Exchanging keys: A relationship question

[TigerBear]

A woman gives the man she is dating a key to her house. He does not give her a key to his apartment. Meaningful? Neither has asked the other for a key.

 

[MagicalMom]

I think it would depend. Is more time spent at her house than his? Does either have a roommate? Sometimes (just sometimes) men don't think of things like that? (no offense men..............just sometimes, some men don't think. )

 

[Keli]

Could be, it would make me wonder anyway. Things in a relationship are usually reciprical and when they aren't it's like a sore thumb, you just keep bumping into it.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Been there! Only it was the other way around. A guy I was seeing gave me his key. I was rather shocked by it. I took it, but I didn't want it. I never did give him a key to my place. No way would I do that. I kind of saw it as him pushing me. Didn't like it at all.

 

[Sleepy]

If the guy did not want to give her a key, then obviously he has a reason for it and I would also think he would not accept the key from her for same reason.

 

[LoraJ]

My boyfriend has my key and I don't have his. He has mine because I like it when someone has an extra set in case I get locked out. After I first moved in, I ended up getting locked out on the roof and he had to come rescue me. He also feeds my bird when I am not around. His landlord lives upstairs and has an extra set, so he doesn't really need me for that. And he has no pets.

I've never asked for a copy of his key and he has never offered. I guess it bugs me a little bit, but it isn't major. I have a friend at work who is about to be engaged and he still won't give her his keys. Some people are just weird about their space and their stuff I guess.

 

[Maleficent13]

I have the key to my SO's house, but he doesn't have a key to mine. In the time we've been dating, he's been to my house exactly 3 times. The thought of giving him a key never occurred to me. No need.

 

[monkeyboy]

A word of advice

Even though you have a key...still call or knock before entering

 

[Fire14]

i just realized i've never given my dh a key to my parents house. he has key to my car but not house. I had key to his house but not until after his mom was really sick and he ended up in hosp. did i get it.

 

[Madi100]

I think if there was no comment made about it I'd take a step back and take a look at things. It could mean nothing. When I was dating DH I had his key, but I don't think he had mine. I don't think he ever needed mine. I was always with him when he was at mine.

I can't tell you how worried I was when I opened this thread, though. Anytime I've heard about exchanging keys it's not an innocent thing

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

The only time someone would have a key is if they lived with me.

 

[dalt01]

as a former "guy", been married 25 yrs so no longer qualify, why on earth would you give anybody your key, bet you hardly know him and i consider that anything under a year. you will probobly say you have known him forever, but the pattern ive seen in some women, and ive known quite a few, calls for "pressing the relationship", seeing how far it will stretch, trust me men dont look at things that way. not to lower this to a sexual level but the wise sage Billy Crystal said it best in City SLickers,"women need a "reason" to have sex, men just need a "place".

 

[Simba's Mom]

I used to think it meant something about a relationship, but I guess times have changed. Recently, DS called me and said "Danielle locked herself out of her apartment, so she called me because I have an extra key." After this Mom picked myself back up off the floor, I questioned him and my other DS and found that nowadays, at least in this area, it's a pretty common thing. Yes, DS and Danielle are just friends, as are many other opposite sex key holders (at least among college students).

 

[Miss Jasmine]

When I was dating DH he went up to New York to visit his friends. He didn't like the location of my apartment (felt it was in an unsafe area) so he gave me the key to his apartment so I could stay there while he was gone. We always spent more time at his apartment. When he got back, he never asked for the key back. I never gave him a key to my apartment because like I said we were always at his. I ended up moving in with him cuz I did feel like my apartment complex was a bit unsafe. We were already engaged at that point.