forgiving others

[LuvOrlando]

husband was arrested changes everything

 

[Savikins]

My biggest problem is not forgiving others. I've had people do some pretty mean intentional things to me, and I've forgiven them only for them to do those same type of things again.

I guess I just always feel like people are goo at heart and deserve a second (or 3rd.. or 4th.) chance.

 

[agnes!]

In my opinion forgiving does not mean forgetting. It means you don't hold on to (or dwell on) the anger about whatever happened, that you don't seek revenge, but it also means that you get smart about not being hurt again, kind of a "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" way of looking at the situation. Just because you've forgiven someone doesn't mean you suddenly get stupid about their true character or their motivations.

agnes!

 

[HOGFAN]

oh man, new info...the reason she was texting me and 'congratulating' me on getting my 'revenge' is because her husband was arrested monday and faces 10 years in prison. boy do I feel bad now....they have a 2 y.o.

 

[cm8]

oh man, new info...the reason she was texting me and 'congratulating' me on getting my 'revenge' is because her husband was arrested monday and faces 10 years in prison. boy do I feel bad now....they have a 2 y.o.

Please don't take this the wrong way but are you losing it because her husband got arrested? Please tell me that you don't blame yourself for her mess. What is happening to her is called Karma or what ever you want to call it. When you do harm to others it comes back to bite you and from the sound of it......it is smacking her in the forehead. Her issues are not your issues and you need to let it go. Any friendship that causes you so much emotional instability is not a friendship. Ties needed to be cut long time ago, this is so not healthy for your state of mind. Let her go, and if you believe in God, turn her and your relationship over to him and let it be. Real friends would not cause you pain. She clearly is reaping what she sew!

 

[HOGFAN]

the odd thing is...the reason I fought for the friendship in the first place is that I had an intuition that something was gonna happen to her and she would need me. Even when everyone around me was telling me to let it go, something told me to hang on. I even told another good friend and my family that something was gonna happen to her. I didnt know when or what.

 

[bettymae1121]

I firmly believe in forgivness for many of the reasons already posted. That said... I also think that we do have a right to feel hurt/sad/upset/angry for a little while. Not forever, not so much that it consumes us and takes over our lives, but I do think when someone hurts us it's okay to be angry about for a time.