Girl problems

[paintballer]

Hey
OK i am just going to jump in and tell my story

Here goes

one of my friends from church came over to my house one sunday
both our familys had beed kicked out of the same church because we went to another bible study
One sat night st the bible study she had her cuz with her and her cuz said that she liked me and i liked her (that is kinda true) so the next day they came over and we went up into my room and talked for like 2-3 hours she told me what her cuz told her and i said noway(i thought she would laugh) so later that night i relizad that i really did so i went and sent her an email(not the best way to send a confesion) she replied a day or so later and said we should stay as friends ad both our parents don't like the "boyfriend/girlfriend"thing and also so we don't hurt our friendship if we did "breakup" so know as both our parents know that i said that i can not get away to talk to her any more but now her birthday is in a few months and i have an old gold chain necklass i found at my old house and i thought of giving that to her as a birthday gift is that to bf/gf-ish or should i get her something else

Thanks for putting up with my long post

Paintballer
Ps
any help on when to ask her to a movie or and help at all whould be great

 

[paintballer]

Anyone?

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Aw, that's really sweet with the necklace!
But I think it's a bit girlfriend/boyfriend-ish to give her something that old and might have meaning.
Maybe go for something a bit more friendly, like a giftcard to a movie theater or a dvd or something that she's interested in.


As for the movies..why don't you just ask her to go to the movie's with you, and if she get's worried about the whole dating thing, just tell her it's just friends going to the movies?

Good Luck. :]

 

[paintballer]

Well first off thanks for the advice
second
is I am bad at asking people out and my parents whould probly kill me if i did ask her out and she did say yes but then that might be better LOL
Ya i thought that about the necklace
but i still might give it to her
but if i do ask her out it would be hard for me to get the money and to ask my parents or hers for a ride

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

Okay, well this sounds a lot like something that just happened to my friends. We'll call the guy "guy" and the girl "girl" (simple enough, right? :])

So, guy loves girl desperately (like every other guy in the grade).
Girl has a boyfriend, but's too flirty for her own good and leads guy on.

Guy gets her a necklace for her birthday with a nickname he calls her (DBaby) in a heart shape.
Girl realizes it must have been expensive, and thinks it's sweet of him, so she wears it everyday.

Girl's boyfriend doesn't find it as sweet, and there starts to be tension between guy and boyfriend, leading to tension between girl and guy.
Now things are awkward between girl and guy.

I'd say go with something more platonic. Otherwise, it's probably gonna get awkward.

 

[Addicted.to.Speed]

if you do end up asking her and your parents dont know and would be upset with it, i would strongly suggest telling them in a public place so they cant yell at you and than by the time you get home, your parents would cool down about it...hopefully

best of luck though! I know how hard it is to ask a girl out, you should set like a week to do it, not a day, so than you can try to build up the guts to ask her everyday and wait for the right moment

hope these tips help (if you need more of an explanation just ask)

 

[STOPxmickeytime]

Oh, OT but I totally thought this was referring to a different kind of "girl problems" when I saw this thread

 

[paintballer]

Ok any suggestions

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Oh, OT but I totally thought this was referring to a different kind of "girl problems" when I saw this thread

Same here.

 

[paintballer]

WEIRD
my only prob is i only see her 2 times a week sat and sun

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Why don't you call her up and ask her to hang out? You know, as friends?

 

[paintballer]

Thats the thing it would be hard to atleast at my house
My parents sit on the couch inless there is a whole sit between us
But we do on sat and sun atleast as much as we can
and night all i need some sleep it is 12:20am
well post any help and i will read tomorrow

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Well, take the sitting on the couch.
Watch a movie, talk, laugh, eat, and relax.
Enjoy each other's presence.


You have to start somewhere.

 

[paintballer]

So anyone having anymore advice

 

[mikeyandscoobyx2]

Good advice is right above post # 14.

 

[KitKat_Tink]

I don't know if this has already been said but to ask her to the movies make it more of a friend thing. Invite other people but make sure you invite at least 2 others...

thats kinda how me and one guy were...except now he has a girlfriend...

His reasons were the whole don't want to ruin the friendship thing. If you both like each other and can't date just hang out as friends until you can date...

 

[CastawayJ]

your brave for admitting your feelings to this crowd

(just kidding, you all give the best advice)

but I do know that a lot of guys wouldn't even start to talk about this stuff

 

[lewisgal]

Oh, OT but I totally thought this was referring to a different kind of "girl problems" when I saw this thread