Pea-n-Me
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My suggestion would be to pick up a copy of a book called Good Owners, Great Dogs, by Brian Kilcommons.
I think it's not only about "training" persay, but about the relationship between the two of you. Training gives you a foundation - a "language" if you will - that you can both understand. Once you get the language, you can communicate. Once you communicate, your relationship grows, and thrives. This is when you get the type of dog you want to have, IME.
Can you get this with a trainer who comes in and trains your dog for you? Sure, to a degree. The problem is that unless both of you fully grasp it, it'll be like "kind of" communicating, but in a broken manner. Sort of like speaking a few words of a language as opposed to the whole language. Yes, you'll be able to communicate a bit, but it could certainly be better. Without speaking the whole language, you don't get to experience the full joys of complete communication. This is the best I can compare it to.
Good luck. I hope you find something that works for you. Don't be mad at the previous posters. They understand how good it can be, and want that for you and your dog too. Give it some thought, please. It's not really that hard to do. I also have many years of training experience under my belt, and when I'm training, the lesson's over once the dog does what I want. It's that simple. I also don't use food in training, just lots of verbal praise and pats, then a few ball tosses when we're done. As TMM said, it then just becomes constant that the communication kicks in. You say something, the dog listens. And because you have this rich thing between you, the dog wants to listen. That's the difference.
I think it's not only about "training" persay, but about the relationship between the two of you. Training gives you a foundation - a "language" if you will - that you can both understand. Once you get the language, you can communicate. Once you communicate, your relationship grows, and thrives. This is when you get the type of dog you want to have, IME.
Can you get this with a trainer who comes in and trains your dog for you? Sure, to a degree. The problem is that unless both of you fully grasp it, it'll be like "kind of" communicating, but in a broken manner. Sort of like speaking a few words of a language as opposed to the whole language. Yes, you'll be able to communicate a bit, but it could certainly be better. Without speaking the whole language, you don't get to experience the full joys of complete communication. This is the best I can compare it to.
Good luck. I hope you find something that works for you. Don't be mad at the previous posters. They understand how good it can be, and want that for you and your dog too. Give it some thought, please. It's not really that hard to do. I also have many years of training experience under my belt, and when I'm training, the lesson's over once the dog does what I want. It's that simple. I also don't use food in training, just lots of verbal praise and pats, then a few ball tosses when we're done. As TMM said, it then just becomes constant that the communication kicks in. You say something, the dog listens. And because you have this rich thing between you, the dog wants to listen. That's the difference.
We started with a bird bell hanging from the doornob.
Eventually it calms down.
Try not to look at it as criticism, but as advice for someone who is a novice at dog training. You're getting some really god advice from people who know what they're doing -- even though it's on a message board, you're still getting good free advice that you could be paying for through a stranger!
We love her but she's certainly stubborn about this. I've housetrained a few dogs in my life, so it's not like I don't know how. 
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