Wouldn't it be so nice if we all just assumed the best of each other rather than calling each other's questions absurd? I'm a fairly frequent Disney-goer, and I've never thought of this issue of toddler fast passes. The reason I asked the question is because as a family vacation, everyone has things we want to do. Of COURSE we can stand in standby, and of COURSE we want to see our child have fun with the characters. But my husband also wants to ride the mountains. Most likely what we will do is that he'll use his fast passes for the three mountains (so that he doesn't waste precious time that he could be doing things our daughter can do) and I'll match mine up for character meet & greets with our 3yo. But given the choice to FP Anna & Elsa with just me or to stand in line for 120 minutes so that my husband can do it too, I'll pick the quicker line. And I'll be thinking about what's best for my kid the entire time. I wasn't trying to game the system or not do my research.
I've never asked a question on this forum before, but honestly I'll think strongly about finding a more welcoming and friendly spot to find Disney info. The condescending tones often found here are just so disheartening and really un-magical.