FaceBook -ever deny a friend request?

[pyrxtc]

yup, definately ! Some people I just never want to talk to again and some people I won't write on their wall cuz they have people as their friends that I would rather not know my business.

I have also been denied, some teachers I am friends with can't friend me since my kids are in their school. I have one relative who won't be friends with me cuz her mother talks a lot stuff about our family and we haven't talked to them since her father died when she was 7.

 

[ZachnElli]

I've ignored several of people I don't know at all. I recently ignored one that says she a cousin of my DH's, but he doesn't know her even though I saw several other relatives friended her. She asked lots of personal questions, like phone #, address, my kids' names and ages. I ignored her. The only one to ask why was my high school sweetheart, I felt bad about that, but my DH is still not comfortable with it even though it's been 20 years. Picking my battles....

 

[JoiseyMom]

Yup..I have a few times...my neice..who is 13, same age as DD (who isn't on facebook). I don't need a child on my pages. A former co-worker..who I couldn't stand. I left a year 1/2 before she got fired.. She wouldnt tell me what for!! LOL..I knew already.. and she asked me to be a job reference for her, and if my office was hiring.. Needless to say i wasn't allowing her on my FB page!!

I also don't ignore..I just let it sit out there and sit...

 

[Boston Tea Party]

I've ignored my brother's ex-wife and students from the school where I teach.

 

[VillageMama]

I have a couple of "friends" that I don't know! They asked to be my friend and it says that we have 30 friends in common, so I must have known them at some point.

I figured, "What can it hurt to renew an acquaintance from high school? Maybe I'll make a new friend with this old friend, whom I can't remember."

But I'm starting to get pickier. If the name doesn't ring a bell at all... even if we have tons of friends in common... then I ignore the request.

 

[Kim1964]

I've ignored a couple that were people who went to my high school but that I don't recognize. Even when it says we have people in common, I have ignored them. I also ignored one of my teenage daughter's friends. My daughter doesn't have a FB page and I can't imagine why her friend would think I would friend her.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I think I have declined 2.

One was a girl from high school. I remember her, but we weren't friends. I just knew who she was. She requested me FOUR times. But since she never sent a message telling me WHY it was so important I just kept declining her. It was weird.

The other one is one of my sister's in-laws. My sister and I are not on very good terms, but she is one of my FB friends. Her in-laws? No, thank you!

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I have rejected ones from people that I have no idea who they are. Then there's a couple of people I just don't respond to, like people from work.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

For an existing friend, you can severly limit what they have access to from your page - like they can't see your pictures, etc. Go to "settings" in the upper right corner of your page and fiddle around with it. I have several people "limited". I allow them to see some stuff, just so they don't feel slighted If you go under "privacy" you can personalize everything. Certain people can't post on your wall (or read your posts), etc. Say you click on "settings", then "privacy", then "posts by me", you can say that everyone can see your posts - exept "John Doe". I love it!

I do that too, there's a couple people that can't see things like my phone number.

 

[PolyndianPrincessJes]

I'll ignore them if I'm not actually friends (or work with, care to chat with occasionally, etc.) with them. I've ignored several. I don't think it's a big deal, and I'd think anyone who asks about it after it's happened is a little immature. It's just Facebook.

 

[2binak]

I've probably denied more friend requests than I've accepted. They are usually people I went to high school with but wasn't friends with or distant family members who I didn't particularly like or talk to when I lived in my hometown and have no interest in reconnecting with. No one has ever questioned me. I'm a pretty private person so I don't use FB like alot of people do (you know the ones who try to see how many friends they can collect), I use it more as a way to keep in touch with close family & friends since we live far from most of them.

 

[gymboqueenkaylee]

I've denied my Ex---well because he's my ex

I've denied a few people I went to school with because I didn't really know them then and don't really know them now

I've denied people that knew my ex---because they are friends of my ex who probably just wanted to see pictures of my kid or snoop around to see what I was doing.

Not once has anyone ever asked why they got denied....Now my sister has denied someone before and they emailed her and asked her why. Strange to me that they would ask but oh well.

 

[tasha99]

I have never declined someone but I did "unfriend" my best friend. We reconnected last summer after 20 years and discovered we are still best friends forever (we changed, but in the same direction whereas my other old friends are more like acquaintances now). I talk to him on the phone every single day. We had to change cell plans because we rack up 3000 minutes a month just talking, and that doesn't count IMing or texting, which we do pretty constantly. I just felt like he's so much more than a Facebook friend and it feels better not having him on my Facebook page, except in pictures.

 

[Buckalew11]

I've denied several. Those are usually ones I think, "Why in heck did they friend request me?"

I remember one was some guy I did not know who went to school with my sister, I guess. He then send me a message and asked if I was her sister. I ignored that too.

Another one was a sister's old boyfriend's brother. He was probably 2 years older than me in school and we never talked. His brother, her old BF, turned into her stalker before it was all over and I don't want anything to do with any of them, so I ignored (denied) it.

 

[Pumbaa_]

I block everyone from work. DO not care to mix personal and business

 

[pearlieq]

Aside from a couple of people I didn't recognize, I've only ignored one friend request.

Usually I'm pretty liberal about friends. If I know you and don't hate you, or if you were from my earlier years and we have many mutual friends even if I don't remember you, I'll usually accept the friend request.

The only one I've denied came from a neighbor that I can't stand. I know I disliked her pretty much instantly and I thought the feeling was mutual. Her husband is a total tool as well. I have no idea why she friended me, but that's where I drew the line.

Most anyone else I'll accept, though I'm kind of over Facebook. I'm sick of the "updates" that muck things up and listening to the same 5 people natter on all day. It's nice for pictures and such, but it's not a daily thing for me anymore.

 

[Chris2597]

Is there a way to see how often someone on your friend list visits your page? Also, can you see who is searching for you on FB?

 

[kafitty]

oh yeah. Mafia Wars requests, mainly, and sometimes DISers if i don't recognize their user handle or they don't identify themselves.

though recently, someone who i've only spoken to a few times around town requested me, and i declined it cause i've never actually hung out with him, i've just seen him at the bar and he recognized me because i am one of our small town's paparazzi , so he's seen all the albums our mutual friends have been tagged him. But now i see him at the bar more often, and it's a little awkward!!

Can you tell me how to remove an existing friend? Can you block them and they "think" that you are still friends?

go to their profile, and at the bottom of the left side of the page, under their profile picture/friends list, there will be an option to click, "Remove from Friends".

Is there a way to see how often someone on your friend list visits your page? Also, can you see who is searching for you on FB?

i have seen some Facebook groups popping up recently claiming that they have an app to do that, but i don't think they're real. There was one for myspace that i used (and totally bagged my ex's wife stalking me with ), but it all has to do with the type of coding that Facebook allows on people's profiles and in the applications.

 

[onelilspark]

I ignore people if I don't know who they are. I also have 6 different lists for people with varying degrees of privacy. My work list is extremely limited. I don't want to deny people and offend anyone (I have customers who send requests) so I've put them on a limited profile. For me, this is a perfect solution, I can control what everyone sees. Though if I don't know who you are, I do hit ignore and have no qualms about it.

 

[Zandy595]

DH's ex-girlfriend sent me a friend request. Are you kidding me?! Of course she got ignored. I noticed that she's friends with DH's parents though. Let it go, it's been 19 years.