Friend needs help, I dunno what to tell him. Help!

[TheAmazingSpidey]

Okay, my friend is a shy guy, he hasn't even had a girlfriend yet. (And he's 15 .)

Anyways, I just got an IM from him, asking me for help. But I don't know what to tell him.

Note: # = Me
@ = Him

[Edited for language, and I erased the annoying times, as those are distracting.]

@: Hey man I need help
#: Hey...
#: What do you need help with?
@: I want a gf, man
#: ....
#: Go out and get one?
@: No man u know im too shy...and i don't know [$*#%] about dating, man
@: dude
#: What do you expect me to do?
@: idk
#: Well then...?
@: uhm tell me how to get one
@: howd u get urs
#: I told you
#: She's a friend of a friend. I started talking to her on myspace before I even met her, we hit it off, and then we just started going out.
@: dude i want one lol
#: I don't know what to tell you. Hold on a sec?
@: ok

And that's when I came here.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Um Okay well does your friend like anyone? Maybe if he does,you can help him and that girl get together?

Or introduce them.

 

[#1TiggerFan]

does he like anyone or does anybody like him?
if he likes someone then he should go for it
and if somebody likes him then he should just ask her!

 

[Princess Ash]

Ok, I hate to say this, but he sounds like my 12 year old brother who wants a gf just to have one.

You must have someone in mind.

You must like someone. You shouldn't just have a gf because she would be decent company or arm candy. And too bad if he is shy. If "she" doesn't know he exists, he obviously will not be able to date her. I am generally shy too. I find that note-writing helps. Leave one at the girl he likes' (IF he likes one) locker or something like that. Pass in class. A little immature, but if correctly-written, very effective.

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

Thanks for the replies, guys. I'll ask and then post what he says.

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

#: Back
@: ok. so
#: Well, do you like anyone?
@: well, yea, there's this one girl in a class of mine...
#: Ask her out.
@: what!!
#: ...You heard me.
@: no way man...i only talked to her like once
#: So?
@: well, she doesntt know me
@: so wouldnt it be weird for me to ask her out
#: I dunno.
#: Hang on.

 

[Lizbon]

You can't just ask someone out for the sake of having a girlfriend. And no offense, but the whole "(And he's 15 )" was completly unnecessary. There is no certain time you NEED to have a gf/ bf by. Tell him to get to know her first before asking her out.

 

[#1TiggerFan]

You can't just ask someone out for the sake of having a girlfriend. And no offense, but the whole "(And he's 15 )" was completly unnecessary. There is no certain time you NEED to have a gf/ bf by. Tell him to get to know her first before asking her out.

YAH! what she said

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

You can't just ask someone out for the sake of having a girlfriend. And no offense, but the whole "(And he's 15 )" was completly unnecessary. There is no certain time you NEED to have a gf/ bf by. Tell him to get to know her first before asking her out.

You're right. Sorry.


I'll let him know, then post what he says.

 

[catycatcat4]

not weird at all tell him to just do it start a friendly conversation then ask her out hten or the next day.

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

#: Back
@: lol where do u keep going
#: To get you help.
@: from where?
#: A forum
#: You mind?
@: lol no way man, idc
#: Okay.
@: s
@: *so
@; sorry
#: Well,
#: Before asking her out--
#: --you should get to know her first.
@: k...but how do I do that
#: I'll be right back.
@: lol ok man

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

Bump!

 

[Lizbon]

Just tell him to talk to her! It's the only way he can truly get to know her.

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

Just tell him to talk to her! It's the only way he can truly get to know her.

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#: Go talk to her.
@: but dude...wouldnt it be weird for me to jusst randomly go yup
@: *up to her and talk to her?
@: like i just cant go up to her and start a convo, man
@: id need like some way to get to go up to her or somethin...or an excuse or something
#: Hmm. Hold on.
@: lol k
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[Tinkerbell424]

How about he asks for help on his homework/classwork?

 

[DramaQueen]

Okay, so yeah, like everyone else said...you can't just DECIDE you want a girlfriend and then randomly pick a girl and decide to make her yours.

If he likes a girl in his class, he's going to look like a bit of an idiot if he just goes and asks her out...
so (unfortunatley for him) this is gonna take some time.
He'll probably want to start by talking to her more than once. hehe

Anyways...I know a BUNCH of my friend who are 18+ who haven';t had a bf/gf yet.
It's not a matter of time...it's just a matter of being ready and finding the right person.

 

[OneTreeHill]

hmmm. Maybe he can ask her about the homework for the class they have together. Not great, but maybe it could get something started.

 

[TheAmazingSpidey]

How about he asks for help on his homework/classwork?

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#: Ok. How about you go up to her and ask her for help with homework or classwork.
@: hmm...idk...
@: we never have hw in that class
@: lol i used that excuse to talk to her teh first time i talked to her
@: but classwork, maybe. she is pretty good at the assignments and stuff
#: That might work. You never know.
@: lol idk. maybe
#: When do you see her?
@: uh
@: second hour, but the teacher doesnt let us move around
@: thats the only class i hv her in, but
@: i've seen her walk to the bus in front of mine...and she has the same lunch as me?
#: Hang on, I'll go ask what you should do.
@: k
@: thx man


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[TheAmazingSpidey]

So--what should he do?

I do agree that it'd be weird to randomly go up and talk to her. He needs an opening or something.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

Hmm okay well if he like's this girl a lot then he needs to try and attempt to get to know her.

Maybe he can try to get a friend to introduce them and stuff? lol