Doreen's Fresh Start & Success Story! (Welcome Friends!)

[Strings]

Doreen,

I am glad to hear that you are taking a day for yourself. You have been expending so much energy being supportive of your kids, that you sound wiped out. Good for you, taking care of yourself as well. You are priority as well.

I am so glad that DS went to the funeral. Sometimes that is the closure one needs to start moving on with life. There will still be heartache and bd days, but it sounds like he is starting to deal with the shock. Keep an eye on him sweetie.

I hope you have a fantastic weekend,
Beth

 

[LAinSEA]

Doe:

I am so sorry for your son's loss of a dear friend. I don't know if any counselor knows the proper thing to say to a teen going through that kind of loss - despite years of education and training.

I lost friends to a terrible accident when I was in 8th grade. They were out driving around with some older friends and the car went into the river. All but one drown. I was with a friend that same evening who was best friends with one of the boys who died. For awhile, this boy blamed himself for not being with the others, then he credited me with "saving" him because he stayed to watch TV with me that night. He finally told me that there were so many things he need to say to this friend that hadn't been said - especially goodbye. My mother suggested, through me, that he write his friend a letter. Even though he could never deliver the letter, I do believe writing it was good for him and his feelings were felt by his friend who was gone.

The scare at school is something I can relate to. As someone who will be working in a high school soon, I hope that I can make my classroom a safe place where students can talk, express their hopes and fears, and we can find ways to make sure everyone feels valued and important. There is just so much more to school for teens than academics. It is the center of their world, the place where they are starting to be known for who they are and not what family they come from.

I think you did the right thing in being there for your son this week and taking a day for yourself. You're a great mom, Doreen!

-Laurie

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Doreen--I am so sorry to hear about your sons friend ..and the rumors at the school---We had the same thing gonig around our high school when i was still there..i hope your son is doing better

hope you are doing well--im glad you are taking a day for yourself also--i am sorry i havent been around--ive missed ya

 

[DoeWDW]

Life is slowly returning to normal. DS went to school yesterday (a half day) and then to work. He only broke down once at school. Today he has another full shift at the movie theater, one hour off, and then both kids will play in the spring band concert tonight. It will be a long full day.

I thoroughly enjoyed my "jammie day" yesterday. I'm feeling better today. I'm getting ready to head to work for an hour or two to catch up on emails. Tonight DH & I will attend the band concert, sure to be a tough one, since Danielle (the girl who died) was a key member of the band.

The scale is at 156. I haven't planned meals or made it to the grocery store. I really must make this a priority for tomorrow so next week is filled with good healthy food instead of whatever I can grab.

I'm off to work!

 

[septbride2002]

Oh I can only imagine how that band concert will go Band kids become such a close unit - almost like family since we all spend so much time together. I'm going to say a prayer for all of them today.

~Amanda

 

[toystoryduo]

Hi Doe,

How did your day go today? I am so happy to hear that you took time off yesterday for a jammie day. I hope it was a relaxing day for you.

Prayers are on the way for you and your family.

Take care!

 

[Auntmeme]

So sorry to hear about your son's friend and your daughter's school issues. Your such a great mom and I know you're giving them the right support My prayers are with you and your children.

I hope you can stay strong and healthy thru this tough time. Here's to some sunshine your way

 

[pearlieq]

You did a good thing taking a day to decompress and relax. Take care of yourself...

 

[DoeWDW]

Back to the normal routine!

Routine never felt so good. Both kids are at school. DH and I are at work. All is right with the world.

Saturday I got through all my emails and voicemails at work. My boss was also here so we got a chance to talk. This lessened the anxiety of coming in this morning. I'm probably on the naughty list of some higher ups because of missing some things last week, but I'm hoping they'll lose some faith in me and stop giving me so much work.

Yesterday I helped at Sunday School. In the afternoon the family went to see the new Star Wars movie - we all liked it. I took a long nap (2.5 hours), made a quick trip to the grocery store and went to bed.

Today I packed healthy food and even put a roast in the crock pot for dinner. I'm ready to get back to my healthy habits. Thank goodness the scale is at 156. I deserve to weigh 200+ with all the junk I've been eating.

The plan:
1. Devotions - We can be so caught up in the immediacy of our small worlds that we may not grasp the possibility of a quality relationship with Christ now and eternal life with him beyond our death. - from the Upper Room online devotional. Isn't this the truth?? When there are so many to-dos on the list, it's easy to say I'll study my Bible tomorrow, I'll pray later, etc. It only takes a moment to pray, to commune with God for just a short time, to feel His love surround me, to ask Him for the strength to carry on.
2. Pills - Meds taken, vitamins are sitting at home. I'll take them tonight with dinner.
3. Water - I have my 16oz Coronado Springs mug and am working on the first of 4 mugs full.
4. Healthy eating - I've had yogurt w/almonds for breakfast. Lunch will be an olive loaf sandwich on German dark wheat bread and a peach. Snacks will be an orange and 2 string cheese. Dinner is the roast in the crock pot but I have no idea what veggies I have at home to use for side dishes.
5. Exercise - none today.
6. Bedtime - 10 PM.

Tonight I have a meeting at church. They are forming a depression support group. It will be a busy day but a good one. I'm going to thank God often for the routine of my life.

 

[septbride2002]

I love greenbeans and carrots with my roast- very yummy! I'm glad to hear things are back to normal - your family deserves it. And great job on jumping back into the healthy living - you are going to feel fabulous by tonight. Perhaps it would be a nice evening for you and Todd to go for a walk. Take some time for just the two of you to reconnect - PLUS you get in your exercise!

Have a good day sweet Doreen - I'll be thinking about you.

~Amanda

 

[Auntmeme]

Happy Monday - sounds like a good day! stay focused and strong. And a walk would be nice unless the rain comes through. Here's some sun your way

Maryellen

 

[lulu201]

Hey, Doe-Doe! Let's kick some healthy living butt today! We're going to go forward and treat ourselves like the we are!

Thank you for your encouraging words in my journal this morning. I appreciate how you can take my and turn it .

I hope everything's going OK at work today.

Erin

 

[DoeWDW]

I only have a moment to post. I earned a smilie for devotions yesterday. I was close on all the others but just didn't quite make it.

Today and tomorrow I'm teaching. I have a class of 3!
1. Devotions - Do not fear, for I am with you, do not be afraid, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you. -Isaiah 41:10 (NRSV) Very appropriate for a day of teaching when I'm a bit anxious.
2. Pills - Meds taken, vitamins at home on the counter.
3. Water - have my 20oz bottle & will drink 3 of them.
4. Healthy eating - going for a few more healthy carbs today. B = bagel w/ butter, L = yogurt w/almonds, S = a peach and some olive loaf, D = ???
5. Exercise - maybe
6. Bedtime - 10 PM

Gotta run!

 

[lulu201]

Good morning, Doreen. Just wanted to stop by this morning and give you an a.m. hug. It's going to be rainy today, but let your smile be your umbrella and you'll be back in the before you know it!
Do what you can do to treat yourself right. It would be nice if we always had time to prioritize ourselves, but the fact of the matter is that it doesn't always work out that way. So just do what you can do. . .maybe a cup of tea this afternoon and a few deep breaths, or some lavender scented hand lotion accompanied by a tall, cool glass of water. . .Hey, that reminds me--did you ever get to read any of "Come Thirsty?"

Take care, sweetie--
Erin

 

[septbride2002]

Morning Doe, concentrate on the good things. Do what you can and sweat the small stuff later. I read a good quote the other day, "If it doesn't involve you or your families health, then it is all small stuff"

~Amanda

 

[lulu201]

How ya doin'?

 

[Strings]

Hi Doe,

So how did the class go? I know that can play havoc with your eating and water. I hope today went well.

Take care,
Beth

 

[DoeWDW]

Yesterday's class went well. Today I'll finish the class by noon (hopefully) and have the afternoon to catch up on other work.

Smilies yesterday were for devotions and bedtime. It IS hard to drink a ton of water while teaching, so I was behind a bit there. When I got home, I was exhausted and the first thing I found to eat was a danish. I fell asleep around 6:30 PM and slept through until morning. That kept me from overeating.

Today I still feel tired, but I'll make it through. I used to think these crashes were related to my depression. Now I'm not so sure. I have a full physical scheduled for next Friday so I'll talk to my doctor about it. I'm sure his first answer will be to up the dose on my anti-depressant and I'll try that, but I'll need to start keeping a better record of my crashes and other symptoms.

The plan:
1. Devotions - Hebrews 6:19 reminds us that in Christ we have "a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul." When we give way to transgression or disobedience, the anchor does not move -- we do. - from the Upper Room devotional.
2. Pills - I've taken my meds AND my vitamin! I finally remembered to bring my vitamins to work!
3. Water - 3 20oz bottles. 2/3 finished the first one.
4. Healthy eating - B = bagel w/ butter, L = yogurt w/ almonds, S = olive loaf, a peach, a pear and/or an orange, D????
5. Exercise - no.
6. Bedtime - 10 PM.

My goal today is to make it through. I'm just too tired to exercise. When I get home tonight, I plan on making dinner and that's it. Everything else will just have to wait while I rest and try to get over this fatigue.

Time for me to go teach. I'll try to get back later, but the Disboards have become painfully slow for me in the afternoons and evenings. Not sure why the response times are so poor but I sure hope they fix the problem soon.

Today, it's one foot in front of the other. I'll make it!

 

[lulu201]

Yes, girl, you WILL make it. One foot in front of the other, holding the Good Lord's hand--you're going to walk today's walk. That's exercise enough, from what it sounds!

I'm glad you're going to talk to your doctor and have a complete physical. I remember you saying that you two are able to communicate well--that's so important. Also, don't forget in all the hustle and bustle that you're in the DZone, and that's going to take a lot out of those of us who are chemically challenged.

Hold on, Doreen, Friday's coming.
Erin

 

[septbride2002]

Doe there could be many reasons for your fatique. You have been going non-stop for a couple of weeks now. It could just be that your body needs you to slow down a bit.

Take it easy today, focus on the positive, say a prayer, and everything will work itself out.

~Amanda