FaceBook -ever deny a friend request?

[Octoberbride03]

Every now and again I'll ignore somebody.

Some recent ignores include a woman who was apparently new to FB. She wanted to friend me simply because we live in the same city. That's nice. And I'll see here when

Just the other day by a guy who had a beard like Grizzly Adams. No idea why he asked.

And 1 sitting the friend request que for eternity. A guy I went to HS with but we never noticed each other then. He's been kind enough to tell me we were in Homeroom together and he walked behind me at graduation. I've already ignored him once but he asked again. My theory is if he's still sitting in the que then he can't ask again. I remember Homeroom. It was 6-7 minutes long and I spent it trying to either wake up or grab 1 last nap. I didn't talk to ANYBODY in there. I have 1 FB friend from HS and we went to grade school together, that's how she got on my list.


And for the record I have been ignored by at least 1 person I submitted a request to. Either that or she never FBs. Her choice, doesn't bother me at all. I'm still trying to figure out how the 100+ friends i have on there

 

[Sparx]

i get random middle aged men in india (with no mutual friends) friend requesting me. uh, no thanks. how do they even find me!? do they just send random requests to people they don't know? thats so weird.

 

[Rora]

I have denied them and no one has ever asked me why.

But, I have de-friended someone and he asked me why we weren't friends anymore.. AWKWARD!!

 

[Bunchkin]

I've hit the ignore button many, many times.

I don't want to be friends with people I knew in high school and really didn't care for, which I made positively clear way back then. I get those all the time. And it makes me think: What do you want to know about me? Want to see what I look like now? What my DH looks like, or my kids?
Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Many years ago a person I went to high school with contacted me through the Classmates web site. Her email was filled with questions for me. She wanted to know everything about my life. I told her then, in a nut shell, I didn't talk to you in high school and I do not wish to start a relationship with you now.
This person recently had since sent me a friend request through FB, which I ignored. Wasn't I clear the first time???

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

i've done it quite a few times.

most of the time they're people i don't even know, nor do i have any friends in common with them. facebook is only for the people i ACTUALLY know.

there have been 2 other instances where i knew the people but i sitll ignored them.

they were both friends of DH. one was a guy who i didn't really like(DH hasn't hung around him in YEARS anyway) and i didn't think it was necessary to be friends with him.

the girl was someone who worked with DH years ago and i was never friends with her, so i didn't see the need to keep her on facebook, either. she does keep sending me requests like once a week tho.

i've read a few people on here said you can block people? how can i do that?

 

[N&B'smom]

Yes, I have ignored the same person's friend request SIX times. My nephew has a girlfriend. Her stepdad has tried to friend me six times, and I have hit ignore each time. I have only said hello to him a couple of times when I have seen him with his daughter. I found him a little creepy. I feel so rude saying that, and I felt rude ignoring him. But I think I did the right thing.

I've had one that repeatedly sent me a request as well. Then I blocked them!! It's perfect! They can't see you at all on Facebook, even if you post to a mutual friend!!!

 

[OK!]

No, but I did accept one and then de-friend the person like 30 mins. later. It was a guy I didn't know but who was affiliated with my school, so I thought he'd be harmless. Within the next half-hour after accepting the friend request, he'd sent like 10 messages, asking me to meet him for tea, to go to dinner, etc. Um, no. So I de-friended him and then he sent another message asking why, which I ignored.

 

[Tink9721]

I'm in high school now and I'm friends with some people I've never really talked to in school unless we had to do a group project or something. But I see them every day at school and I know who they are so I don't think it's weird. Everyone in my grade is friends with everyone else. I don't add people I never talk to in school but if they add me I usually accept it. But sometimes I get requests from random freshmen(I'm a junior) in my school who I've never met or had any interaction with. I deny those.

 

[JC2]

I've had one that repeatedly sent me a request as well. Then I blocked them!! It's perfect! They can't see you at all on Facebook, even if you post to a mutual friend!!!

I'll think I'll use the "block", too. Good idea!

 

[Disneyland1084]

I'm in high school now and I'm friends with some people I've never really talked to in school unless we had to do a group project or something. But I see them every day at school and I know who they are so I don't think it's weird. Everyone in my grade is friends with everyone else. I don't add people I never talk to in school but if they add me I usually accept it. But sometimes I get requests from random freshmen(I'm a junior) in my school who I've never met or had any interaction with. I deny those.

Kind of like me. I graduated HS in 1998. When I joined FB two years ago, I went a little overboard in adding people. I have a little over 200 friends. Although some people I was never "friends" with, we knew of each other. I added some people just because I was really curious to see where they are in life now.

I've denied friend requests before. One from a creepy uncle of mine. He just wanted to spy on me. That part of my family I do NOT associate with. I ignore people I don't know.

 

[bananda]

i dont accept anyone that i dont know. unless its someone from here.

 

[carmiedog]

Usually I'm pretty liberal about friends. If I know you and don't hate you, or if you were from my earlier years and we have many mutual friends even if I don't remember you, I'll usually accept the friend request.

That. I've actually emailed people who've requested to be friends to say "sorry, I'm having trouble placing your name with your picture. How do you know me?" It's usually someone from high school I barely remember. I don't post anything so personal (especially since I'm friends with teens from my church) that it needs to be kept private, so I figure it doesn't hurt being friends with people I don't really know. I would feel bad ignoring people - like school cliques all over again. There are only a couple people I would deny and they're related to my ex.

That said, theoretically unless I downright didn't like someone, I think it's nice to let someone know if you don't want to friend them if it's for a good reason. ie "Thanks but I make it a rule not to friend anyone from work, my students, whatever." or "I share some really personal stuff so I keep my FB page for mainly family." I've only been ignored once (has been sitting in my box for months waiting confirmation). I have no idea why. I'd rather them say "I don't feel very close to you" or something rather than think they don't like me (I have no reason to think they would, so confused ).

 

[2binak]

I don't post anything so personal (especially since I'm friends with teens from my church) that it needs to be kept private, so I figure it doesn't hurt being friends with people I don't really know.

I post pics of my DD on my FB page. Anyone can right click on a pic and download it from your FB page and I would hate for her pics to get into the wrong hands. It's happened before where pics were taken via FB (there have been a few news stories) and used in billboard advertisements, etc. without the poster's knowledge or consent. People can also use your birthdate, hometown & other information for their own personal reasons. That's why I keep my page as private as possible and only add people I know and trust.

 

[SydSim]

i've read a few people on here said you can block people? how can i do that?

This is how you do it:

Click on as follows, in this order: Settings - Privacy (manage) - Block list.
Then type in the name of the person you want blocked (make sure it's the right name). I have 4 people blocked - and someone probably has me blocked too

 

[paintnolish]

I guess I am a little choosier about friends- they have to be someone I'd recognize on the street andsay hello to. I do have a couple of friends from the Dis I've never met IRL, but they are regulars on a thread I post on. I have denied requests from people I don't know (said they went to my grade school) or my friend's kids. Sorry, I don't need to be "friends" with a 12 year old.

 

[NotUrsula]

i get random middle aged men in india (with no mutual friends) friend requesting me. uh, no thanks. how do they even find me!? do they just send random requests to people they don't know? thats so weird.

That is phishing from ad operators. They want to get access to your profile so that they can target ads at you.

 

[mlynn]

I ignore people all the time. I just ignored one today.From a guy I went to HS with and couldn't stand him or his girlfriend (Now wife) They thought they were above everybody else.Well now he is friends with my sister nad her husband.Still the j erk he was in school but I know the only reason he asked to be friends is because he so close to my BIL.

 

[java]

I have 5 people in the limbo room- people that asked to friend me and I have no intention of adding them-
2 of them really had me both had tried to sleep with boyfriends of mine. Neither succeeded but still it was the fact that they tried to that ticked me off. And YES I hold a grudge. We weren't really friends before that and now why would I want them to know what I am up to?

1 person was the mean girl from elementary school.
the other 2 are a random relative of a cousin of mine and the other is a friend of my sister- neither of whom I really know- So nope not friending them.

Oh and I did ignore someone! It was someone's wife! An old friend friended me on facebook- the day I accept him I get a friend request from his wife. Who I have never met in my life. I'm thinking she was checking up on her husband.

 

[Auggietina]

I block everyone from work. DO not care to mix personal and business

Exactly!

 

[DramaQueen]

oh yeah! i've actually ignored a few people from the Dis actually, and I've had a couple of people as my why--which is really awkward. I have a few friends from the Dis that I consider really good friends, and other Disers find my name from their friend lists and request me, but I don't really care for EVERY Diser to know my personal info, just the ones I'm really close with.

other than that i've ignored complete strangers, and a select few people that i really dislike hehe