a fun conversation. My dh and I have been together since Alex was 6 months old.. so he IS Alex's dad.
 
Good morning ladies!:goodvibes

I have read back a little and need to say hi to our newest ladies.

Hi Janelle, Kerri, and Laurie! :wave: Nice to meet you. My name is Melody.

Laurie, I'm pretty sure we met Sunday morning for Dole Whips! :goodvibes You and your DH are just wonderful for taking in all of these special children. :goodvibes

To the Moms with dead beat exhusbands. I'm sorry you have to go through tuff times with them. But it sounds like you all are doing a great job on your own, even though it is hardly fair. Your children will rise up and call you blessed some day, for all of your love and devotion you give to them. :grouphug:

Kelly, the pics are darling of your girls. The pics are making me hungry for some good ole cake! I hope things calm down in your area with this swine flu scare! Take care!:flower3:

Dawn, welcome back. I'm so jealous of you guys. Looks like you all had a great time together! I know it was hard to see you all, and not be able to see how things were going. But it was still fun to see you and your cute tees and flower crowns. Please get well soon!! :flower3:

To the ladies going to school. I don't envy you one bit right now. I bet it is getting intense with the year coming to an end. Essays......tests.......:sad2: Take good care of yourselves, eat well, and try to get plenty of rest! :thumbsup2

Tonight I'm trying a recipe from Giada DeLaurentis. Mustard glazed salmon. Then serving it with feta cheese, tomato couscous from Bobby Dean. (Paula Dean's son). I'll report back if the salmon is a winner. I know Beth will be chomping at the bit for this news! :rotfl:

I have yet to hear how you all did in the contest?

I know I am forgetting something. Oh well...............:upsidedow
 
Geesh.. my sons dad was the same way. Now he doesnt even bother to show up anymore. Fine by me. We havent seen him since Alex's 5th birthday. No child support, nothing. Whatever.. My husband is a better dad to him then his own dad ever would have been. In fact...it had been so long since Alex had seen his dad, that he really though my dh WAS his real dad. That was a fun conversation. My dh and I have been together since Alex was 6 months old.. so he IS Alex's dad.
Hi Megan!!
How right you are!!! :goodvibes
 


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