I have yet to see a CM refuse a trade w/ any child or any adult for that matter. If the CM (and many of them are pretty clueless about the 'authentic' pin versus 'scrapper' pin) thinks that the pin is not really 'tradable', they will usually just trade w/ the person and then toss it in their pocket instead of putting it on their lanyard.
As far as getting scrappers on ebay. Buy the pins you want. There are many scrappers that are so close to the original that you would have to check each and every pin against the original issue which is EXTREMELY time consuming and not necessarily an easy task. I just bought 20 pins from an ebay seller that allowed you to pick however many you wanted for 1.20 a piece. I didn't want to get too many in case they weren't good quality. They all look fine to me, and I'm not spending my time trying to 'authenticate' the legitimacy of each and every one. As I've previously stated in other posts, if Disney was really concerned about scrapper pins infiltrating the trading 'world', they would do something about it. But evidently, they don't care enough to address it. I usually trade about 200 pins on a trip. I am not spending crazy amounts of $$ to do it. I used to get some pretty good deals on clearanced pins at the
Disney store but they haven't been carrying pins lately (at least not around here). Oh and BTW, many of the Disney store pins were not nearly as good of a quality as the rack pins at WDW.

Actually, many scrappers were way better quality than the Dis Store pins.
Technically, a CM is not supposed to take a pin in a trade that they already have on their lanyard, but I've seen many of them do it anyway. I've also seen them trade for a non-Disney pin too and that is a huge no-no too. But they don't really enforce their own trading rules. That is why I say, that Disney doesn't really care about the authenticity of their pins. If they were concerned about scrappers they could find a way to fix the problem.
So the point to my post is.... buy the pins you want to buy from ebay or wherever. Go to WDW, enjoy pin trading and have fun.
Oh and if you do decide to try to pin trad at DTD....
DO BE CAREFUL. Many (not all of them though) of those traders are 'shady' and will take advantage of the 'newbie' pin trader. They will try to get you to go into the store and buy them a particular pin and then trade it for one that is much less valuable. It's best as a rooky trader, to stick to trading w/ just the CM's. Many people like to take advantage of the 'newbie' in trading.
Best of Luck, Have a Wonderful trip, and happy trading!!!