Ever feel like your world is just falling apart???

[Lionqueen2]

Sending you prayers. I hope things improve for you very soon.

 

[dismom2]

I'll say a little prayer for you and your kids tonight
Hope life gets better for you.

 

[clovergirl5]

Aww op, huge hugs to you. I feel the way you describe, many days. It helps to have a good cry once in awhile. Once I do that, I tend to feel stronger and start chugging along again. Im sorry for the situation you are in and hope that it improves very soon. Stay strong and give yourself permission to lock yourself in the bathroom and have a good cry. It won't be long and you will be back on your feet and feeling great again. Give yourself a hug for me!

 

[padams]

I know it's a cliche but it is always darkest before dawn. I'm sure better times are ahead for you.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

I still feel this way, pretty often. Believe it or not, DISing helps. It's fun to focus on other matters, as inconsequential as they may be. Anything to take your mind off your troubles for a while. I'm praying for peace for you and your daughters.

 

[kathie859]

what I do to get out of a funk is is to take inventory of the good things I have in my life; i.e., my kids, the ability to take a walk thru a park, an appreciation of nature, your refrigerator (that one comes from watching the evening news about Afghanistan where 85% of people have no frige!!!), and how about clean drinking water? I have good books to read (thanks to the library) and a TV to watch my brain-candy favorite shows.

I wish you some light for the darkness that you feel and sincerely believe that this is just a temporary set back for you. If you're smart enough to recognize and acknowledgeyour struggle then you're smart enough to deal with it. to you and the kids.

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I hope things start to get better for all of you.

 

[sunnyday123]

I've been there. When I was married, I could shop anytime I wanted to, and we were always helping someone out financially.

After my divorce, I was the Mom in the grocery store trying to figure out what I could put back so I could get my DD the cereal she wanted. We had to cut back in the beginning, and it was hard. There are a lot of things that can be done for free, you just have to get creative. It may sound like a cliche, but time does heal all things.

Everytime I started my own private pity party, I said to myself, "It could be worse." I worked with a woman at the time named Pat. She had one son. He was her life, he was a perfect child-smart, good, startling gorgeous, and one of the nicest people you would ever meet. He was found dead on his 22nd birthday at a friends apartment. A year later she was diagnosed with MS. Then she had a stroke, and it affected her left side and her speech. Then she found out she had cancer. Through it all, she was the most upbeat and positive person I've ever met. If I had to deal with a third of what she did, I woud've laid under a bus, but she persevered and came through all of it.

You'll get through this too, just remember to take one day at a time.

 

[clovergirl5]

I've been there. When I was married, I could shop anytime I wanted to, and we were always helping someone out financially.

After my divorce, I was the Mom in the grocery store trying to figure out what I could put back so I could get my DD the cereal she wanted. We had to cut back in the beginning, and it was hard. There are a lot of things that can be done for free, you just have to get creative. It may sound like a cliche, but time does heal all things.

Everytime I started my own private pity party, I said to myself, "It could be worse." I worked with a woman at the time named Pat. She had one son. He was her life, he was a perfect child-smart, good, startling gorgeous, and one of the nicest people you would ever meet. He was found dead on his 22nd birthday at a friends apartment. A year later she was diagnosed with MS. Then she had a stroke, and it affected her left side and her speech. Then she found out she had cancer. Through it all, she was the most upbeat and positive person I've ever met. If I had to deal with a third of what she did, I woud've laid under a bus, but she persevered and came through all of it.
You'll get through this too, just remember to take one day at a time.

Omgosh, that is so sad. Bless her heart.

 

[Trish Bessette]

It's hard to talk to family or friends, until recently I was the one who was the shoulder, friends and family looked at my life with a little envy. I had it all- nice house, great husband, beautiful kids in all kinds of activities, nice cars, you get the idea. I was the one who helped out those in need, financially or what ever they needed. Ever since my divorce, things have just gotten so much worse. I won't get into too much detail but it's gotten so bad that the tooth fairy couldn't even come the last time that my youngest DD lost a tooth. Lost my house, now I'm renting an apartment, kids had to be pulled from most activities, had to drop out of school before I was able to complete my BA, the icing on the cake was totaling my car. My credit has taken a tremendous hit so I can't even get approved for a loan to get a new one! So not only am I dealing with the stress from everything else- I have no vehicle! It's just seems like it's NEVER going to get any better!

It WILL get better you have to believe it. Your strength is being tested right now. Are you getting some sort of support from your ex?

Don't be ashamed to ask for help from friends and family. LIke you said, you were the one always helping others. Well, now it may be time for you to accept some help.

Look in the eyes of your beautiful children and soak up all the goodness in them. Take a deep breath and say to yourself "I will overcome this".

Prayers to you and your kids. This will pass.

 

[mickeylove2]

Thank you all for the kind words and helpful support. I finally broke down yesterday and called my dad, I literally spent all day in my office at work crying, so when I called him I was still upset. He came over and loaned me his truck, he is going down to 1 vehicle between he and his GF so that's why I didn't want to ask him, but he offered it so I took that.

We also talked and he just came right out and said basically, things have been pretty crappy lately for you and it's not gonna get any better if you just sit back and continue to struggle, it's just making it harder for you and the girls. He told me that he and his GF want me and the girls to move into their home, they have 2 spare bedrooms that they use for storage and she uses for crafting stuff. He said he's gonna clean them out and store stuff in the attic and she will take over part of the living room for crafting if I will just swallow my pride and take the offer.

If I do that then I will be able to save up to get back on my feet, but I have been on my own since I was 17 so it's a hard thing to decide. My rent is paid until Feb 1st so I have a couple of weeks to weigh the options. My dad and I don't have a close relationship but he has 1 with my girls so I know they would love living there.

 

[padams]

I think it's wonderful that he has offered to help. Life will get better. Hang in there and focus on the future.

 

[mickeyboat]

See, today is a better day! You have been thrown a life ring - take it, pull yourself up and make tomorrow better!

Good luck!

 

[focusondisney]

Mickeylove2, I'm sorry you are having such a struggle now. But I try to believe that things happen for a reason( I try to believe it, it's not always easy). I had just read this thread & was thinking about that when you posted about your dad offering for you to move in. This may be one of the reasons. Maybe you'll get to work on the relationship with your dad.

If you can accept this offer even for a short time, it sounds like a good idea. You need love & support now & it sounds like your dad & his gf want to be there for you. Think of the love you have for your daughters & how it hurts to see them struggle. Then realize that you are your dad's daughter & he feels the same way about you that you feel about your girls. No matter how old you are, your parents always hurt when you do.

Good luck with your decision. I hope the hard times are almost over for you!

 

[kacaju]

((hugs)) please take your Dad up on his offer. You and your girls are in my prayers

 

[Trish Bessette]

Great news! Take your Dad up on the offer - this could be the beginning of a wonderful time for you and your Dad. I'm happy for you!

 

[SC Minnie]

OP

Take your dad up on his offer. Give yourself 6 months and mark it on a calendar to save up and start to get back on your feet. This will allow yourself to know the living arrangement is only temporary. I hope everything works out.

 

[Planogirl]

There's nothing wrong with letting people help you! You would help them if the roles were reversed wouldn't you? You can do something nice for them down the road.

Help from others is what helps many of us get through these things. That and believing that it will be OK down the road. Because it will be.

By the way, I think that sometimes thinking about people who have it worse doesn't help. It can just make a person feel guilty for feeling bad about their own problems. Just remember that you don't have any reason to feel guilty if you fall into this category.

 

[Jsme]

I just sent you a prayer. I prayed for Mickeylove2 and her children. I prayed that whatever is going on in your life that it will start to get better and things will look up for you. I pray for your strength and for you to be blessed.

 

[clovergirl5]

Take your dads offer op. I agree with other pp, its an opportunity to get back on your feet and start building a relationship with your dad. Your prayers are being answered, don't pass them up!