Ear piercing and soccer

[tinkerbell198530]

I know in the league I coached in band aids were not acceptable. I left many a game with someone's earings in my pocket

so you actually confinsacted the earings. Why not give them to the parents I know from experance that they are not cheap.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

You cannot remove the studs--either delay it or consult the coach.

I had forgotten about the rule when I had my dd's ears pierced and due to field logistics...one had played with her earrings in (they didn't say a word) on her U6 field.

The other, we escort her to her field at game time as we did all season and then go back and pick up the other dd on her field.

I came back to my child in tears b/c the idiot coach took it upon themselves to forcibly remove the one earring--and then the other that couldn't be removed--they taped. I was LIVID b/c they didn't bother to ask her. She told them not to and they did it anyway.

She didn't play that day b/c we left an then she opted out of the last game but still brought snack.

The earring hole is still an "injury" at that point--at least for my dd who had ear infections the last time she tried pierced ears and when they did this, it was only 3 days into it. (nothing was said to her or me at practice where she clearly had pierced ears!) No sanitation--no nothing. My dd felt extremely violated.

I would delay if you can or consult the coach about taping them. I would NOT remove them since they are fresh still within that 2 week period. So if there is any chance they will not work with you--pass on it until the season is over.

(ETA: Yes it is my fault for violating the rule--but the coaches did something they had no right to do...and that was to do something without my permission or even my dd's consent all in the name of a game. Bench her if she is not dressed right just like she'd have to be if she forgot her shin guards.)

 

[debster812]

so you actually confinsacted the earings. Why not give them to the parents I know from experance that they are not cheap.

Not to speak for WMAlex, but I think confiscate is really not the right word. In our league, the coaches and players are on one side of the field, and the parents and spectators are on the other. The teams line up as the refs check them in (check for sneakers or cleats, check for shin pads, check for no jewelry, etc). If a player is asked to remove earrings, or a chain they generally will hand it to the coach to hold, since they are right there, and mom/dad are across the field. By the end of the game, the coach may forget they have them. I know my son's coach drove around with DS's cross and chain in his car for nearly 3 weeks. It happens.

 

[WebmasterAlex]

Not to speak for WMAlex, but I think confiscate is really not the right word. In our league, the coaches and players are on one side of the field, and the parents and spectators are on the other. The teams line up as the refs check them in (check for sneakers or cleats, check for shin pads, check for no jewelry, etc). If a player is asked to remove earrings, or a chain they generally will hand it to the coach to hold, since they are right there, and mom/dad are across the field. By the end of the game, the coach may forget they have them. I know my son's coach drove around with DS's cross and chain in his car for nearly 3 weeks. It happens.

Yes! Exactly.. they always got them back it's that often everyone forgot, I would check my pocket after a game and find them. The parents would then get a call

 

[tinkerbell198530]

I feel better about that becuse I would hate for the coaches to premitaly take something away, but seens the give it back I feel better about the situation.

 

[allison443]

I would let her get her ears pierced and then just put some tape over them for the games. Most leagues have provisions for newly pierced ears anyway.

I would recommend that parents first check if their league allows the use of tape or bandaids, as others have mentioned. My kids have played in a number of different soccer leagues at all levels (rec, travel, high school) and exactly NONE have allowed kids to just put tape or bandaids over the earrings. Parents are told the rules and expected to put off ear piercing till the season is over.

 

[Macca1111]

It is a rule in our league about earrings! NONE can be worn. She can wait until the season ends! I believe that is the first weekend in June!

She is not fond of pain so having to take them out and put them back in again could prove troublesome. We'll pick out some special earrings this week. She will also get some of mine. This will also give me a chance to sort through some of mine that I never wear that she can look forward to wearing and we can practice taking care of them. It will be like training!

We all make mistakes as parents and we learn from those mistakes. Ours was not thinking about this before mentioning it to her. She'll be happy with the camera as her old one which was a hand me down from us just broke recently.

Thanks again for all of your comments!

Just wanted to applaud your good solution. Glad you're thinking ahead about your child's well being. Hope she enjoys the camera, I always love getting a new one!

 

[shortbun]

On my softball team we put bandaids on em the little minature bandaids

They let the kids tape them in our league.

 

[ICF]

I would let her get her ears pierced and then just put some tape over them for the games. Most leagues have provisions for newly pierced ears anyway.

some do some dont....

My daughters league decided midway through last season (a month or so at least after she had hers pierced) that band-aids werent good enough and they had to come out altogether.

 

[PattnFmly]

No earrings allowed in our soccer league. None. No bandaids either. And in our league they line up and the ref checks all their gear and they are not allowed to play unless properly attired, all the way! And believe it or not, sometimes the parents aren't there! They may have dropped off the child for the game (8-9 yr olds) or they may be watching another sibling on another field (we have a really big field with lots of games at the same time) so are around, but not RIGHT there.

 

[tigger813]

Parents are not allowed on the same side of the field as the team. The coach can get in trouble. The kids line up in front of the ref and are checked over for correct uniform and no jewelry. If they have jewelry some will run the removed jewelry over to their parents.

DH is the coach so he knows the rules. We just didn't think about this.

She's fine this morning and will look forward to the season ending!

 

[Becky2005]

This is one reason my DD had to wait until she was older to get pierced ears.

I was on the volleyball team in high school, a girl got her ears pierced. She had to take her studs out for games -- she basically had to re-pierce her ears after everytime. It freaked me out.

She thought she could just tape them too but nope, she was required to remove them and this was back in the 80's. I know with gymnastics they were pretty strict about the no jewelry rule even now. Basically every sport I've known seems to be pretty strict about it.

 

[Geoff_M]

No earrings allowed in our soccer league. None. No bandaids either.

When I was a referee in our AYSO league, we prohibited the "band-aid" solution too. It was part of our pre-game equipment check.

 

[tigger813]

DD1 was still a little sad but as she thought about it she decided it would give her more time to get excited. We will practice cleaning her ears and the earrings with peroxide and will let her buy some earrings. She is excited about buying Mickey earrings when we go to Disney.

 

[luvsJack]

Op, sounds like you and your dd have it all worked out at this point and have come up with the best solution.

I am a bit confused though, all this "repiercing". The game is only an hour. Dd never had any problem with that. After the 6 weeks was up and if she slept without earrings sometimes a thin layer of skin would grow over but not enough to hurt when the earring went back in. Our only problem was the earrings that the place put in lock on and its really hard to get the back off. It hurt to try and pull enough to get them off. So, the next game I took a different pair of studs with me and when it came time to put the earrings back in, I put a different pair in that would come off easier and the problem was solved. I imagine those piercer earrings is what caused the coach to hurt the pp's dd's ear when he tried to pull the earrings out. Regular earrings don't usually do that.


ETA: I wouldn't recommend putting a band aid over an earring. If the child gets hit in the ear with the ball it is still going to hurt, especially with a sharp earring. Plus the band aid is not going to keep something getting tangled with the earring and it getting pulled out (this was the main thing in basketball--those little girls get ROUGH!).


OP, just saw your last post. OT but Avon has the cutest little Mickey head earrings for like $5.00. DD and I both have a pair. Not bought at Disney but may be something to add to the Easter basket to add to her looking forward to getting them pierced and she would have some to wear on the way to Disney!

 

[wenrob]

I know in the league I coached in band aids were not acceptable. I left many a game with someone's earings in my pocket

Me too-Team Mom for five years, pockets full or earrings, hair clips etc.

so you actually confinsacted the earings. Why not give them to the parents I know from experance that they are not cheap.

No you don't confiscate them you hold them for the girls who's parents ignore the written (and repeated often by team moms and coaches) rules. Sometimes the girls would forget to come get them back.
ETA: I realize how rude this sounded, it was not directed specifically at anyone, just left over frustration. Some people do forget but some just think it's no big deal and do it anyway thinking it'll get overlooked.

Tape was never acceptable in our league either. It's not some obscure make your life a pain in the butt rule it's there for the kids safety period.

 

[mjkacmom]

Don't do it! Poor dd9 has had her ears pierced twice and closed up, one from soccer, one from swimming, and she took them out after the allotted time (which is much longer than 2 weeks).

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

DD1 was still a little sad but as she thought about it she decided it would give her more time to get excited. We will practice cleaning her ears and the earrings with peroxide and will let her buy some earrings. She is excited about buying Mickey earrings when we go to Disney.

Do not use peroxide!!!!

I had an (unknown) metal allergy and thus had lots of gook and pus and would clean my ears and my earrings with peroxide. The peroxide ate the metal finish off the posts. Not sure if it was b/c they were cheap or what.

Use only alcohol or the approved cleaning solution.

Don't use peroxide.

 

[clutter]

I would let her get her ears pierced and then just put some tape over them for the games. Most leagues have provisions for newly pierced ears anyway.

Absolutely not!!!!! The referees do not allow earrings for safety reasons. Period. I was chatting with some refs at a game yesterday. If you have well-trained refs they will let you know that your choice is to wear your earrings or to play.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I wouldn't, just give her a "certificate" or something promising her earrings when she's done with soccer. After even a few hours she probably won't be able to get them back in, and it could be a mess. I'd just wait.