Gift from MIL

[missj1975]

I don't have any good MIL stories because I have never been married. The only terrible gift I can think of the moment is for my 12 birthday my dad got me a birthday card that said "Happy 3rd Birthday."

I have a twin sister who is a littler closer to my dad then I am. One year (when we were way younger) he got her a boom box (popular present that year). I got a stuffed animal. Yep no favortism there. ***before someone jumps to my dad's defense, no he didn't buy it for her thinking we were going to share. Even though we were twins, no one expected us to share, we always got our own stuff. Everyone in the family did a great job making sure we got equal presents (except for my dad).

 

[mamalle]

wow on some of these mil stories OMG..

I really dont have any to add my mil is pretty generous and always gets the kids something from my suggestions. as far as me its usually something from macys since her hubby works there. I have received quite a few christmas lenox items, pots and pans, etc over the years, so I dont complain... but if I received a expired box of chocolates OMG that just wouldnt be right..

 

[jltwdw]

Now my own mother...she gives weird stuff.

I have to go along with this post. My MIL always just gives us cash , but 2 years ago my mom gave me a nice ring/jewelry box...inside was three Goobers (chocolate covered peanuts) stuck together in the shape of a Mickey head. She said she was eating them out of the bag and that one fell out all stuck together in the perfect pose...and she thought of me. I got other stuff too, but the Goobers are the only thing that I remember!

 

[stitchlovestink]

I have to go along with this post. My MIL always just gives us cash , but 2 years ago my mom gave me a nice ring/jewelry box...inside was three Goobers (chocolate covered peanuts) stuck together in the shape of a Mickey head. She said she was eating them out of the bag and that one fell out all stuck together in the perfect pose...and she thought of me. I got other stuff too, but the Goobers are the only thing that I remember!

I guess she knows how much of a disney nut (or should I say, Goober) you really are!

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

This thread just made me laugh hysterically. I can't wait to see what I'll get this year?

ditto! Whatever it is, as long as it's not cellulite cream or a facial hair trimmer, I'll be thankful now after this thread!!!!

 

[pigget74]

I have been married for 15 years and when we first started out based on how DMIL treated me while dating I figured I would never even be included in the family. She told some friends of ours when we came over that we had to leave because I was not allowed on their property--she thought that I was corrupting her son--lol. We still have our moments, but I know her heart is somewhat good. She loves her son and her grandchildren. She always ask what we want and gets just that---there may be strings attached, but we would not know until that moment comes. His grandmother was the weird gift giver---the year before she died she gave my nephew a mozart piano book--he was 4.

My parents do not go all out at Christmas I have 3 siblings who are all married and there are a total of 11 grandchildren. THey give each adult $50 and purchase something for the little ones and give cash to the older ones. Last Christmas my older two were so UPSET!!! They bought us a family gift a nice freezer that we needed and gave each kid $25. Well they then find out that she got all the other families Wii's. My odlest DS was like what the heck- I get a freezer and my cousin gets a Wii--she made up for it at their birthday--she got them the Wii.

Tacky or thoughtless DH gifts are for another thread!!

 

[pigget74]

This story will help see how my MIL is---The summer before Katrina we wereliving with her while our house was being built--it was a two fold reason: we needed a place for 5 mths and she needed financial help.

The Sunday before Katrina we were getting prepared--did not realize the seriousness of it until that morning considering we live 70 min. for the coast. We go out and try to get water, ice, ... She comes in with stuff she bought: ICE CREAM and MILK!!! Well on Monday morning the power goes out and she starts fretting and obsessing over the ice cream going to waste--insisting that we eat it at 9 in the morning--hello DD is allergic to milk--makes her stomach terribly ill when she gets to much---well I gave in and said that she could have a tiny tiny bit--I leave the room and MIL gives her an entire bowl full--I did not know this until I walked back in and was like why are you still eating--At this point we are without water and power and guess what DD gets sick--I send her to MIL's bathroom where she gets sick bad---I just look at MIL and let her clean it up and say--tiny means tiny not gigantic!!

She also during that time went to stay with SIL in another city since we had nothing, before she left she made sure to take anything out of the freezer that was about to thaw out---we did not know until that night that she had done that when we were getting together with neighbors to use our grill to cook our food!!!!Luckly the neighbors had more than enough--to me it was the principle of the matter.

Now when any storm comes our friends joke and say do you have your ice cream and milk!

 

[Green Tea]

My MIL gave DH a, umm, personal massager, several years ago. We just looked at each other as he opened it. Speechless doesn't even quite cover the look or the thought at the time.

 

[CruiseBoundnKY]

You have no idea how much this thread has really helped me.

Long story short...My dh is one of 3 boys and not the "golden child". Their "fav son" got married this year and his wife is expecting. The other son just had their 2nd baby days ago. So both of my SIL's were prego at the same time. Meanwhile I am dealing with the possibility of having a histerectomy soon and a bunch of other medical nightmares. Here they are having babies and I'm dealing with not having any more ever.

Well at Thanksgiving we were outed so bad we felt like strangers. I walked into the family dinner and wanted to cry. My sister died 10 years ago, my brother lives far away, so my dh's family is kind of the only family I know. It just sucks that they are treating us so badly.

I could really care less how many crappy gifts I get as long as they treat me and dh like they actually care about us.

These little stories will be my happy thought to get me through the day. At least I know others are more miserable everywhere; although for different reasons.

 

[pixiewings71]

I am divorced so take these gifts with whatever thought process you want to use in regards to the gifts my kids and I *the ex dil* received last night*

My kids went with ex-dh and his parents tonight for xmas since ex fil is a new long haul trucker and will be gone until Jan.So my dd gets a bottle of Pantene shampoo/conditioner, a kit of makeup *wrong type for her as she has skin allergy/issues*, opened chocolate bar and a box of micro popocorn.

Oldest son got PJ pants *girls in pink 4 sizes too small* I mean my 14 yr old son is rail thin but even he can't fit a size 2 in womens either in waist or in length as they look like "gay men" capris *no offense*and a 1/2 eaten symphony bar.

Youngest got a slingshot from nerf without any of the nerf stuff to go with it and a 1/2 drank Sobe.

Me.........they sent me their used phone book with my name highlighted in it like I don't know who I am???? Oh and a pair of peds used slippers. Just what a 38 yr old mom wants. Used peds and a used phone book. Good hell no wonder I'm happy single.

OMG, I'm dying over the pink pj pants!!!!! LOL And who gives opened chocolate bars?? WOW!!!!!!

We all laughed until we were sick when the boys got home and we compared crappy gifts 101. We took pictures of my son in his piggy pink too small,short jammies and laughed *even he did at 14* until we were sick

I think this is one of the worst gift years ever even when we were married the gifts weren't this "out there" but it did make me laugh and my kids laughed. It was funny!!!! If I thought my ex inlaws really hated me I'd be sad but I don't think they do............just financially challenged these days.

I'm so glad you guys laughed about it, that's the best part. They gave you the gift of hilarity!! Merry Christmas to you all.

I got a can of green olives once. Not anything fancy....purchased at the grocery store. Evidently I like the wrong kind of olives - the salty little cocktail ones, & MIL felt the need to expose me to her favorites (aka as the "finer" things).

Her gift giving talents have been passed down to her son (my dh). Last year he got me a laundry basket - this year I think I am getting a stew pot. He is ever a practical man & means well, but I really need to learn to be careful when I mention it would "be nice" to have something. That "something" ends up being my gift.

Next year, I plan to mention something in the sparkly category.

LOL Sounds like something that my ex step-MIL would do (the olives). Did you enjoy them? lol And at least your DH listens to things that would "be nice" to have. LOL I've been saying that all year and nothing....LOL To get things I wanted I had to fill out a wish list at VS and let him pick what to get me. LOL But, at least I know I'm getting great stuff and some great deals.

Although my ex was here on Sunday and had the kids the weekend before, he never took my kids Christmas shopping for me. Yesterday, DS (16) and DD (9) came to me and asked if I could take them to the bank and the store. They were upset and embarrassed. I took them to the store, gave them my debit card and dissapeared for a while. Essentially I bought my own gifts, but they were so excited. Someday they will understand that dad was either an @#% or cheap.

My ex's NEVER gave my kids money to buy me gifts, I have always given it to them, taken them shopping and just stayed away when they pay. DBF does take them shopping tho. LOL Yesterday there was a package delivered, it was from Disney Shopping.....when DBF got home he took the girls into the bedroom and opened it, I heard my youngest yell "PINS!!!" and then "shhhh" and some murmurs and then she said "Oh, nevermind, my mistake" God, I love that kid!!!!!

You have no idea how much this thread has really helped me.

Long story short...My dh is one of 3 boys and not the "golden child". Their "fav son" got married this year and his wife is expecting. The other son just had their 2nd baby days ago. So both of my SIL's were prego at the same time. Meanwhile I am dealing with the possibility of having a histerectomy soon and a bunch of other medical nightmares. Here they are having babies and I'm dealing with not having any more ever.

Well at Thanksgiving we were outed so bad we felt like strangers. I walked into the family dinner and wanted to cry. My sister died 10 years ago, my brother lives far away, so my dh's family is kind of the only family I know. It just sucks that they are treating us so badly.

I could really care less how many crappy gifts I get as long as they treat me and dh like they actually care about us.

These little stories will be my happy thought to get me through the day. At least I know others are more miserable everywhere; although for different reasons.

I'm sorry........

 

[briarrose]

These terrible MIL gifts are making me realize by DD's gift of a Webkinz from my MIL is okay just cheap. I am just hoping that she doesn't realize her brother's gift cost more than hers. My MIL is not thoughtless, but she is clueless. LOL

 

[mommytoone]

[Quote from pixiewings71 : My ex's NEVER gave my kids money to buy me gifts, I have always given it to them, taken them shopping and just stayed away when they pay. DBF does take them shopping tho. LOL Yesterday there was a package delivered, it was from Disney Shopping.....when DBF got home he took the girls into the bedroom and opened it, I heard my youngest yell "PINS!!!" and then "shhhh" and some murmurs and then she said "Oh, nevermind, my mistake" God, I love that kid!!!!! ]


How funny, that sounds like my DD. Last night her and DH were wrapping my gifts, and she comes and gets my earings saying "my you could use a new pair of earings". One year we got my DH tickets to the Cavs, and she said "Dad we did NOT get you Cavs tickets" gotta love it!!

 

[JandJ]

One year I got a broom and a copy of Wicked.

Plus some dessert scented bubble bath with a note: Thought you could bath in it instead of eating it.

OMG! That is SO awful!

I'm lucky that I have a very sweet MIL but she has no clue when it comes to presents. She just insists on getting us "something" and it's rarely anything we actually want or can use, so we end up donating it or selling it in a garage sale. Usually she asks me what she should get DH, and asks DH what to get me, but this year she never asked him about me so God only knows! I guess I'll find out tonight . . .

 

[Momma2dakidz]

I always used to tell people, pick something out and i am sure i will love it. (as i am very sentimental and hate gift cards) well after my third round with plastic avon CRAP. I just raved about how i LOVE gift cards now. LOL. so each year I now get eat n park and ruby tuesday gift cards. sighhhhhh..... i would love a gift card to an icecream place.

 

[permavac]

Wow...Both my mom and MIL ask what I want/need (which is usually nothing), but the one time I was very specific (books) they both got me something they "thought I'd like better." Oh well...

This is one of the classic MIL traits. The "you don't know enough to know what is good so it is better for me to choose for you" Before the falling out I had with my MIL, she would ask my DH what I wanted for Xmas or birthdays. He would tell her a specific item - like LL Bean slippers, this style, this size, this color. I never got what he told her - she chose what she wanted and I have either given all her gifts away to charity or sold them on ebay. I just don't understand how someone can think that they can pick a better gift for you than you yourself can?

...(and I am since happily divorced, and many of the reasons our marriage failed are to do with his mother, but thats a whole other thread)...

I'm sorry to hear that your MIL was successful in breaking up your marriage. This is another classic - the "I must still be the most important woman in my son's life and I will prove that by ruining his relationship with any other woman." I have to say how thankful I am that my DH chose me over his mother.

...Well at Thanksgiving we were outed so bad we felt like strangers. I walked into the family dinner and wanted to cry. My sister died 10 years ago, my brother lives far away, so my dh's family is kind of the only family I know. It just sucks that they are treating us so badly...

I am not being critical of you - everyone is allowed to do as they see fit, but I would never subject myself to their churlish company. I understand your desire to enjoy the holidays with "family" but to me, my husband is my family. We don't have kids, we haven't seen his mother or sisters since the "falling out" (but we do get together with his father on occasion), and we only see my family once a year or less. We see the holidays as a time for "our family" to be together. It's not about the numbers, it's about the love and it sure doesn't sound like you're getting any at your in-laws...

Good luck to everyone on here who have rotten MILs. For those of you that don't, consider yourselves very, very lucky . Happy holidays!

Terri

 

[budbeerlady]

Ok... I will preface this by saying that my MIL has retired to a tropical locale..... and she is the first one to say "Anyone want a margarita?". She visits us approx once every two years, so we don't get a lot of time with her, so she really doesn't even know me that well.

Three years ago I got a margarita set

Two years ago I got a coconut style bra thingy and grass skirt...

Last year I got a Santa style bra and panties set....

I'm thinking these are more gifts for DH than me.... I get a hoot out of it. We don't get to see her often, and she has a sense of humor and personality that can be described as "off center", especially by us New Englanders. She always sends a check for all of us for a "family gift" and gives our kids pjs and slippers and their own money. We also make sure that I open my gift while the kids are in the other room, because the past few years have made me a little nervous about what is coming this year!!!!

Sounds like something my Mother in Law would do for fun. I love her, we just had a great girls only WDW trip a month ago, but she loves to stir the pot a bit. I keep telling her lightening is going to strike her on Christmas if she doesnt behave, not that my sister-in-law doesnt bring it on herself. Atleast she does give us very NICE Generous gifts with the occassional verbal barb thrown in as they are opened.

 

[ajwomic]

Well from grandmother, I got a 1996 keepsake ornament....in 2008! (It said to my favorite teacher and had 1996 on the top of the ornament) And from my mother, a placemat that she want me to hang on my wall! She has already called to see if I have hung it up!!!!
Alicia

 

[Sunbeamblue2002]

Ok thank you all very much because now I'll be able to sit in a smoke filled room as my husband (not me its really his gift) is handed his yearly bag of crap. 10 dollar store candles and enough calanders to supply the Catholic curch. But at least I know I'm in good company.

Merry Chirstmas

 

[CruiseBoundnKY]

LMAO

Yes it does seem as we will have plenty of company

Let the fun begin...my mother will arrive in T minus 15 minutes.

Merry Christmas everyone. Just think happy thoughts of Mickey Mouse and Disney World with only the relatives we choose to take on vacations with us.

 

[disneymom3]

these stories are too much. The son in the pink capri jammies is kiling me!

My MIL is a wonderful wonderful person adn loves me and her grandkids so very much I know I am blessed. To say she dotes on her son is an understatement so that is awesome too. The only thing about gifts that drives me nuts is that she doesn't like to shop so she wants to give each person ONE gift but it HAS to cost in a certain range. The kids really really don't care how much something costs and it is HARD to come up with stuff as suggestions. For my boys I have just given up, but the pink pants now have me worried.