I had the opposite experience. All my Disney friends kept saying, "I can't believe you haven't been to BoG yet!" So we made a reservations for our most recent trip (and even kept it for 5:00pm even though my extended family had a 7:45pm reservation at San Angel. So yeah, we ate two dinners....)
Anyway, we LOVED it. I didn't want to leave. We were in the West Wing with the thunder and such. I really liked it, and I've only seen BatB once, 20 years ago. My wife had to explain the plot to me because I had so many questions. Anyway, its a must do for us now, which is nice because my wife is nearly a vegetarian and finds most late-night MK food inedible.
I think you're on to something! I call for ending FP entirely. No FP+, no legacy. Instead, those who stay at Deluxe hotels near MK get express passes for MK rides. Those who stay at Boardwalk resorts get Express passes for Epcot and HS. Those who stay at Animal Kingdom Lodge get Express passes for AK.
Not staying in a Deluxe resort? Its okay...you can buy a limited Express pass for anywhere from 50-$100 depending on day and availability.
Personally, based on my touring style, I don't see a problem with this. Does anyone else?
We hear you're upset and I'm not trying to pile on. This question is more directed toward everyone who has posted a similar sentiment in the past 6 months:
Does it really take hours every day for 3 months to plan your Disney vacation?
I recently planned two days at WDW, 4 night
DCL cruise, and 3 days at WDW for June 13-21. This included 9 people total, 7 of whom had never been on a
Disney Cruise before; 2 people in their 70s, and 3 kids under the age of 10. Between my sister and I, it took maybe a couple of non-consecutive days to pull it all together. The following was planned:
1. A total of 3 resort stays using cash and points, separately.
2. Disney cruise for 9 with adjoining rooms, same dining, etc...
3. FP+ for 7-9 (depending on thrill) for Space, Thunder, 7DMT; Test track, Mission Space. FP+ for 2 for TSMM, GMR, Tower (which I did not and will not ever go on

7DMT, Pan, Pooh; Maelstrom, Soarin' and Spaceship Earth.
4. ADRs for 2 at: BoG, Beaches and Cream, Sanaa; ADRs for 7 at San Angel; ADR for 6 at Via Napoli (one week in advance...local friends joined us.)
Those are just the things we had to plan in advance. Doesn't count the general touring plan or account for inevitable afternoon storms and child meltdowns.
Again, we're all sorry that you and others experience difficulty, what's happening that it is taking so long to plan for some and so little time for others?
I don't know the numbers, but using anecdotal evidence: On my last trip, every time we were early for a FP time, we'd stand by the "gate" for a few minutes.
Every 30 seconds, someone would approach the CM and ask "Where do I buy a FP for this ride?" or say "Hi, I'd like a FP for this ride." And the CM would calmly (and for the 20th time that hour) explain the FP system to the guest and directly them to standby.
Anyway, this happened at an alarming rate. Like literally every 30 seconds. I was ready to smack these people after the 5th time...I can't imagine how the CM kept their professionalism. I think regardless, a decent number of guests just aren't going to plan. They are the same guests that never knew there were FPs you could pull. Disney know their numbers, and we've all heard the rumors, but there is a large contingent that doesn't know about or use FPs and never has.