Update:
I had my baby just over a week ago!

So the car has been a pain in the but, but not the first thing on our minds! After some haggling with insurance by my husband, they did total my car. It was not their first offer, but the decrease in value was an issue for my husband and my insurance company is going to subrogate(?) to get the doctors insurance to cover the damages. I'm not sure how he got his way but he did. The amount they gave us for the car was more than fair so I was pleasantly surprised! The biggest issue has been trying to buy a new car with a newborn. We just haven't gotten to it yet! My dad is going to be here next week so he and my husband will go try to find another Escape. Probably a year or two old.
I have no idea what happened to the doctor. When I left for maternity leave she was still not back at work. I really don't care what happens to her at this point. Karma can have at it.