Fueding Friends

[tiggerlover]

My New Year's Eve party has been ruined. I have two fueding families that have cancelled on us (last minute) because they are having issues. So it looks like it will be DH, DS and I and one other family and a whole lot of food for New Year's Eve.

A little background on the fued.....18 months ago family "A" backed into family "B's" car. family "A" felt awful and wanted to pay to have the car fixed (dented the back of the SUV, needed to have panel pushed out), family "B" refused saying they were going to get rid of the car anyway, family "A" insisted and wanted to put it through their insurance company, still family "B" refused. Okay, fast forward 16 months and family "B" has severe hail damage to their car that the insurance company will pay to fix, so family "B" decides to get the old dent fixed at the same time. (It is assumed) that family "B" tried to have the insurance fix the dent in the back as part of the hail damage, but the insurance said no, so the cost was to be $300. Family "B" tells family "A", a couple of weeks before Christmas that he has decided to fix the dent (it is already in the shop being fixed) and he now wanted $300, right away. Family "A" is a little peeved because they offered to have it fixed 18 months ago and they refused and now it is too late to put through their insurance, and it is right before Christmas and they don't have the extra $300. Even though he is mad, family "A" said they would pay the $300, but couldn't do it right now because he didn't have the money. So now both families are upset and unless family "B" gets their money by tomorrow night they are not coming because it would be an uncomfortable situation. I think family "A" is being reasonable, taking responsibility after all this time and saying he will pay, just not right now. Anyway.......

I guess I am just unhappy because I was counting on 7 more people and have the food and now at the last minute they aren't coming. Thanks for letting me vent!

 

[KimRaye]

Ouch! Vent away!! B is not very nice! To even THINK of asking A to pay for this NOW, is outrageous! The fact that they held onto the car this long, is their problem. To go looking for money they previously refused is just totally crass and rude!!

Why won't A come to the party? That confuses me. They should still enjoy themselves. Let B stay home!


I know what you mean about parties and food and, people cancelling last minute. I have a SIL I'd like to "OUCH" one of these days!

A is way too generous, imo.

Happy New Year!!!

 

[tiggerlover]

Kim, family "A" doesn't know that the reason "B" isn't coming to the party is because they haven't paid them and I was asked not to tell them. So family "A" isn't coming just because they think "B" is going to be there and they would be uncomfortable. If I told "A" that "B" wasn't coming then they would want to know why and I am not in a position where I can tell them.

All around it just stinks and I am caught in the middle.

 

[KimRaye]

Originally posted by tiggerlover
All around it just stinks and I am caught in the middle.

You're right about that! Sorry. And, over $300? It's too bad.

Is it possible that B is just looking for his deductible to be paid for this hail damage? If so, I think B is still really unreasonable. Tell B to go ahead and sell the darn thing! Why did they decide to keep the darn thing anyway? Maybe ask B about that!

j/k, I know you don't need or want any more trouble with this.

Try & have a Happy New Year! We'll be here waiting for the leftovers! Have an online, DIS New Year's Eve party! I'm sure I'll be here!

 

[Gail T AGAIN]

Sorry that your plans were ruined. I wish you lived closer, I would have come over, I am staying home alone again this yr. That is to bad over something so small. To bad a friendship was ruined over such a trivial think in life, I feel for you, have a good night anyway, DO NOT let these other people make your New Year coming in anything less then a good night.

 

[tiggerlover]

Originally posted by KimRaye
You're right about that! Sorry. And, over $300? It's too bad.

Is it possible that B is just looking for his deductible to be paid for this hail damage? If so, I think B is still really unreasonable. Tell B to go ahead and sell the darn thing! Why did they decide to keep the darn thing anyway? Maybe ask B about that!

Kim, I was thinking that myself. Another reason the thought entered my head was because their other car just had mechanical repairs and guess how much that cost........$300. If I were family "A" I would ask to see the bill or receipt, but since I am the neutral party I am not saying anything.

Gail, if you hop on the next flight to Italy you should make it in time. We will have plenty to eat.

 

[Ranatra]

$300 is too small an amount of money to damage a friendship.
I think Family B is out of line for asking for the money 18 months after it happened. If they turned it down when family A offered to have it fixed, that should have been the end of it.

 

[Pooh93]

What a mess! That does seem tacky of Family "B". If I can stay awake, I'll be here on the DIS, so save some of the goodies for me!

 

[JohnTBap]

Oh boy. I'm sorry to hear this. {{{HUGS}}}