Entitled???

[CurlyGirl]

as I said i know these people and know that it is their of saying not to wear it again. and we will agree to disagree.

Really? And you would give into these people? Wow. Just wow. That's pretty pathetic. This is America. Wear the necklace. What are they going to do to you for wearing it?

Swear to god, if anyone even remotely implied that they didn't want me to wear something, I'd tell them to eff off. My teen nieces would do the same.

Grow a backbone and some thick skin, OP, and stop playing the victim.

If YOU don't stand up for yourself, who will!?

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

LOL thanks as I said I thing my reaction is understandable as i was stunned to think that a necklace would be something that i wrong to wear. Or start a huge stink about.

The main thing that was going through my head at the time is 'are she for real?' 'is she REALLY telling me in her own way to never wear this again?'
After the bouncer said something to me I knew she was telling me to never wear it again.

then when she wouldn't hear where I had got as she interpreted me I let it go and left. But when then bouncer said something I got very upset which is understandable. I thought it was over it he said what he said. While I didn't handle it in the most mature way i do think it was BETTER then what they did.

Neither party had actions/reactions that were really understandable to me.

But sorry you had to feel that way OP...Maybe you could just go to work in the total buff??? Then that could be "Your thing".

 

[C.Ann]

Thank you so much c.ann you have always been sweet. No I am not a dancer I do work in a bar. Why is that an automatic that it is assumed I am a dancer.

But anyway no I am not that sensitive thank you. This was the FIRST time ever that she and he was that mean to me. I was mainly in shock for what I was hearing. Never said that I was not wrong but I do think my reaction is understandable!

You don't owe anyone an explanation of where you work - or what you do - although over and over and over I have seen people here try to bully (yes folks - I used the word "bully") others into revealing information that is none of their business.. (And it really aggravates them when you won't "play along"..)

As for the "vent" - I guess you didn't get the memo.. People are only allowed to vent over something like this with prior approval of the same people who vent over minor issues themselves - practically on a daily basis..

Oh - and don't worry about "the rule" - that's pre-school nonsense as well..

Wear your gift from your DD proudly - anywhere you choose!

 

[cheermom1]

Really? And you would give into these people? Wow. Just wow. That's pretty pathetic. This is America. Wear the necklace. What are they going to do to you for wearing it?

Swear to god, if anyone even remotely implied that they didn't want me to wear something, I'd tell them to eff off. My teen nieces would do the same.

Grow a backbone and some thick skin, OP, and stop playing the victim.

I never said I didn't have a back bone nor did I say I won;t wear it b/c I will and planned on it every night I work. I was just saying I know what exactly what they were implying is all. Nor did I say was a victim I was just upset that there are people out there tht really think that others should do as they want. I was stunned that someone would have odacity (sp) to think they had that right.

 

[ols386]

i say - that if you're a dancer (exotic kind) - that you wear that necklace and get a big ol' dragonfly tattoo somewhere special and let everyone see it.
and wear your necklace.
HA!
sounds like dragonflies will be your new thing for a while.

I think the OP already said she wasn't a dancer, but she works in a bar.

While it may not be physical it IS a form of bullying just if someone was to bully you on face book no contact obvoiusly but it is a called BULLYING!

I do believe that bullying isn't always a physical act. People get bullied all the time on Facebook by words. I don't think this situation was bullying, but that girl sounds extremely immature. If it were me, I'd wear that necklace everyday for awhile, just to make a point.

 

[happygirl]

You don't owe anyone an explanation of where you work - or what you do - although over and over and over I have seen people here try to bully (yes folks - I used the word "bully") others into revealing information that is none of their business.. (And it really aggravates them when you won't "play along"..)

As for the "vent" - I guess you didn't get the memo.. People are only allowed to vent over something like this with prior approval of the same people who vent over minor issues themselves - practically on a daily basis..

Oh - and don't worry about "the rule" - that's pre-school nonsense as well..

Wear your gift from your DD proudly - anywhere you choose!



Ann are you calling people names like preschoolers that not nice

Ann are you calling people names like preschoolers that not nice

 

[ols386]

I never said I didn't have a back bone nor did I say I won;t wear it b/c I will and planned on it every night I work. I was just saying I know what exactly what they were implying is all. Nor did I say was a victim I was just upset that there are people out there tht really think that others should do as they want. I was stunned that someone would have odacity (sp) to think they had that right.

You're right Cheermom. It is kind of unbelievable that someone would even make a remark like that about your necklace. Some people don't realize that just because they 'think' something, doesn't necessarily mean that they should 'say' it.

 

[ilovemk76]

Neither party had actions/reactions that were really understandable to me.

But sorry you had to feel that way OP...Maybe you could just go to work in the total buff??? Then that could be "Your thing".

They she will be able to show the dragonfly tat off too!!

 

[Imzadi]

This is crazy I felt like I was in kindergarten.

O.M.G! I was thinking the same exact thing. If you weren't such a longtime poster, and you kept mentioning you have a DD, I would have thought that one of the teens on the teen forum came over to post what happened to her.


Sorry that happened to you. Know that it was them and not you. Some situations in Life are so wacky sometimes.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

They she will be able to show the dragonfly tat off too!!

Ahhhh see....I wasn't even thinking about that.

 

[luvsJack]

Cheermom, I would of popped off with some smart remark too. Somehow I think more people would have than are willing to admit it.

You know these people, we don't. But, I wouldn't worry about it. In fact, like others said, I would just add a few more dragonflies! LOL

They certainly sound like very immature individuals.

 

[ols386]

Ann are you calling people names like preschoolers that not nice

Who's Ann? And why did you post this?

 

[cheermom1]

You don't owe anyone an explanation of where you work - or what you do - although over and over and over I have seen people here try to bully (yes folks - I used the word "bully") others into revealing information that is none of their business.. (And it really aggravates them when you won't "play along"..)

As for the "vent" - I guess you didn't get the memo.. People are only allowed to vent over something like this with prior approval of the same people who vent over minor issues themselves - practically on a daily basis..

Oh - and don't worry about "the rule" - that's pre-school nonsense as well..

Wear your gift from your DD proudly - anywhere you choose!

Oh C.ann thank you so much and I will wear my necklace where ever I like even to work if I want. i am not about to let 2 people stop me from that. Besides those people are not looking at our necklaces or anything else think that anyway.

I like the comment about working in the buff and it can my my thing too funny. I have already been ignoring the ones who are not being so nice a I was advised to ignore from them too. lol

As I said I was more stunned that someone had the guns to think they have the right to tell others what they can be into or not to wear or not to wear something. and that they have that right.

 

[C.Ann]

Ann are you calling people names like preschoolers that not nice

Absolutely not.. I didn't call anyone a "name" - I referred to actions - as did some of the posters when harping on the OP.. It's a two-way street..

 

[Dr.Girlfriend]

Really, this is all I can think of right now.

 

[cheermom1]

Really, this is all I can think of right now.

LMAO TOO FUNNY!

 

[Dr.Girlfriend]

LMAO TOO FUNNY!

 

[Tink888]

If the girl really was serious, she sounds like a loon, but in all honesty I think you were the one took things too seriously.

A ton of people I know say "you suck" all the time when someone gets something nice. It's a joking way of saying, "lucky, we're jealous". Example:

Me: I'm going to Disney.
Friend: What!?!?!?! You suck!!!! I want to go to Disney!

I wouldn't have taken her seriously and made a joking comment back.

Sounds like once her and the bouncer knew you were taking her seriously, they took it further and had a little fun with you.

Instead of being upset, be flattered. The girl likes your necklace!

And no, this is nowhere near bullying.

 

[cheermom1]

If the girl really was serious, she sounds like a loon, but in all honesty I think you were the one took things too seriously.

A ton of people I know say "you suck" all the time when someone gets something nice. It's a joking way of saying, "lucky, we're jealous". Example:

Me: I'm going to Disney.
Friend: What!?!?!?! You suck!!!! I want to go to Disney!

I wouldn't have taken her seriously and made a joking comment back.

Sounds like once her and the bouncer knew you were taking her seriously, they took it further and had a little fun with you.

Instead of being upset, be flattered. The girl likes your necklace!

And no, this is nowhere near bullying.

Again i know these people and she was not joking in the first place. I know her well enough to know that she keeps to herself most of the time and when she has a problem she will say something other than that she doesn't say anything to anyone. We are not friends and never have been. I didn't not take her serious in the beginning so yu might want to read again.

When she first said 'you suck' I thought she was talking about my out fit. that was when she said no your necklace and I said I dd got for me for my bday that was when she started to talk over me and I rolled my eyes and left. She did not see me roll my eyes as she was too busy looking at herself in the mirror.

It wasn't until the bouncer said something that I realized she and he was serious. So please don't assume something.

 

[marlynnp]

Absolutely not.. I didn't call anyone a "name" - I referred to actions - as did some of the posters when harping on the OP.. It's a two-way street..

Stop being sanctimonious, you said those people were being bullies.

Pot meet kettle.