Everyone around me is SO SELFISH!

[ThreeMusketeers]

Why does it seem like everywhere I turn, there are selfish people?

Family, Friends...everyone is only concerned about themselves.

I am so frustrated with it all I could scream. Literally.

After YEARS and YEARS of always remembering, birthday's..with a card some flowers, special events with a phone call and a gift. Always remembering to send our love and happiness for someone else's good fortune or what not...here I sit.. frustrated..

That when my family has something good happen..where are all those same people? We are talking sisters, and in laws here. People that know and could at least just call or write if not for any other reason..than to be polite.

The same people that fish for compliments, that practically beg for your attention when something good is happening to them. All turn a blind eye when something decent is happening to you????

Is it me, or are there selfish people in your life too?

 

[teacups]

That could be me talking totally!
You are not alone.
Some people take on the role of "soother" and some take on the role of "sucker" (as in suck it all up and move along.)

Often times, the soothers get taken for granted by the suckers.
I am also a soother.

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

That could be me talking totally!
You are not alone.
Some people take on the role of "soother" and some take on the role of "sucker" (as in suck it all up and move along.)

Often times, the soothers get taken for granted by the suckers.
I am also a soother.

P.S. I like me some Jack Sparrow as well.

 

[CookieGVB]

It's like the Will & Grace episode. There are gardeners, and there are flowers. The gardeners will tend to the flowers, give them love, water, and sometimes even a little bit of fertilizer to perk up their spirits.

The flowers are the ones who need to be tended. Grace spent the whole episode convinced that her mother was a "Stinkin' rose" and that she was a gardener. She finally realized she was an entire rose bush. Allow yourself to be a rose by the people in your lives who will occasionally take on the gardener role, and forget about the weeds and other flowers who are trying to take over the garden.

 

[SeeDisney]

I can related to you in some way. 95% of the people I know are very self-centered and think about themselves. I ALWAYS think about my many friend's stories that they informed me of either by phone or person to person conversation .....and when I see them the next time I always follow-up with the question........"hey, how did your son do?? or how's your sick parent, or how's your child's dance recital go that you were telling me about:?, etc., etc., etc.". And I realized that most of those friends never remember to think about my good or bad or exciting news situations. And it hurts me when they don't remember. Yet, I always remember them and am concerned to ask .

YOU are a very thoughtful, giving, caring woman to go out of your way to think of other people with a cards, with flowers, gifts. I will admit I don't go that far as you do with the presents.

Here's your flower as I can relate to you in a smaller way.

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

I can related to you in some way. 95% of the people I know are very self-centered and think about themselves. I ALWAYS think about my many friend's stories that they informed me of either by phone or person to person conversation .....and when I see them the next time I always follow-up with the question........"hey, how did your son do?? or how's your sick parent, or how's your child's dance recital go that you were telling me about:?, etc., etc., etc.". And I realized that most of those friends never remember to think about my good or bad or exciting news situations. And it hurts me when they don't remember. Yet, I always remember them and am concerned to ask .

YOU are a very thoughtful, giving, caring woman to go out of your way to think of other people with a cards, with flowers, gifts. I will admit I don't go that far as you do with the presents.

Here's your flower as I can relate to you in a smaller way.

How sweet are you!!!!


Your first paragraph, really spoke to me, that is exactly what I'm talking about!

Thanks for your reply!!

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

It's like the Will & Grace episode. There are gardeners, and there are flowers. The gardeners will tend to the flowers, give them love, water, and sometimes even a little bit of fertilizer to perk up their spirits.

The flowers are the ones who need to be tended. Grace spent the whole episode convinced that her mother was a "Stinkin' rose" and that she was a gardener. She finally realized she was an entire rose bush. Allow yourself to be a rose by the people in your lives who will occasionally take on the gardener role, and forget about the weeds and other flowers who are trying to take over the garden.

I love that analogy. I need to do some weed-eating!!

 

[LuvOrlando]

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[ckay87]

Why does it seem like everywhere I turn, there are selfish people?

Family, Friends...everyone is only concerned about themselves.

I am so frustrated with it all I could scream. Literally.

After YEARS and YEARS of always remembering, birthday's..with a card some flowers, special events with a phone call and a gift. Always remembering to send our love and happiness for someone else's good fortune or what not...here I sit.. frustrated..

That when my family has something good happen..where are all those same people? We are talking sisters, and in laws here. People that know and could at least just call or write if not for any other reason..than to be polite.

The same people that fish for compliments, that practically beg for your attention when something good is happening to them. All turn a blind eye when something decent is happening to you????

Is it me, or are there selfish people in your life too?

Is today your birthday? It's mine also. Shall we party together because I haven't heard a word from my family either.

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

Is today your birthday? It's mine also. Shall we party together because I haven't heard a word from my family either.

No, today's not my birthday...but

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!

I HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT DAY!:

 

[KristaTX]

Have you ever heard of the five love languages? Here is a link http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html .

One possibility is that your own personal "love languages" that speak to you are gifts and words of affirmation, so that is what you naturally offer to others. If someone else's things are not those, then they may not just offer them naturally and whole-heartedly like you do. But it would be nice if they realized those are your love languages, and would start doing the same for you that you do for them.

Or they really could be self-centered.

 

[ThreeMusketeers]

Have you ever heard of the five love languages? Here is a link http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html .

One possibility is that your own personal "love languages" that speak to you are gifts and words of affirmation, so that is what you naturally offer to others. If someone else's things are not those, then they may not just offer them naturally and whole-heartedly like you do. But it would be nice if they realized those are your love languages, and would start doing the same for you that you do for them.

Or they really could be self-centered.

I really don't ask or expect that anyone send us gifts or cards or anything really. I do those things because I want to do them for other people. And because I care about them and the relationships that we share with them.

That said, a phone call, an email or a text in response to a happy moment or just to say hello would be nice. And a Thanks for thinking of me, everyonce in a while would be nice too.

And It's not that i do things because I want the Thank you. But I have a hard time understanding when people don't feel the need to say it.
I can't imagine having someone do something nice for me, and not say "thank you".

I'm just very frustrated today as you can see. lol

 

[Stitchfans]

It takes all kinds to make the world go around. That is what I always tell myself when I run into a self centered person. And yes I run into many of them.

 

[Planogirl]

Some people are just forgetful too. Maybe that is a little self-centered because they could use a calendar or some kind of reminder. But to me, truly self-centered people might even remember but it just doesn't matter if you know what I mean.

I'm sorry that you didn't hear from some people. I hope that you are enjoying whatever occasion it is anyway.

 

[C.Ann]

Welcome to the world of "ME, ME, ME !!!!!"

Sad, isn't it?

 

[Costumesaremylife]

Looks like we should start a club. I'm in.

 

[luvmy3]

I really don't ask or expect that anyone send us gifts or cards or anything really. I do those things because I want to do them for other people. And because I care about them and the relationships that we share with them.

We are all selfish when it comes to wanting attention, you can't blame your family for wanting it when you yourself seek it too. Although, I do know how much it stinks when it feels that nobody cares and I'm sorry your family is that way towards you. I know it is nice for something good to be acknowledge, but if it isn't by others does it change the good thing that happened to you? You should just enjoy whatever it is and try not to stress about your family's response, or lack of

 

[Disney Doll]

People are selfish.

Perhaps it's time to forget a few things about those forget, and concentrate on the people who uplift and support you.

 

[teacups]

Story:
At our wedding hubby and I were sitting around the huge round table having dinner with the 10 others seated with us. SIL was one of them. Of course all the talk centered around hubby and I, the honeymon, future plans... normal stuff at a wedding. Out of the blue SIL says "Well... nobody wants to hear about MY JOB." Silence washed over stunned faces. Of course we did all talk about her silly job for a few minutes. But, 13 years later hubby and I STILL pull that line out when one of us is hogging a conversation. It deffo breaks the stress and we still fall over laughing! So, something good came from that screwball self centered SIL.