Final Update - I Hope

[jcsbama]

Patti, that was very good news. Your husband saw how hurt you were and I think it says alot about how much he loves you that he took the blame while talking to the other lady.

 

[RNMOM]

Patty,
Thank you for letting us know how things worked out. I just wanted to say he did a really good job showing you how much you mean to him. He could have taken so many different routes but he did what he needed to do to show you how important you are to him. I think you have a pretty terrific husband there. Many men would not be willing to do that for their wives. I also think you handled yourself well as you let him know what you needed from him. Time will make things easier but you both obviously have a lot of respect for each other. Way to go.

 

[mickeysgal]

I just wanted to say he did a really good job showing you how much you mean to him. He could have taken so many different routes but he did what he needed to do to show you how important you are to him. I think you have a pretty terrific husband there. Many men would not be willing to do that for their wives. I also think you handled yourself well as you let him know what you needed from him.

Yes, I agree. It is impressive that he was willing to do whatever it took to correct the situation. RNMom is right...not too many men are willing to go to this length.

 

[lucyanna girl]

I'm so happy for you.


Penny

 

[Octoberbeauty]

I'd so glad that you got some resolution and quickly! Sounds like she was going the wrong direction, but he really was clueless. Hugs!!

 

[Seahunt]

Oh, this brings back memories of something that happened years ago to my aunt and uncle. My uncle was a volunteer manager of a youth runners/track team group, and started getting extra "friendly" with one of the other mothers in the group.

My aunt confided in me, and was worried about how close they seemed to be getting - for example, finding cards in his office that the other lady had sent to him,etc. She wasn't sure at that time how far things had progressed, but it just made her feel "icky". She asked for reassurance from my uncle, and he just kept saying that they were just friends. Finally my aunt called the "friend's" husband, and he agreed that his wife and my uncle seemed to be growing just a little TOO close, and so they both talked to their spouses and told them the situation was getting out of control in regards to how it made my aunt and the other husband feel - not that there was actually anything going on???, but....

All contact stopped immediately after that - I don't know if both agreed 100% (or if she ever tried to keep it going), but it ended on his side right then. I do remember how upsetting it was for my aunt, and feel for you. Just remember that "it takes two to tango", and if your DH won't "dance" with her anymore, nothing will happen in the future!

 

[Pam]

I'm so happy that you are back on track but if you do ever need a cast iron skillet, I have one that was passed down to me for the sole purpose of keeping a man inline. it's worked for many generations

HEY! Now just wait a cotton pickin' minute! Is that my possum frying skillet you're trying to lend out??

Seriously, Patti, all sounds good to me!

 

[Stepharoonie!]

 

[Kitty 34]

I'm glad you and DH are working this out.

 

[grinningghost]

Oh, I have a question...it may have already been answered. Is she married also, or single?

Divorced I believe. I did hear she had a boyfriend a while back, but I think that's over. She also has a little boy.

 

[grinningghost]

Just curious, did DH know you were listening to the conversation?

Yes. I insisted on it. He called from his truck on the cell phone and turned the earpiece volume up - I heard every word she said.

 

[grinningghost]

I also have to add that since "the phone call", he has been burning up his text/phone minutes on ME.

I think he called me at least 3 times today and texted me a few more. I explained that every minute of time he was using on texting her or calling her, was time taken away from the person who really deserved it.

I think he got the message loud and clear.

 

[floridafam]

I'm so glad to hear from you. I have been thinking about your situation for days.

I'm so glad things are on the right track.

 

[mickeyfan1]

I had read all this last week and did not comment. I am glad that things turned out the way they did. Not all men cheat. not all men realize that having a female friend can look bad, not all men see things the way their wives do. Your husband certainly is a smart one. He didn't see what he was doing was hurtful to you, but once he found out, he fixed it. So nice to read this kind of outcome. And I also have to say that if the "Jilted one" decides to talk about it at work, she will look bad for sure. Hello, he is married and has no business texting you or calling you. Get over it and find a single man.

Patti, enjoy your life, hug that man!

 

[grinningghost]

I had read all this last week and did not comment. I am glad that things turned out the way they did. Not all men cheat. not all men realize that having a female friend can look bad, not all men see things the way their wives do. Your husband certainly is a smart one. He didn't see what he was doing was hurtful to you, but once he found out, he fixed it. So nice to read this kind of outcome. And I also have to say that if the "Jilted one" decides to talk about it at work, she will look bad for sure. Hello, he is married and has no business texting you or calling you. Get over it and find a single man.

Patti, enjoy your life, hug that man!

Thanks.

 

[Keli]

I'm so glad to hear this, it's the best ending to that situation that you could hope for IMHO. Sounds like your dh handled it in a way that would show the most love and respect for you and clearly let her know that he's 'taken'.

 

[laura001]

Good for you for being able to stand up through all of this. It sounds like things are back on the right track. Remember....sometimes good people do stupid things!

 

[helenabear]

I am glad that things worked out for the best for you. I do hope you never have reason to worry again. It sure sounds like he wanted to fix everything to make you feel better.

 

[Serena]

 

[Mimi Q]