Don't Really Know Where Else To Turn

[scanne]

I never post threads like this, but right now I am so overwhelmed I really don't know where else to turn.

I don't even know how to put into words how I am feeling except for angry and frusturated and resentful.

All at my husband.

And I'm frusturated with my kids.

I'm overworked, over-tired and (I feel) under appreciated.

I work full time from 7:30am to 4pm almost every day (some days I'm done at 2:30pm). Then I get my kids from daycare and take them home to my 2nd full time job - AKA Mommy. BTW, I'm also the one getting them up and out of bed at 6:00am to get them to daycare by 7am. And now my DD has taken to staying up until 10pm. DH is working late - and I mean to like midnight late - 2-3 nights a week. So I'm left to run the whole friggin ship (please pardon my language). I'm snapping at my kids left and right, crying left and right and feeling out and out AWFUL.

I want to run away...but I don't, really. I just need HELP!!! I need to find a good balance - does it exist?


Sorry for whining. Thank you for listening.

 

[Mimi Q]

 

[Lisa L from MI]

I think it is "that time of year". I get like that around February or March every year.

I too feel quite overwhelmed at times. I don't work FT but I do work M-F 9-3. DH works weird nights and leaves at 4pm and is home around 4am. I have to wake up at 6:15 then drop my oldest at school (no buses this year) at 7:30...then I come home and finish getting ready and leave for work by 8:30 am.
On the way home I pick up my youngest from school and return home around 3:35....

I am assuming your kids are younger...so I can understand being home with little ones...thankfully mine are pretty self-sufficient.

I just think once we start getting nice weather and aren't so couped up in the house all the time it will get better....

I usually end up in tears at this time of year....maybe it is what they call "spring fever"???

Hang in there.......you are not alone!!

 

[ChristmasElf]

I never post threads like this, but right now I am so overwhelmed I really don't know where else to turn.

I don't even know how to put into words how I am feeling except for angry and frusturated and resentful.

All at my husband.

And I'm frusturated with my kids.

I'm overworked, over-tired and (I feel) under appreciated.

I work full time from 7:30am to 4pm almost every day (some days I'm done at 2:30pm). Then I get my kids from daycare and take them home to my 2nd full time job - AKA Mommy. BTW, I'm also the one getting them up and out of bed at 6:00am to get them to daycare by 7am. And now my DD has taken to staying up until 10pm. DH is working late - and I mean to like midnight late - 2-3 nights a week. So I'm left to run the whole friggin ship (please pardon my language). I'm snapping at my kids left and right, crying left and right and feeling out and out AWFUL.

I want to run away...but I don't, really. I just need HELP!!! I need to find a good balance - does it exist?


Sorry for whining. Thank you for listening.

My dh works in 3 different cities in 3 different states. He is home on the weekends and occasionally 1-2 days during the week. I spend my entire day in the car carting 4 kids to 3 different schools-each with a different start and end time. I get a 2.5 hour break during the day.
I do all the laundry,grocery shopping, hauling it home and putting away,house cleaning a 5 bedroom/4 bathroom house,I do all the pool cleaning-etc,I trim the hedges while oldest cuts the lawn,and then I make dinner, wash the dishes while the kids do homework,straighten up the house, put kids to bed,and then gab on phone to dh about 10 each night and then play on here or another site until I go to bed about 11:30.
Then I do it all again the next day. Sometimes life is hard.
Hang in there is what I tell myself.

 

[scanne]

My dh works in 3 different cities in 3 different states. He is home on the weekends and occasionally 1-2 days during the week. I spend my entire day in the car carting 4 kids to 3 different schools-each with a different start and end time. I get a 2.5 hour break during the day.

to you as well!

 

[rhanditresmom]

I feel for you! You must be a teacher...I, too, work in the schools F-T. I'm a speech pathologist. I also take on the responsibility of getting kids ready for school, breakfast, dressing, picking up, cooking dinner, cleaning up, getting homework done, reminding to take baths (!), and getting to bed. I also have to harrass DS about checking blood sugar and doing shots after meals. I am also a F-T graduate student! I get stressed, too!

I hear what you are saying...you are not alone! Sometimes it would be nice to run away. This school year has been really tough for me, as well.

I hope things get better for you!



i think i'm gonna go eat a container of frosting now......

 

[ericamanda01]

I hope you feel better soon.

 

[mommaU4]

Oh hon, I know how you feel. I really do and I don't even have a FT job outside of the home. But there are times lately that I don't think I can do it any more. The problems at school, the losing battle with housework, etc. The constant fighting to keep their rooms clean, and for goodness sake if someone sees the newspaper lying on the floor why is it that it stays there for a week until I have to pick it up???????? Is no one else capable of putting it in the recycling? Am I the only one who sees it?

My DH works nights so he's gone when the kids are home. So all the night- time duties fall onto me. Baths, dinner, homework, etc. I used to be better at this. I'm not sure when it all became too much. My kids fight non-stop too. There are four of them so someone is ALWAYS yelling at someone else. Always! Someone is always hitting someone or calling them a bad name.

My two youngest are not doing that well in school and who gets the blame? The mom does. Especially when it is a SAHM. If the house isn't perfect then I get the blame. If the kids are acting up then usually it's the mom who is at fault. Talk about pressure.

Anyways I could go on forever but I didn't mean to steal your thread. I just wanted you to know that there is at least one other soul out there who understands you. I would be happy to listen if you ever need a shoulder to cry on. PM me whenever. Hey, maybe we can run away together. Not forever...just long enough to get our sanity back. Good luck to you.

 

[Cinderella94]

Aw, I'm sorry Feel better soon.

 

[Serena]

 

[Daisy Duck 5]

Is there anyway you can get a babysitter one night a week and just go out and have a night to yourself or with your DH? Even if you just go get a coffee for an hour or two. Just wanted to let you know that I don't think your child is the only one up until 10 cause I can hear the 3 year old upstair with her older sisters and it is 11:32.

 

[Sparx]

 

[AC7179]

Oh, honey, I feel your pain. It will get better, I promise. I do think that this time of the year is hard to get through---but try to tell your husband how you feel. Maybe he can help. If nothing else, schedule a weekend for yourself.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

It does get very difficult sometimes. Hang in there.

 

[MAKmom]

What does your Husband do for a living? The kids are not just your job if you work full time too. Why is he working until 12: 30? It's hard when they are small.

 

[hentob]

I see you have a trip planned When the going gets rough, picture yourself on the beach at the Poly sipping a drink ....or the smell of the monorail. ..or pushing through the gates of the MK for the first time during your vacation . Picture yourself anywhere other than where you are at that stressful moment.

It will get better!

 

[scoutsmom99]

 

[kristen821]

Do you have vacation time you can take? You sound like you need some time to relax you are very busy.

 

[2buzzboys]

I know how you feel. I work a full time job from 4:30-1:30am M-F where I manage an account of 150 people(tons of stress)and a part time job on weekends. DH work M-F and leaves the house about 6:30am and returns after picking up the kids from my moms about 7:00pm. So I am up every morning at 7am to take my DS6 to school while having my DS3 with me all day. I do all the house work, laundy,and shopping. I cook dinner in the day so they can eat at night( I have learned that if I didnt cook the kids would eat canned food if anything at all every night). I am always tired and totally stressed and seem to constantly yell at my DS6 who always finds a way to get into trouble. When I am in that crazy moment of yelling I try hard to stop myself and take a breath before saying things I will regret. I then try to just get a few minutes to regroup myself and then go back to DS and explain calmly what he did wrong. I also try to remember these days wont last forever and someday I will look back wishing I was back to them being this little again. Taking some time off while they are in school for you to do something for yiourself may really help.

 

[Pixiedust34]

I hope that you feel some sunshine in your life soon. If you can find the time, do something to pamper yourself today. Even if it's just a cup of special coffee, pamper yourself for a little bit.