February 10 - Let's Talk... Negativity
How do you rise above Negativity?
Question of the Day
How have you managed to overcome negativity from friends, family or even yourself?
Share a story of how you rose above it and persevered.
If you haven't yet, tell us how you want to!
Bonus question: What is your least favorite ride at a Disney park.
Negativity comes primarily from myself...... but it also comes via a back-handed route from DH. Nothing intentional, but his continued drive to lose weight via the Atkins program and making comments about how important it is to eat low carbs and he could "never" eat "just XX SmartPoints". He is definitely one of those people who believes that there are only two ways to do something.... HIS way or the WRONG way.
That being said, I lost my weight and have kept it off for 9 years.... so I let my success speak for itself and I try to let the comments roll away. DD made a good point recently.... he will probably NEVER agree to follow Weight Watchers because of the fear that he won't be successful and as such I will "beat him" at it.... he is VERY competitive and seems to view everything in life as a competition. That makes me sad because I truly believe he could be VERY successful on the plan.... and he has a built-in successful meal plan already because everything I cook is WW friendly.
BONUS: Well..... I love Expedition Everest, but like Courtney mentioned, it gives me a terrible headache! I have narrowed it down to the "backwards in the dark" section that causes me to feel very motion sick. I can ride it once.... twice even, and be okay..... but by the third time (within a short period of time) and I feel sick the rest of the day! I cannot ride the Teacups (even though they are adorable) and haven't ridden Dinosaur since my kids were very young (too scary). Primeval Whirl I find to be kind of useless (as I believe that entire Dinoland area of AK is), and rough with minmal theming. But I ride it if my kids request.
Another great question! Like
@piglet1979 I haven't really run into too much negativity. Probably the closest I have is my mom. She really doesn't try to be and would love for me to lose weight. Right now, we're probably close to the same weight, but we carry it differently because I'm taller and (obviously) younger. For awhile we could share tops and now that I've lost a little, she still keeps buying me bigger tops and kind of indicates that I'll be back in them or something along those lines. Like I said, she's not trying to be negative, but it comes off that way. I can put up with it though because I know she loves me and means no ill will! Otherwise, everyone's pretty supportive. I don't like to talk about it - I feel like I jinx myself or something if I mention it.
The only ride I can think of at Disney that I don't like is the Stitch ride (if you call it a ride). When we rode that, the kids were half scared to death. They didn't like it at all, which in turn made me not like it too much either!!
Just thinking out loud here..... maybe Mom is afraid that if she buys something for you that is too SMALL that will discourage you or send you a message that you are "bigger" than you think. Maybe she thinks that if she buys something too big that will encourage you to keep going. I know know that maybe that sounds counterintuitive but as someone who is always trying hard to be ENCOURAGING to those who are losing (or trying to lose), sometimes it seems like no matter WHAT you say or do, it comes off "wrong". Glad you can still feel her love though.
I hate Everest too! I got a bad headache and I also can't do any of the big roller coasters now that I'm getting older.
Stitch is terrible. It's such a torture ride. Whenever I'm on the People Mover I shout down below "Don't do it!"
I don't do Dinoland either. I like the Animal part of Animal Kingdom better!
Sounds like we have very compatible opinions about Animal Kingdom. I can remember visiting Dinoland for the first time and thinking "WTH Disney???!! What were you thinking?". I think it is terrible.
In my weight loss process, I've had a LOT of support from friends and family. But I've experienced negativity in my running. My brother is a sub-2 hour half marathoner and I'm at about 2:52 right now. He says I'm slow and won't be able to finish the Dopey Challenge because I don't have the stamina. And a part of me is concerned that he may be right!
I want to prove him wrong. Ugh!
Bonus questions:
- Magic Kingdom: Stitch
- EPCOT: Figment
- Animal Kingdom: Everest
- Hollywood Studios: The entire park
- Disneyland: Space Mountain
- California Adventure: California Screamin'
- Disneyland Paris: Indiana Jones Roller Coaster
The best revenge will be proving him wrong and FINISHING the Dopey challenge! I know that nothing short of an injury will keep you from finishing, even if you have to crawl across the finish line! But seriously? You don't like California Screamin'? I love that coaster!
I was very small size teen and when I finished university and my masters and moved to Ireland gained little healthy weight. My father did not understand that I am not child any more and made negative comments about my weight. He was obese, and even at the time i was at the bottom range of healthy weight. It upsetting me for years and after I become a mother I put my foot down and I said if he wants part of my family this needs to stop now as I don't want my son to witness this. We didn't got chance to make it better unfortunately
Often time people that make comments have their own issues. People get stuck with their own ideas. I had soup and one slice of wholegrain bread in work one day for my lunch. A friend came and told me that I shouldn't eat carbs, they are bad for me. I told her, no, no - they are great for me! Few minutes later she told me she is so tired all the time. My response - get use to it! If you are going to label food groups bad you will likely be tire and cranky often! lol she laughed if off. She was begging for it after being so judgmental to my 1 slice of bread
The issue with that is, what if a person is actually suffering from illness. Will they be able to brush off the negativity so easy? Will they worry if in fact they are doing something bad for themselves? I wasn't right to tell her that. While I don't know of successful long term low carb maintainer, I herd they exist and it suits some people well. I didn't mean to be mean, but I wasn't happy with being judged for my food choices either.
This friend goes on and off on paleo type diets, and the comment had nothing to do with me. It was all about her own issues and ideas. She is awesome and good friend. I try to not be judgmental to others, and dont give any negative feedback on ways of eating they want to try unless they ask for opinion
Glad you realize that her issues are really with HERSELF, not really with you. It is like when DH makes a comment about how I "can't" eat XX because it has so many SmartPoints. Ummmm.... honey? I CAN eat XX..... I just choose not to use my SmartPoints that way. My eating plan doesn't restrict me from eating ANYTHING!
February 11/12 - Free Chatter About Disney
This weekend is about planning your upcoming Disney trip and making smart choices.
Let's talk about your food and park time. And how the price increase is affecting your trip plans.
Well.... part of me wants to say I cannot talk about it because I am sad that I have no trips, even in the dreaming stage (well, that's not totally true. DD and I have a plan to visit during the 50th anniversary of WDW.... we even called for hotel reservations already, but they aren't opened up that far ahead yet).
Food and park time.... park time is the #1 most important thing when I visit. My visits are short and I need to make the most of them! We go full-bore commando style. I rent a car because waiting for Disney transportation takes up too much time! I stay onsite, even if the budget is tight, because I want to take advantage of every minute of every Extra Magic hour. I will even buy a park ticket for a half day (arrival or departure day) because I can definitely make the most of it.
That being said, for the most part sit-down restaurant meals are a waste of my precious park time. As such, my list of restaurants that I've eaten in on Disney property is very short. The only exception is character meals and/or early morning breakfasts. I LOVE meeting characters and sometimes a character meal is the most efficient way to do that. And if that character meal can get me in the parks before official opening time or keep me in it after closing, all the better!
Obviously the price increase isn't appreciated, but it won't stop me from visiting.... but it means I will have to work a bit harder to save for those precious park tickets.
15 minutes of walking in which 20 house laps were completed for Saturday.
I am not going to have an correct number on how much I have lost this week because of scale difficulties. I got on my scale I have been using this morning and it read that I had lost over 8 pounds in a day-while that would be great I didn't think it too realistic so I dug out my other scale which was turning off before I could step on it half the time and it read a number that was 22 pounds heavier. Since I had some other things to pick up at the store I headed in before things got too busy making sure to only drink water while I was gone so I could get a weight when I got home. I was able to find the battery size for the one scale I would rather use since I keep it in my linen closet tight up against the wall where if you don't know it's there with the way lighting is in my bathroom your not going to easily find it. Reason I have a 9 year old who loves to play around with my scale-never mind that there is an older style non memory digital one in the other bathroom that she can use it is more fun to mess around with the settings and push buttons. The number I am starting over with is lower than my original starting number but is higher than my number for the end of January though I am thinking that my numbers may have been off for a while.
Sorry you are experiencing scale frustrations. I have actually bought DD 3-4 scales in the past year because it seems they are constantly acting wonky! If you step off-on-off-on-off-on, it shouldn't give you a different number each time!!
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Hey friends! Home AGAIN today thanks to the snow! We had about 12" in the past 24 hours. It has stopped falling but now the wind is kicking up in a big way.
I gave in to some "comfort" eating on Saturday..... I had errands to run and I had a bad headache AND of course my stupid face was hurting (from the burn) and I was having a big pity party over all this. I started with 3 Hershey kisses (and I will admit, the sugar definitely helped with the headache) and then had a handful of potato chips for lunch (not WITH lunch... FOR lunch
). In hindsight I did go over my daily SmartPoints (I refused to give up a healthy dinner just because I made a bad lunch choice) but was forgiving of myself and had a great on-plan day yesterday. I think that that has been my biggest change in the past 9 years.... learning to forgive myself for bad choices and to start fresh with the next meal.... and to NEVER give up!
Okay.... I'm off to see if I can get some extra hours working online for WW today.... I got 3 extra hours last night and my paycheck will appreciate that, as I have missed 4 days of work at school and 3 WW meetings in the past 2 weeks, due to the weather!.................P
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