FaceBook -ever deny a friend request?

[BelleWDW]

If you denied it-why?

Did the person ever ask you why?

 

[luvsJack]

I have never actually denied one but I have ignored the email asking me to confirm. I just acted as though I didn't get it and they never asked.

 

[Minnie_me]

You never have to deny, you just "ignore". I love that. The requesting person does not receive any sort of notification when you do. (nothing says to them "Minnie ignored your friendship request") I don't feel as bad when I click it. And yes, I've ignored a lot of friend requests. One was my boss. And after I ignored her request, I blocked her. A few weeks later, she asked me about it, and I said, "Oh, I really don't do Facebook anymore....."

Bottom line: it's YOUR page. You have the power over who has access. If it's someone you don't like, or someone who you don't want having access to your page for any reason, just ignore the request. If they persist with repeated requests, block them.

 

[JC2]

Yes, I have ignored the same person's friend request SIX times. My nephew has a girlfriend. Her stepdad has tried to friend me six times, and I have hit ignore each time. I have only said hello to him a couple of times when I have seen him with his daughter. I found him a little creepy. I feel so rude saying that, and I felt rude ignoring him. But I think I did the right thing.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

If you denied it-why?

Did the person ever ask you why?

Constantly.....just last night as a matter of fact. Some old high school friends asked to be friends and NONE of them EVER visited my page or said hello, so I deleted them all and when a few of them requested friendship again, I ignored the request. That's the same as denying as far as I know.

 

[Christine]

I've the ignore button a few times. I have about 3 people who attended my high school try to friend me. One: I have absolutely NO idea who she is. The second: We never spoke in high school whatsoever. Never had a class together, never ran in the same circles, etc. And the third was a friend from high school's ex boyfriend. They were dating in high school and I thought he was the biggest creep ever. He didn't care for me either because I guess he didn't like her having any friends. Why he tried to friend be on Facebook, I can't imagine. There was no way I was having him as a friend.

 

[daisyduck123]

I just did that last week.

Someone sent me a "Friend Request" on/about Xmas Eve and I have no idea who she is. I don't recognize the name, nor her picture. I sent her a message, politely asking how we know each other & she never responded back.

 

[Heather1101]

Yes, I have denied people that try to add me from High School that I don't even know who they are. We also denied and blocked DH's sister's sister...she's a whackjob and disowned us years ago but now wants to add everyone and be nosey, yet still will not speak to us. I've also deleted my FIL b/c he never even "spoke" to me; he just wants to be nosey and all up in my business, so I removed him from my friends list. If he noticed that I did it, he hasn't said anything to DH about it.

I've never gotten any emails asking why I didn't approve them or why I deleted them. I honestly don't think the person even knows.

 

[BelleWDW]

Thanks-I've "ignored" two...

....one is a 12 year old =that is kinda young for Facebook-right?

....the second was today-a distant friend's husband-who has me on his massive email list and keeps sending everyone on it raunchy & X-rated jokes and pictures=blech!!

 

[MIGrandma]

I have ignored two so far, one is the husband of my ex-daughter-in-law. Why he would even send me a friend request is hard to understand. The other was from a girl I had no idea who she was, her name was not familiar nor was her picture. I doubt she even knew me, just wanted to increase her "friend" count which is another thing I don't understand. When people have hundreds of "friends." I am only "friends" with my real life friends and relatives. A few old school mates I'm considering deleting. When someone asks you to be "friends" and you accept, then they never visit your page, never comment on anything you say or even say "hello" once in awhile, what's the point? So I've been thinking of "cleaning house" a bit.

 

[ilovefh]

I've ignored the people that I don't know before. I also have ignored students and some of my field hockey players. They ask if I will friend them when they graduate...nope! I told them they could friend me when they are 30!

 

[lewdyan1]

I also have ignored a few people and when I was feeling bad about it, I have accepted and then a week or so unfriended them and figured it could have just balmed it on a glitch...

My DD has no problem saying no, just turns people down on a regular basis.

 

[luvmy3]

I'm not on FB at all so when I occasionally check it I see alot of new friend requests. I deny some because some of the people I was never really friends with and don't have any reason to be their friend on FB now. I don't feel bad about it because I'm pretty sure they are just trying to get their friend count up anyway.

 

[quentina]

Yes, I have denied people that try to add me from High School that I don't even know who they are. We also denied and blocked DH's sister's sister...she's a whackjob and disowned us years ago but now wants to add everyone and be nosey, yet still will not speak to us. I've also deleted my FIL b/c he never even "spoke" to me; he just wants to be nosey and all up in my business, so I removed him from my friends list. If he noticed that I did it, he hasn't said anything to DH about it.

I've never gotten any emails asking why I didn't approve them or why I deleted them. I honestly don't think the person even knows.

Can you tell me how to remove an existing friend? Can you block them and they "think" that you are still friends?

 

[MissyDVC]

Yup I have and they have never asked why

 

[SydSim]

Can you tell me how to remove an existing friend? Can you block them and they "think" that you are still friends?

For an existing friend, you can severly limit what they have access to from your page - like they can't see your pictures, etc. Go to "settings" in the upper right corner of your page and fiddle around with it. I have several people "limited". I allow them to see some stuff, just so they don't feel slighted If you go under "privacy" you can personalize everything. Certain people can't post on your wall (or read your posts), etc. Say you click on "settings", then "privacy", then "posts by me", you can say that everyone can see your posts - except "John Doe". I love it!

 

[dizchick]

I've ignored a few friend requests from people that I don't recognize. The only way that anyone would ever know that you ignored them is if they went back to check to see if you accepted them. When they click on your profile and you haven't accepted or ignored them yet, it says "awaiting friend confirmation" by your name on the page. If you've ignored them, they I believe it doesn't say anything at all, so they know that you've ignored them. I have some friends that don't click either accept or ignore b/c they don't want to be rude, so the people are basically "awaiting friend confirmation" forever.

 

[just4today]

I've ignored a few friend requests from people that I don't recognize. The only way that anyone would ever know that you ignored them is if they went back to check to see if you accepted them. When they click on your profile and you haven't accepted or ignored them yet, it says "awaiting friend confirmation" by your name on the page. If you've ignored them, they I believe it doesn't say anything at all, so they know that you've ignored them. I have some friends that don't click either accept or ignore b/c they don't want to be rude, so the people are basically "awaiting friend confirmation" forever.

I was just going to bring up that same thing. I've had a couple of people I sent friend requests to that did exactly what you described - just ignored the request and then deleted it. That makes me wonder why they didn't want to be my friend when, as far as I knew, there was no reason why they wouldn't. It isn't like we were on bad terms or anything. Considering I have less than 50 friends altogether, it isn't like I'm out there just sending out requests in order to have more friends.

 

[Metro West]

If I don't know the person and they don't put a little note to say who they are, I ignore them. I've people for FarmVille and other games but....

 

[mickeymedic]

I have a rule when it comes to facebook friends requests: I only friend people who are/were friendly. If you didn't like me when we worked together, why would you want to be my friend now? I have no idea why people who were either mean or just plain ignored me in the past suddenly want to be facebook friends. I didn't need their drama then, and I sure don't need it now.