Girls Only Trip (old planning thread, see link to new one in 1st post)

[21yankees]

Hi all!

Callie I hope your dog is feeling better.

I love the tye-dye shirt option.

I remember both Double Dare and Fun House (I think that's what it was called)- that one was hosted by JD Roth. As a kid that show was touring amusement parks and I got to do one of the stunts. Let's just say I ended up having a balloon popped over my head that had a blue colored water/flour mix in it. It was very fun though.

Sounds like you all had fun at Cheryl's last night. Best of luck to the MA teams tomorrow.

Mary Jo that sounds like a beautiful present. Dawn you are such a sweetheart.
That video was great. Very smart penguin.

Okay that's all I can remember right now. I'll be on later after I get some chores done around the house. I did my exchange shopping this afternoon, it was harder than I thought. So many cute things but I wanted to stay in budget. Lots of ideas though for the next exchanges.

I hope you all have a great day.

steph

 

[Boo Bear]

What I wouldn't do to be online with you ladies all night... instead I have to write my 10 page senior thesis. Please pray for my concentration!

 

[grumpyvet]

AMYSUE!!!!

I have a veterinary question for you. Go ahead and start the virtual consultation clock.

Have you heard anything about the Nutro brand dog food? Our Maltese has been on the Lamb & Rice formula for years, but has recently been acting really sick, and I notice she's been refusing her food (we mix it with rice/ground turkey and Missing Link).

I just got an email from our dog agility group with a list of members who have sick dogs from the Nutro brand food. Seems like there is a small epidemic surfacing right now. Just wondering if you had heard anything about it? My vet is out of town until Monday, and I will make an appt. to take her in, but I am considering having the food tested.

Just curious if you have heard anything??

Thanks!

Callie,

I hadn't heard anything about problems with nutro, so I looked it up on my vet website, and there is nothing listed. So, if there is a problem, I am out of the loop!!!

I hope your dog feels better soon and it is nothing big!!!

AmySue

 

[grumpyvet]

Thanks for offering to do that AmySue! I'm sure who ever takes you up on your offer will make it worth your while.
Have fun at MA!!

I think I wrote that poorly. I have no intention of making a buck!! I just meant with the person buying the shirt, mailing it to me, me charging the minimal supplies, or even if I don't charge for the dye, and then shipping back...it will be more than the Etsy seller!! I don't know how she does it for that little.

Apparently I am in trouble for trying to sell on the Dis...and I AM NOT!!!!

Just trying to make it clear!!!

AMySue

 

[sahbushka]

Hey everyone...I have had a bad day...a really bad day. I feel like a complete failure as a mother. I just can't get my son to listen to anything I tell him. And since he isn't doing what he is told I end up having to physically make him or put him where he is supposed to be. I feel like that is not teaching what I want to teach and yet I don't know what else to do. I can't just let him get away with things. I am at such a loss. I have heard of a program called 1-2-3 Magic that I might look at closer. I have to do something. He is such a smart kid but such a frustration. I don't want him to grow up as someone who thinks he is above rules.

Sarah

 

[sahbushka]

Oh, and I hope everyone on MA is having a blast. It sounds like you guys were having a really good time last night!

 

[21yankees]

Hey everyone...I have had a bad day...a really bad day. I feel like a complete failure as a mother. I just can't get my son to listen to anything I tell him. And since he isn't doing what he is told I end up having to physically make him or put him where he is supposed to be. I feel like that is not teaching what I want to teach and yet I don't know what else to do. I can't just let him get away with things. I am at such a loss. I have heard of a program called 1-2-3 Magic that I might look at closer. I have to do something. He is such a smart kid but such a frustration. I don't want him to grow up as someone who thinks he is above rules.

Sarah

I know I have had days like this and I'm thinking other moms have too. I hope tomorrow is better for you both. I have heard of the 1-2-3 Magic program and that it has pretty good results.

steph

 

[disney-super-mom]

What I wouldn't do to be online with you ladies all night... instead I have to write my 10 page senior thesis. Please pray for my concentration!

Oh my gosh, you and me both! I have so much homework this weekend. It's the last week of my Com/516 class, so all of our big essays and PowerPoint project is due on Monday. I'm 3/4 done with everything I think. I'm actually having a beer right now while I'm working on it. Do you think that's a good idea?

I will pray for you.

 

[DangerMouse]

Callie,

I hadn't heard anything about problems with nutro, so I looked it up on my vet website, and there is nothing listed. So, if there is a problem, I am out of the loop!!!

I hope your dog feels better soon and it is nothing big!!!

AmySue

Thanks for checking, Amy! I've taken my dog off the Nutro, and am feeding her pure protein and grain for the next few days. Tonight she got boiled chicken and potato and was pretty happy about it.

I'll let you know if I find out anything more. But for starters, if you are curious, here's the long list of complaints against Nutro:

http://www.consumeraffairs.com/pets/nutro.html

I'm thinking of looking into a raw diet for Jovie. Still doing lots of research. . .

 

[disney-super-mom]

Hey everyone...I have had a bad day...a really bad day. I feel like a complete failure as a mother. I just can't get my son to listen to anything I tell him. And since he isn't doing what he is told I end up having to physically make him or put him where he is supposed to be. I feel like that is not teaching what I want to teach and yet I don't know what else to do. I can't just let him get away with things. I am at such a loss. I have heard of a program called 1-2-3 Magic that I might look at closer. I have to do something. He is such a smart kid but such a frustration. I don't want him to grow up as someone who thinks he is above rules.

Sarah

Big hugs to you Sarah.

We've all had days like that and it's just so draining and frustrating. You try whatever you think might work. I've never heard of 1-2-3 Magic, but if it sounds good, give it a try.

I have my own 1-2 3 program......it's called 1-2-3 You're Grounded.

I could ground them from T.V for the rest of the day, or from video games, or from playing with a favorite toy. I have to say it's worked extremely well for my kids. I very rarely get to three.

 

[MommyWithDreams]

Hey everyone...I have had a bad day...a really bad day. I feel like a complete failure as a mother. I just can't get my son to listen to anything I tell him. And since he isn't doing what he is told I end up having to physically make him or put him where he is supposed to be. I feel like that is not teaching what I want to teach and yet I don't know what else to do. I can't just let him get away with things. I am at such a loss. I have heard of a program called 1-2-3 Magic that I might look at closer. I have to do something. He is such a smart kid but such a frustration. I don't want him to grow up as someone who thinks he is above rules.

Sarah

((((( SARAH )))))))))
I completely understand what you're going through. My son was diagnosed with O.D.D (Oppositional Defiancy Disorder) The name pretty much speaks for itself. He does the opposite of what is ever asked of him pretty much. Every day there's a struggle. There have been times I can't even leave the house with him because of the acting out. He is 5 yet talks to me like he's 16. Jaws drop when we're out in public and he talks to me the way he does. Now for the positive side of all this............there has been a lot of improvement....it takes consistency and lots of it. It takes short boundaries, and few chances. I give him choices and he lives with them. I put the ball in his court a lot and he feels more in charge...little does he know that the two choices are things mom is choosing. I hope things get easier for you.....don't consider yourself as a failure though.....just by speaking out puts you at the top of your game. You obviously love him a lot or you'd just be throwing in the towel. Take it one day at a time............that's all you can do. I find myself taking mommy time outs and just crying to myself in my room wondering what I did wrong. Was it the divorce? What did I do? But then I am able to pull myself out of that and realize that this won't last forever and I'm doing the very best I can. It's funny how it's always the smart ones that seem to test their boundaries so much. They just have to see what they can get away with. How are things with your son at school? My son ...a different child. He LOVES school and asks if he can go on the weekends. We had the defiant stuff going on when he was in preschool but this year, when he finally began being challenged he really changed his focus. They really have to just find their nitch and realize more comes out of being good than misbehavin. Hang in there....you're one awesome mommy!

 

[MommyWithDreams]

Big hugs to you Sarah.

We've all had days like that and it's just so draining and frustrating. You try whatever you think might work. I've never heard of 1-2-3 Magic, but if it sounds good, give it a try.

I have my own 1-2 3 program......it's called 1-2-3 You're Grounded.

I could ground them from T.V for the rest of the day, or from video games, or from playing with a favorite toy. I have to say it's worked extremely well for my kids. I very rarely get to three.

Can Ayden come visit you??? When he was 3, I started the counting and he finished it off with 4 5 6...now what mom?

 

[prettyprincessbelle]

I have my own 1-2 3 program......it's called 1-2-3 You're Grounded.

My parents had that SAME program!

 

[bigskyernurse]

actually, we were thinking YOUR house might be the better venue for this! LOL

Ok, Ms. Wendy arrived at 11 p.m. to find me, Michelle, Dawn, Linda and Mary Jo having a festive ol' time. We're on our third bottle of Rosa Regale.

Just wanted to let everyone know that Wendy arrived safe and that we're having a great time but wish ALL our Diva friends were here!

Sounds like fun! Wish I was there!! And one of these days I need to try some of that wine. Sounds delic! Have fun at MA!

So far this is what we've decided.

We have six days, so we need six options.

Three days, we will all wear matching colors. (Looks like it will be lime green, blue, and red.) So you pick whatever style of shirt you want, tee, tank, sweatshirt, whatever, as long as it's red on the red day, blue on blue day, and so on.

Then one day we'll be wearing our old Tink tees from this trip. You can make one, we have the transfer image, or you can order one from Zazzle. IF you prefer not to have the Tink shirt, a plain white one will also work for that day.

So that's four days so far. One more day will be a tie dye day. ANY tie dye tee you want. If you already own one, fine, if not, you can order one of those Mickey ones, or go buy one at a store.

And finally we'll have one day with a brand NEW group tee that will be a design that we will vote on and make. So you can still make a design for that for us to vote on.


To break it down, it will look something like this:
Day 1 - Red shirts
Day 2 - Blue shirts
Day 3 - Lime Green shirts
Day 4 - New Group tee (to be determined)
Day 5 - Tie dye tee
Day 6 - Tink tee or white tee

Not necessarily in that order, we can worry about order late, but that's essentially what we are planning for now. I hope that helps.


I've got to hop in the shower now, talk to y'all later.

Love love love the tie die idea. I really liked the mickey ones we talked about doing on the last trip.

And Bridgette....the shirts sound confusing but it really isn't that bad. When there is a certain color day (i.e. red) everyone tried to wear a shirt in that color. Some didn't, and those who did really wore whatever style/shade they wanted to. Some had disney tees, some had solids, etc. Just helps identify Dis members in the crowds (and looks nice in pictures also).

The tink shirt was the one we all had made. Everyone picked their own style and some did an iron on others ordered the shirt made. I ordered mine and it wasn't much (less than $20 shipped).

We'll pick a new design this year and reuse the tinks. You can still have one done if you want, or you could just wear any white shirt, or anything you wanted.

Hope that makes sense. And by the time the trip gets here, we'll all be confused, so you aren't alone. Some printed out the daily schedule etc which helped. I was waking up each morning and asking Jane "what am I supposed to wear today??"

Hey everyone...I have had a bad day...a really bad day. I feel like a complete failure as a mother. I just can't get my son to listen to anything I tell him. And since he isn't doing what he is told I end up having to physically make him or put him where he is supposed to be. I feel like that is not teaching what I want to teach and yet I don't know what else to do. I can't just let him get away with things. I am at such a loss. I have heard of a program called 1-2-3 Magic that I might look at closer. I have to do something. He is such a smart kid but such a frustration. I don't want him to grow up as someone who thinks he is above rules.

Sarah

Sounds familiar. But you know it happens. And you ARE a good mother. Just the fact that you posted this shows that.

There are days when I feel like I yell more than talk. Hate that. BTW I have the "1,2,3 magic book" somewhere. It's basically setting limits, giving warnings (you tell them "that's one" for example when they do something they aren't supposed to, "that's two" if they do the same thing again, and the 3rd time gets the time out (or loss of privileges, etc). There's other stuff in there too but that is the basic premise.


Hang in there. Tomorrow is a new day. And you are a GREAT mom!

Big hugs to you Sarah.

We've all had days like that and it's just so draining and frustrating. You try whatever you think might work. I've never heard of 1-2-3 Magic, but if it sounds good, give it a try.

I have my own 1-2 3 program......it's called 1-2-3 You're Grounded.

I could ground them from T.V for the rest of the day, or from video games, or from playing with a favorite toy. I have to say it's worked extremely well for my kids. I very rarely get to three.

I like your program Capri!! This is what we do here too. It's usually loss of video games. Although my oldest is getting difficult. He will typically say "I don't care" when I warn him about what he is going to lose. He cares of course. But he has to act like he doesn't, and then whine and pout for the rest of the night when he loses it. Darn pre-teens!

 

[BillyFan]

Taco truck? Is that like those trucks that come to construction sites at lunch time to sell food? If not, I am not sure what that is either.

That's exactly what it is.

actually, we were thinking YOUR house might be the better venue for this! LOL

Ok, Ms. Wendy arrived at 11 p.m. to find me, Michelle, Dawn, Linda and Mary Jo having a festive ol' time. We're on our third bottle of Rosa Regale.

Just wanted to let everyone know that Wendy arrived safe and that we're having a great time but wish ALL our Diva friends were here!

Oh ladies, how I wish I was with you!

ok, I would be the one with the headache

Some of the Divas (not me) were up talking until 3 a.m. so needless to say, we're tired.

Linda left a little while ago to meet her DH and DD, Melody is already at DL and we're getting ready. Oh and the jello shots are made.

so, that's the update Divas--have a great day!

Have a fun day!

Hey everyone...I have had a bad day...a really bad day. I feel like a complete failure as a mother. I just can't get my son to listen to anything I tell him. And since he isn't doing what he is told I end up having to physically make him or put him where he is supposed to be. I feel like that is not teaching what I want to teach and yet I don't know what else to do. I can't just let him get away with things. I am at such a loss. I have heard of a program called 1-2-3 Magic that I might look at closer. I have to do something. He is such a smart kid but such a frustration. I don't want him to grow up as someone who thinks he is above rules.

Sarah

I'm sorry you're having bad day.


Well today we went to the Oakland Zoo to celebrate my niece's birthday and confirmation. It was a really nice day with the extended family. I had never been to that zoo before, and I have to say that it was really very nice. Very park-like.

Tonight we're just going to hang out at home, and then tomorrow I am meeting with my book club for breakfast. And then I have to shop for the exchange.

Is anybody doing anything fun this weekend? Must be, since it's been pretty quiet around here.

 

[cccdisney]

Hey everyone...I have had a bad day...a really bad day. I feel like a complete failure as a mother. I just can't get my son to listen to anything I tell him. And since he isn't doing what he is told I end up having to physically make him or put him where he is supposed to be. I feel like that is not teaching what I want to teach and yet I don't know what else to do. I can't just let him get away with things. I am at such a loss. I have heard of a program called 1-2-3 Magic that I might look at closer. I have to do something. He is such a smart kid but such a frustration. I don't want him to grow up as someone who thinks he is above rules.

Sarah

Sarah,
I feel your pain. My 3 yr old ds is the same way. My dh is out of town so I "attempted" to run an errand (to Wal-Mart) with the kids. Big mistake. He ran into the parking lot while unloading the kids from the car. He then threw a fit because I made him sit in the shopping cart (because he ran off). We never made it past the entry way of the store. We went back to the car which made him VERY MAD. I had planned on taking them to the park after Wal-mart, if they were good. That didn't happen of course.
It gets very frustrating, I know. Quite honestly at times it is harder to deal with him than his 5 yr old brother who has autism. Especially since I KNOW he knows better.
Becci

 

[jordansmomma]

Hey everyone...I have had a bad day...a really bad day. I feel like a complete failure as a mother. I just can't get my son to listen to anything I tell him. And since he isn't doing what he is told I end up having to physically make him or put him where he is supposed to be. I feel like that is not teaching what I want to teach and yet I don't know what else to do. I can't just let him get away with things. I am at such a loss. I have heard of a program called 1-2-3 Magic that I might look at closer. I have to do something. He is such a smart kid but such a frustration. I don't want him to grow up as someone who thinks he is above rules.

Sarah

Breathe...count 1000 and try it again...

No, but really, kids like to see how far they can push their parents.
Believe me, I have a 12 year old, who I am not sure is going to make it to 13

Big hugs to you Sarah.

We've all had days like that and it's just so draining and frustrating. You try whatever you think might work. I've never heard of 1-2-3 Magic, but if it sounds good, give it a try.

I have my own 1-2 3 program......it's called 1-2-3 You're Grounded.

I could ground them from T.V for the rest of the day, or from video games, or from playing with a favorite toy. I have to say it's worked extremely well for my kids. I very rarely get to three.

I do the same thing. I take away phones, T.V., video games ugh being a parent is hard sometimes.

Can Ayden come visit you??? When he was 3, I started the counting and he finished it off with 4 5 6...now what mom?

hmm..are our kids related?


I am beat. I have been going since 5:30 AM!!
Now I am getting ready for daddios birthday dinner. I really just want to crawl into bed and not get out!!

I hope you girls have a good evening.

MJ~ that was so thoughtful of Dawn! She is such a sweetheart!

 

[BillyFan]

((((( SARAH )))))))))
I completely understand what you're going through. My son was diagnosed with O.D.D (Oppositional Defiancy Disorder) The name pretty much speaks for itself. He does the opposite of what is ever asked of him pretty much. Every day there's a struggle. There have been times I can't even leave the house with him because of the acting out. He is 5 yet talks to me like he's 16. Jaws drop when we're out in public and he talks to me the way he does. Now for the positive side of all this............there has been a lot of improvement....it takes consistency and lots of it. It takes short boundaries, and few chances. I give him choices and he lives with them. I put the ball in his court a lot and he feels more in charge...little does he know that the two choices are things mom is choosing. I hope things get easier for you.....don't consider yourself as a failure though.....just by speaking out puts you at the top of your game. You obviously love him a lot or you'd just be throwing in the towel. Take it one day at a time............that's all you can do. I find myself taking mommy time outs and just crying to myself in my room wondering what I did wrong. Was it the divorce? What did I do? But then I am able to pull myself out of that and realize that this won't last forever and I'm doing the very best I can. It's funny how it's always the smart ones that seem to test their boundaries so much. They just have to see what they can get away with. How are things with your son at school? My son ...a different child. He LOVES school and asks if he can go on the weekends. We had the defiant stuff going on when he was in preschool but this year, when he finally began being challenged he really changed his focus. They really have to just find their nitch and realize more comes out of being good than misbehavin. Hang in there....you're one awesome mommy!

Excellent words of wisdom!

And Callie, I hope your doggie is feeling better!

 

[disney-super-mom]

Can Ayden come visit you??? When he was 3, I started the counting and he finished it off with 4 5 6...now what mom?

Sure! Send him over. But let him know I'm a serious 1-2-3er. When I get to 3 he's gonna lose a priviledge/toy that he loves. And if we have to do it again, he'll lose something else, and we can just keep going like that. And he won't get any priviledges/toys back, or any new toys/priviledges until he's displayed proper behavior for a day. I'm a BIG TIME meanie though!

Of course with me, Ayden would probably be a perfect angel. Kids are so funny that way. My nephew is a beast much of the time around his mom and dad, but when he's with us, he's such a good kid.

 

[sahbushka]

Thanks everyone...it really helps to hear your stories and know I am not alone in this. I am sure he will be a great adult and yet I am so worried on his surviving childhood!

And since we are talking parenting...how do you raise the kids, work, and keep the house clean as well as doing the "big projects" that always creep up...you know, working on the will, planning the kids B-day parties, landscaping, planting, and all the regular errands, grocery shopping, etc. And that isn't to mention the dentist and doctor appointments and someone is always getting sick and then you have to go through the closets because they grow so fast you turn around and they have outgrown their entire wardrobes. And in order to get it all done or even just the laundry you put them in front of the TV or a video game and then you spend the whole time feeling guilty for trying to take care of the house! I'm exhausted just thinking about it!

Sarah