Since when did "customer service" become a dirty word?
Customer service is a premium element of the purchase of a product. Putting eBay aside, for a moment, even in the regular, commercial economy, buyers have been choosing low price over customer service, in alarmingly increasing numbers, for the last twenty years. So, in essence, customer service became a dirty word when buyers realized that they could save money by buying products from companies willing to skimp on some elements of the purchase. If you've ever chosen to buy from a retailer based on price, without regard to the differential between the service provided by different retailers, then you've contributed to this situation. Even if you have not, the vast majority of the consumer marketplace has, and has imposed this disturbing situation on all of us.
I don't understand how sellers do not treat their customers as they themselves would want to be treated.
Go back and read the OP: "When I sell on eBay I use it to get rid of stuff I don't want. If I don't want it now I certainly don't want it back because you decide you don't want it after it gets to you." Given that: I don't understand why
buyers don't treat the
people they buy from as they themselves would want to be treated, when
they're holding a garage sale.
I don't understand sellers who feel it is not worth their time to negotiate a return or partial refund to make a buyer happy.
Again, a garage sale is intended not to foster a repeat business, but rather to come to a win-win proposition, in the moment. The whole point of eBay is for buyer and seller to treat each other as
peers. That eliminates the typical consumer advantage that buyers have in the commercial marketplace. In return, buyers get a lower price than they would have in the commercial marketplace.
I don't understand sellers who seem to view buyers who may have a problem with an item as scammers and scumbags first and honest people last.
There is more than enough evidence to support the advice that folks using eBay should beware of both buyers and sellers who are "scammers and scumbags" -- even those with allegedly good "ratings". Without the protections normally afforded by a normal commercial transaction, both buyers and sellers had better "hope for the best, but prepare for the worst."
... to the good of all of eBay.
Sorry, but I'm utterly mystified by this statement.
Just to make things clear ... I don't expect sellers to roll over and refund for buyer's remorse or that the buyer didn't read the description properly
I don't think it is reasonable to expect that regular commercial businesses will typically do so either. While some might do so, to foster good will, that comes at a price, and for companies trying to offer the lowest possible price, it isn't appropriate for them to cover the costs of buyer's remorse.
Full Disclosure: I'm not a regular seller on eBay. I've sold two things, both were sets of furniture that we were replacing. Again, garage sale: Come take it away, and no, I'm not interested in taking any returns, since I already would have purchased new furniture.