Explain this one -- Please!

[Disneyrsh]

And this family never really did say that! They just said that God, said "no" and didn't ever say what his objection was!

Some people have a hard time with the truth and being direct to people. I'm guessing they threw God under the bus, so to speak, because it was an easier thing for them to say than whatever they were really thinking.

I don't think it would have made your friend feel any better if they had said "Well, after having had dinner with you folks, we really just think you're kinda weird and we don't feel comfortable letting our kid go off with you."

The whole God excuse works well for them, because heck, it's not like you can argue with Him.

And one man's weird is another man's cool, so I wouldn't waste any more time, if I were them, worrying about it.

 

[Planogirl]

There's nothing wrong with inviting your child's friend to accompany you on a camping trip! For goodness sake, don't give that another thought.

Besides if the parents felt uncomfortable about it, they should have said so to begin with and not gone through this silly screening first. Now they just come across as judgmental and a bit ridiculous IMO.

 

[auntpolly]

I'm guessing they threw God under the bus, so to speak,

LOL, He hates when that happens (I bet, anyway.)

 

[disneymom3]

You know, the one thing that occurs to me is that #1 obviously the parents should have told your friend they were still on the fence before they got together for dinner. However, I am also thinking that you have a message conveyed from one kid to another kid. Sometimes something gets lost in the translation.

 

[disneyeveryyear]

I was wondering if the child decided he didn't want to go and asked the parents to provide an excuse.

My DS11 really doesn't prefer to spend the night at other kids' houses. He is an early riser and has had the misfortune to sleep over at a home where even the mom and dad didn't get up until almost 11:00 a.m. on the weekend. When he has been up since 6:00, he is very uncomfortable being "alone" in the house. Boy Scout camping is different since everyone tends to get up early.

Anyway, sometimes he looks to me for an excuse to say "no." I will give him an excuse if we have something planned the next morning, if not, it is up to him to figure out a way to "bow out" gracefully.

Maybe this family used the easiest excuse they had.

 

[auntpolly]

I was wondering if the child decided he didn't want to go and asked the parents to provide an excuse.

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This is entirely possible -- but Lying 101 -- chapter one -- lying about a schedule conflict would be better, not one that makes the person you are lying to feel bad!!!!

 

[philaround]

In my opinion [and please note this my opinion and I don't expect everyone or even anyone to agree with me] God gets blamed for way too much. We all have free will and make our own decisions in life. In my opinion the one decision that overshadows all others is the decision to be tolerant of others.

 

[disneyeveryyear]

This is entirely possible -- but Lying 101 -- chapter one -- lying about a schedule conflict would be better, not one that makes the person you are lying to feel bad!!!!

I completely agree, I was just throwing another hypothesis out there (from my life). DS11 has learned to not look to me to lie for him. A simple "no thank you" is better than lying. You will always get caught in a lie.

 

[cardaway]

Sounds like they didn't approve of the situation or the people involved and don't want to directly say no.