Dropping out of dance, taking Tae Kwon Do instead

[Moonpie]

Are any of you taking dance classes for your wedding? My fiance and I are official "dance school drop outs". It's been too hard to make it to our lessons, or to even practice dancing with our work schedules, wedding planning, and...general life stuff. So, we quit. We may, or may not dance at our wedding now. And quite honestly it was causing me a lot of stress...thinking about flinging around on the dance floor like weebles wobble....while everyone stares at us.....it just wasn't looking good at all. So.....I saw that next door to the dance place they teach Tae Kwon Do. I was joking around with my fiance about doing a Tae Kwon Do demonstration at the wedding instead. Just joking...but, honestly it sounds more interesting than bumping into each other on the dance floor for a minute and a half.

 

[CarolinaGirl453]

How fun!!! I can just see it now....you and your FH punching and kicking at each other on the dance floor!

We started dance lessons in July for our December wedding. We're planning a waltz for our first dance.

I know what you mean about scheduling. We are both police officers and work really strange hours. Add in all the wedding planning, and there really isn't much time left.

The lessons were hard at first, but now we're having a lot of fun with it.

If you do decide on a martial arts first "dance", please post pics!

Michelle

 

[kimnkel]

If you don't enjoy dancing at all, then I say don't do it. The First Dance is another of those wedding reception things that have become like some sort of sacred cow. "We MUST do it because it is Traditional" (with a capital "T"). Well, I say: bull. We should do what we are comfortable with, and what reflects us as a couple. I am not having a big wedding reception, but if I were, I would never, ever, and I mean notinamillionyears ever, do that teeth off garter toss thing. So. Everybody is different.

But maybe the dance classes/instructors just weren't any good? Are you sure you want to give up? I know learning can feel so akward, but any new skill set can be tough to acquire. I started lifting weights with my DF, and even though I have always been athletic and stuff, I HATED it at first. It was so hard, the gym atmosphere was intimidating, all the other girls in there were so buff, and I felt like other people were doing this to me but I hung in there, and now I can hold my head up! And give a reassuring to the newbies!

Dancing can be soooo fun, and so sexy and sweet. My DF is a 245 lb former football player, and he loves to dance. When we were first dating we stopped in a shop to pick up a dress for me, and when a love song came on their stereo he grabbed me and started dancing with me. Until he did that, I hadn't even noticed the song. Now dancing together is one of the ways we connect.

Maybe look into other dance instructors before you give up? You don't have to be able to do some Fred Astairs/Ginger Rogers thing--but have you seen the great wedding photos that come from the first dance?

Best of luck with whatever you decide, but I think a martial arts display will be tough in a wedding gown.... LOL.

 

[wendy46001]

The First Dance is another of those wedding reception things that have become like some sort of sacred cow.

....thank you so much i so needed this laugh today...


edited because i cant type through the tears

 

[BrideToBe82]

Haha that's great! Do what you feel most comfortable doing!! Me and my fiance love to dance so we will be dancing at our wedding-we were talking about taking formal classes but we are both so busy.

 

[Fantasia Sam]

Oh how fun!! Godo for you two, whatever makes you happy. I think a lot of stock is put into the first dance and from what I've been reading more and more couples are taking dance lessons for that first dance, to me that just seems like more pressure that you certainly don't need after your nuptuals, but again what makes everyone happy is what is important.

OK I have to admit though the first thought that came into my head was you both dancing to that song that was certainly popular here in the UK in the early 70's "Everybody was Kung Fu Fighting" I know that what you are doing is different from Kung Fu but it just popped into my head!

 

[hmgolden]

We did the first dance thing, but we didn't take lessons. There was no way I was going to get DH to dance class! I'm not a huge fan of the first dance tradition, but I know a lot of our guests would have been disapointed if we hadn't done it. That said, I wished we picked a shorter song! 3.5 minutes starts to seem really long when there are a few dozen people staring at you

 

[mommyesq]

I am a green belt in TKD, my fiancee is a white belt and my son is a blue belt - maybe we should do a demo for our wedding guests......

 

[Moonpie]

OK I have to admit though the first thought that came into my head was you both dancing to that song that was certainly popular here in the UK in the early 70's "Everybody was Kung Fu Fighting" I know that what you are doing is different from Kung Fu but it just popped into my head!

I love that song!
"Everybody was-a-kungfu-fiiiiiightiiiiiiing! Hiiiiiiiiiiiyahhhhhhhh! -cha-cha-ching-ching-ching!" And my high heel flies through the air....and we cut the cake with a Kaaaaraaaate chop! "Hyahhhhh!"

Thanks for your comments everyone! I'm still thinking about what we are going to do....and I'll make sure that what ever we choose, it's something that makes us happy.

 

[FSUDisneyGirl]

i laughed when i saw this because...

one of my best friends from growing up got married a month ago...and a few weeks before the wedding, her dad (who is almost 7 feet tall!) decided he didn't want to look goofy on the dance floor....so they took lessons, and got this whole routine created (to the song "i loved her first" which is great if you haven't heard it!!!). well, they did enjoy the lessons they had, but ditched the routine completely. however, her dad did seem much more comfortable during the father/ daughter dance, and now wants to continue lessons with his wife!

i say pick a shorter song, and have them start playing it as you are walking to the dance floor...waste a few seconds as you get out there! possibly even invite both sets of parents, or all married couples out to dance with you, instead of it being just a focus on the 2 of you.

good luck with whatever you decide to do!

 

[Laurafoster]

How fun! such a unique idea, im sure your guests would love it!

We are doing the first dance, we picked so amazing by luther vandross, but in the UK other couples tend to join you half way through the dance so its not so bad.

We certainly wont be having the lessons though!

 

[kimnkel]

Laura; that is a great idea--other couples joining in! Much less awkward! I love that idea! Why couldn't we have the DJ or the band leader invite other couple's out, and ask our bridesmaids and family members to join in half way through--sort of prepare them to get on out there?

No wonder we are always borrowing ideas from the UK!

And hey--if anybody decides to go with the kung fo fighting idea, they could invite people out on the floor to volunteer to be flipped over the bride's head!

Aaayyyyyy yaaaaaa!

 

[Fantasia Sam]

We made sure everyone joined us for the last dance at our wedding and we had our DJ just fade out our first dance song when Paul gave him the nod, same with my Brother and Sister dance (my brother gave me away) LOL

Laura I love that song by Luther - so lovely

 

[Laurafoster]

Laura; that is a great idea--other couples joining in! Much less awkward! I love that idea! Why couldn't we have the DJ or the band leader invite other couple's out, and ask our bridesmaids and family members to join in half way through--sort of prepare them to get on out there?

No wonder we are always borrowing ideas from the UK!

And hey--if anybody decides to go with the kung fo fighting idea, they could invite people out on the floor to volunteer to be flipped over the bride's head!

Aaayyyyyy yaaaaaa!

Are you kidding, im forever pinching idea's off this board!

Really dont think i could handle a whole 3/4 minutes of dancing by ourselves with everybody watching me!! Know Gary would hate too - he's not that fond of dancing lol!

 

[Funniebunny]

What happened to the bride and groom dancing around in a circle I thought that was a long standing tradition. I used to take ballroom dance lessons when I was in my teens but my fiance has two left feet, although he thinks he's a great dancer, so we will do the circle thing