Facebook friends request....ugh

[Imzadi]

It is posts like this that keep me from joining Facebook.

Me too! Someone was really pressuring me to join. Frankly, I think it was more about her getting affirmation that she is doing the right thing, than it is about me. I have no interest and find no value (for me) to join. What Kickapoo Joie Juice said about figuring out all the settings sound like a lot of work for me. Time, better put to more productive use for me.

I think only the young teens are concerned about the 'high friend count'.. I have quite a few friends on mine...but they are mostly family,friends, coworkers and some DISers - No 'strangers'....

No, it's not just teens. I get email requests all the time from people I don't know. Adults too, want the significance of having a lot of friends. fans, peers on their lists.It's their way of saying, "Look at me, at how important I've become."

I accept almost every friend request and I'm so glad I do! Usually I'll keep them on there a couple of days to see if there is some sort of connection, and then if there isn't, I restrict my information. It's also not that I want a ton of friends, but I play Mafia Wars and you need a lot of people to be successful at it.

Are you able to open two accounts? I'd have one just to play the games and a different one for personal real friends, if possible. I have several Gmail accounts. I use them for different things. It's like being able to sort and organize online effectively without needing to manually go in and sort people, stores, organizations & private correspondence out.

 

[raysnkaysmom]

700 friends? That is nothing, I was just on my old roommate's facebook page and she has over 1000 friends. Funny thing is she probably is friends with/knows all of them...she was involved in so much in college and is in the Air Force so she's all over the place.

And I see someone just posted this but you can make your profile private so people can't add you and such.

Oh yeah, did anybody else see the article a few weeks ago about the guy and girl who met on facebook and got married? Apparently the girl did a search for people with her same name, found some guy, messaged him, and the rest is history! Crazy.
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/n/a/2009/07/20/national/a120446D30.DTL&tsp=1

Sorry for getting off-topic...

Cool story

 

[Linzybrooke]

I always get friend requests from my students, which I refuse. I always tell them on campus that I am their teacher, not their friend, and as flattered as I am that they want to "friend" me it isn't appropriate. Do they really want me to know what they are up to all the time? I certainly don't!

 

[Fire14]

When I request friendship of someone I put my dis name in request.I've only had 1 deny me and she told me why and I understand.

 

[bettyann29]

Ive recently gotten into Facebook and really enjoy it.. I mainly friend people here on the Dis and family members and friends..

I did recently come across quite a few people from high school and friended them.. they were all people I talked to in school but lost touch with over the years and its been nice reconnecting and talking here and there..

Other than that I dont think Id want to friend anyone..

 

[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

Like any tool, Facebook can be used for good or evil. Or stupidity .

For me it's a good way to stay in touch with family-very easy to see all their pictures and we all mock each other when we put up old family photos.

It took me about 30 minutes to dial down all the settings so we are the ONLY people seeing and mocking each other in our 80's high school garb.

It's a good support mechanism, as well, one of my relatives is going through a divorce and we all post back and forth to support him and give him help when he needs it.

It's the next best thing to all being together...

 

[Octoberbride03]

I love the friend requests from people I don't know. My HS graduating class has a couple of members on FB that are way too young to have been in our class. I keep getting friend requests from them and I just ignore them. I finally got fed up with the requests from women I don't know. If they have photos in bikini's or less I report them. I'm sure DH would love to have those friend requests but don't send them to me

OMG I got 2 requests like this a couple of months ago. I actually started semi-searching for them b4 I realized they let me see their Birthdays. They were 10 and 11yo when I graduated I really don't think so

 

[Scurvy]

I love Facebook, but I never friend anyone that I don't already know. If I want to interact with random people I don't know I use Twitter or message boards or other places where I don't use my real name. I don't want random people knowing as many details about me as I put on Facebook.

Are you able to open two accounts? I'd have one just to play the games and a different one for personal real friends, if possible. I have several Gmail accounts. I use them for different things. It's like being able to sort and organize online effectively without needing to manually go in and sort people, stores, organizations & private correspondence out.

I know a few people with more than one account, but you aren't supposed to do that. I have heard that Facebook is cracking down on that now, and I do know one person whose account was deleted because he had more than one.

 

[Kathi OD]

And stay away from farmtown, it's like crack for suburbanites.

too true! who'd have thought?

ETA:

Here, I highly recommend this website, it teaches you quickly and easily how to protect yourself from unwanted weirdness on Facebook:

http://www.allfacebook.com/2009/02/facebook-privacy/

thanks for the tip!

 

[Imzadi]

And stay away from farmtown, it's like crack for suburbanites.

ETA:

Here, I highly recommend this website, it teaches you quickly and easily how to protect yourself from unwanted weirdness on Facebook:

http://www.allfacebook.com/2009/02/facebook-privacy/

Thanks, I missed the link the first time around. I'll have to look it over. I wouldn't mind joining in on Farmtown & the Mafia Wars. They sound like fun. But, I want to avoid all the weirdness. I don't really want anyone from high school contacting me. It was a horrible time for me. I don't want to be in contact with any of them now. And living in a big city, I get my share of meeting weirdos. I don't want them following me around online.

 

[RitaZ.]

It is posts like this that keep me from joining Facebook.

Same here!

One of DH's friends keeps asking him to join FB. DH isn't interested in joining and has told him so. Now his wife sent me an email asking me to join FB. I know them, but I don't have a close relationship with them. Even if I did, FB doesn't interest me.

 

[wdwgirl03]

I always get friend requests from my students, which I refuse. I always tell them on campus that I am their teacher, not their friend, and as flattered as I am that they want to "friend" me it isn't appropriate. Do they really want me to know what they are up to all the time? I certainly don't!

OK, that is creepy, I am a teacher and don't think I could ever add a student as a friend. Granted I teach elementary school so if any of them had facebook pages something is wrong!