Dressing "too provocatively" at Golden Corral

[Jennasis]

And some know better than to answer the question of does this make me look bad/fat with, "Yes, it totally makes you look terrible. "

My husband knows to answer me truthfully and never EVER let me leave the house looking like a disaster. If I ask him if something makes me look fat/dumpy etc he has and will tell me.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

My husband knows to answer me truthfully and never EVER let me leave the house looking like a disaster. If I ask him if something makes me look fat/dumpy etc he has and will tell me.

Full disclosure. My spouse would want to know the truth. However, given what people have said about what is on this woman's facebook, and barring someone else saying otherwise, I'll have to take their word on that because I can't go beyond the cover page, and given everything else, does this particular woman strike you as someone that would want the truth in that regard? Because she doesn't strike me as that sort.

 

[RedAngie]

Reading about Golden Corral makes me wonder how the Captain Kidd's Buffet on Harbor across the street from Disneyland can stay in business. That place makes the Golden Corral look like a high end Las Vegas buffet in comparison.

The Yelp reviews are hilarious...

https://www.yelp.com/biz/captain-kidds-family-restaurant-anaheim

One area smelled like wet dog.

I love reading the terrible reviews on yelp and tripadvisor.

 

[Jennasis]

Full disclosure. My spouse would want to know the truth. However, given what people have said about what is on this woman's facebook, and barring someone else saying otherwise, I'll have to take their word on that because I can't go beyond the cover page, and given everything else, does this particular woman strike you as someone that would want the truth in that regard? Because she doesn't strike me as that sort.

LOL I'm not touching this woman's story with a 10' pole. Just wanted to chime in and say some husbands ARE willing to tell their wive the truth...when asked...about how they look. I don't know if my husband would tell me unprompted "hey you shouldn't wear that shirt...I can see your muffin top".

 

[DisneyHardin]

Mental note: Don't invite her husband to the weekly poker game.

What a horrible thing to say. I'm fat and my husband tells me I look sexy and beautiful. Should I just always assume he is lying?

 

[lifesavacation]

My husband knows to answer me truthfully and never EVER let me leave the house looking like a disaster. If I ask him if something makes me look fat/dumpy etc he has and will tell me.

I mostly agree with you. I can trust my husband to give me an honest answer. If I ask him how I look, he’ll respond back by asking what kind of a look I’m going for. Most of the time I’m shooting for perfectly appropriate or business casual or nice without trying too hard. If I responded by saying sexy, and instead I looked like a street walker, he’d tell me I was off point. He’d never tell me I looked like a low class dirtbag (reference to a previous post, not the quoted). Lol!

 

[ronandannette]

Reading about Golden Corral makes me wonder how the Captain Kidd's Buffet on Harbor across the street from Disneyland can stay in business. That place makes the Golden Corral look like a high end Las Vegas buffet in comparison.

The Yelp reviews are hilarious...

https://www.yelp.com/biz/captain-kidds-family-restaurant-anaheim

I've never been anywhere near a Golden Corral and the only points of reference I can conjure is Captain Kidd's or some of the places I've been in Vegas. You did a great job of putting it in a context I can relate to!

My husband knows to answer me truthfully and never EVER let me leave the house looking like a disaster. If I ask him if something makes me look fat/dumpy etc he has and will tell me.

There's a really broad spectrum between "not quite as flattering as it could be" and "looking like a disaster". My DH would have a hard time being fully honest about the former, and I'd never approach being in the latter category. Personally I think if it's a close-enough call that one has to ask, it's probably best to just put on something else.

 

[Disneylover99]

What a horrible thing to say. I'm fat and my husband tells me I look sexy and beautiful. Should I just always assume he is lying?

No. You’re sexy and beautiful to him and that’s a wonderful thing.

But I think we need to realize, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The reality is, what’s sexy to one person may not be sexy to the next person, no matter what size or shape you are.

 

[DisLiss]

I never would have complained about her. I very likely never would have even noticed her.

But the only thing that really jumped out at me in this story was this part of her response to what happened: ""So what if I am in there and if I have a problem with someone’s religious attire, would you make them leave?""

That didn't endear me to her at all. You can point out that someone is treating you unfairly without giving examples of how you might treat an entirely different group of people unfairly yourself. I know she's not saying she would actually do that, but I don't know, it just rubbed me the wrong way for some reason.

I don't know what I would do in her shoes, but I doubt I would have gone to a lawyer about it, nor posted a photo of myself in said outfit for the entire internet (never known to be particularly kind) to critique. I hope she doesn't wind up feeling even worse before this all pans out.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Reading about Golden Corral makes me wonder how the Captain Kidd's Buffet on Harbor across the street from Disneyland can stay in business. That place makes the Golden Corral look like a high end Las Vegas buffet in comparison.

The Yelp reviews are hilarious...

https://www.yelp.com/biz/captain-kidds-family-restaurant-anaheim

HAHA. That is a well known place to avoid for those of us that go to Disneyland a lot. It's one of those places that benefits by its location across from Disneyland and benefits by the fact that a lot of people do not do their homework. Other than that, how it stays in business is one of life's mysteries. Kind of like how did Starship's We built this city ever become a hit? Oh we superficially know the answers. But we don't REALLY know the answers.

 

[lifesavacation]

No. You’re sexy and beautiful to him and that’s a wonderful thing.

But I think we need to realize, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The reality is, what’s sexy to one person may not be sexy to the next person, no matter what size or shape you are.

And when you get to know someone, their personality traits can really impact how you see them, good and bad. I’m sure we’ve all met someone who you thought was beautiful and after getting to know them you no longer see them as attractive. And vice versa.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

As someone who has never visited a buffet outside of Disney, I’ve always kind of assumed that Golden Corral is similar to Chef Mickey’s, but without the characters. Reading this thread, I’m starting to think I may have been a bit off the mark in this assumption.

We used to eat at Golden Corral...about 25 years ago. The one we went to in Colorado was very clean, the layout was amazing (place was HUGE) and they used to bake those rolls fresh and deliver them to your table or you could pick them up at the counter by the oven. It's now a sad, faded version of itself, and we won't eat there for any reason.

I still think there is more to the story...

I think so too.

 

[robinb]

Full disclosure. My spouse would want to know the truth. However, given what people have said about what is on this woman's facebook, and barring someone else saying otherwise, I'll have to take their word on that because I can't go beyond the cover page, and given everything else, does this particular woman strike you as someone that would want the truth in that regard? Because she doesn't strike me as that sort.

Hmmm ... I also looked at the woman's public FB profile and I did not get that kind of negative feeling about her at all.

 

[Kitty 34]

Just saying.....I haven't read this entire thread but I have two things I will say after reading about 3 pages........

#1......I've never ever been to a Golden Corral

#2.......I've never worn outfits 3-5 sizes smaller than my body size.

 

[JoeA]

Well, if I ever get roped into eating at this place...now I know how I’m dressing!

 

[Disneylover99]

Well, if I ever get roped into eating at this place...now I know how I’m dressing!

Don’t forget to post a picture.

 

[wishesuponastar]

I think I read that she and her family were meeting a friend that couldn’t make it to the birthday party the day before so maybe the woman in the photo drove the hour to GC because her friend lived near it.

 

[AustinTink]

There was just a video circulating of the little boy on an airplane with a bare foot up on the armrest behind him. The video and the accompanying comments went on about how gross that is. Same goes for butt cheeks at a buffet. I know the picture she posted doesn't show her backside, but from the length of the shorts you can bet the cheeks were hanging out. That's just disgusting; I don't care if she is a size 2 or a 20.

 

[MrsPete]

It’s basically a two sizes too small Daisy Mae/Daisy Duke costume.

Yes, no matter what your size, squeezing yourself into something a size smaller isn't flattering.

I agree with her that if a skinny woman or a teen would have been wearing that, there wouldn't have been a peep about the outfit.

Yeah, there's some truth to that comment.

There is part of me that wonders if the photo actually shows how she was wearing this outfit, the top especially. The material appears to be very stretchy and can be manipulated so that it sits as seen or might travel up or down depending on how the person moves.

I was going to bring that up. My students like to play that game: They wear a skirt hiked up high (or a top pulled way down low, and if you talk to them about dress code, they pull it down so it's more appropriate ... but as soon as they walk out into the hall, it's hiked up again.

Who drives an hour to go to the Golden Corral? You couldn’t pay me to walk across the street to go.

Yeah, I miss many things about my grandparents, but their favorite choice of restaurant isn't one of them!

 

[cobright]

First of all, I rub people the wrong way all the time supporting restaurants having dress codes. But this is Golden Coral!

She was wearing summer clothes to the most informal dining location I can imagine. Calling her outfit "provocative" is an English failure.

I reject this notion that seeing a certain amount of leg, abdomen, or shoulder can be the proximate motivation for poor behavior in anyone except the occasional sociopath. Provocative... that seeing this woman in this outfit could be the proximate cause of someone's poor behavior is complete dark ages thinking. Yet some puritan snowflake is afraid of an impure thought, so this woman has to go eat somewhere else. It's barbarism.

That didn't endear me to her at all. You can point out that someone is treating you unfairly without giving examples of how you might treat an entirely different group of people unfairly yourself.

I think her point was that the restaurant manager's explanation didn't hold water. Or that if it did, what a horrible precedent it would establish. that anyone who doesn't like what someone else is wearing can simply complain and get them thrown out. that's what the guy said, they didn't have a dress code but if someone complains they step in.