We enjoy spending more time at the resort/s now and don't mind taking the time to have dinner at a resort other than the one we are staying at. Some are definitely more convenient than others for different reasons. Some are definitely darker (rooms) than others and not all of them have great views. It's nice knowing we will be back and we can change it up a bit too and we are not always in the same room assigned to us (just in case we were not that thrilled with something).
Unless we have some major problems, housekeeping issues, plumbing issues, etc. we make the best of it and absorb the beauty of each resort. I also feel incredibly lucky to own/afford
DVC and forced to go back for more and more

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This was one reason I thought that might be talked about more. As DVC members, I think we spend more time or vacations in Disney than the average. I have friends at work who have gone once, or a few times, but we have gone every year. So, I get that you would want to stay at your favorite Resort since you spend more time there.
I absolutely have favorites for different reasons. I want to stay in the EPCOT resorts during the F&W fest (we stayed at BWV in 2006), but often they are not available, and I would rather book solid than go on a waitlist.
But, to me there are no real issues that I would not stay at any of the resorts. We walk our whole vacation, so having a long walk to our room, or a pool, or food court is no issue for our family, we plan on it when in WDW. If you have a handicap, or just a tough time getting around, then the spread out layout of an SSR would just not work. Having room issues (bad toilets, unclean etc...) as we know can happen at any of the resorts. I cant say the theme for OKW really works for me, and I did think it was a bit run down compared to some of the others, but I would still stay there, and it sounds like they have been renovating.
Again - I guess I just dont get most of the issues. But, the nice thing about DVC is having that option to stay at a number of different resorts. I do like to mix it up, so I hope to stay at them all.
I dont take the negative talk to heart, and everyone's own opinion matters to them. There would be no point in trying to convince someone that you think AKV is a great resort when they say they dont like it. For me - I just feel that all the resorts offer something special, as DVC members we get great rooms that are comfortable. I love the isolated feel and seeing the animals at AKV (and we do rent a car), I love the theme and layout of SSR, to me the grounds are gorgeous, I love walking around the resort. I enjoy being able to head to DTD in the evening, or just being away from the noise at SSR. I love how the golf course weaves through OKW, and I love the Boardwalk and easy access to EPCOT that the EPCOT resorts offer. VWL is a great theme, probably my favorite, and being close to the Transportation Center is a bonus. So - I guess I am just enjoying what each resort has to offer.