Does your 18 year old have a curfew?

[pepperw23]

We have an 18 Year Old Daughter and she is constantly trying to get us to lift her curfew.

I am of course not going to (no matter what the results of this poll are ha ha) but I am curious how much of a Mean Mom I am.

Her curfew is 12:00 am. I think this is pretty generous considering both DH and I have to get up for work each morning.

Do you have a curfew for your 18+ year olds?

 

[JEmaryland]

No kids here, but as a high schooler I only had a curfew on school nights (it varied, I just came home whatever time the decided for that night), and no curfew on weekends.

 

[pigletgirl]

I had a curfew till I left home for college. It was always 1145pm.

My dad had a brother who was in a body cast for 4 months after his car was hit by a drunk driver, so the motto at my house is 'Nothing good happens after midnight'.

 

[suejai]

My DSS is 17, so almost but not quite, and yes he does have a curfew. He has to be in at 10:30 on work/school nights even if he doesn't have anything the next day; and 11:30 on weekends. He is moving back to his mothers place at the end of the school year but I would still give him a curfew when he turned 18. I firmly believe that he should respect everyone else in the house, and the fact that we all still have to work or go to school.

 

[PolyAddict]

I voted sometimes...only because it was the closest thing i could pick.

My DD17 is a high school graduate.

I did not have a curfew and have not set one for her.

She has never been in past 1am.

 

[akhenaten]

I posted Case by case...
NY DD19 commuted to school ...so we gave her quite a lot of freedom...

Then she gave us attitude and took advantage of the freedom....so now we are back to a curfew(12 PM)...unless arrangements are made before hand...

 

[disney1990]

I voted other. When my DDs lived at home after they were 18, they always let me know ahead of time when they were going to be home. If something happened and they couldn't make that time, they called to let me know -- because they know how much I worry.

 

[pepperw23]

I like Pigletgirls Dads philosophy. "Nothing good happens after Midnight" That is so true! I honestly feel 12:00 is generous on my part. Don't get me wrong. If she has something going on over the weekend, I am not unreasonable. She is a good girl. Unfortunately it is not her I don't trust. It is the world around her.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

I have custody of my 18 year old cousin and she thinks she isn't supposed ot have a curfew, but I am pretty strict about when she is to be home. It is on a case by case basis, though.

On Saturday night, she usually babysits for her sister's friend and she might not get home unitl close to 1 am, but that depends on when her sister's friend gets off work and brings her home. I don't worry about her then, since she is technically working.

Most of the time she has to be home by 12. She doesn't think she should have a curfew or any rules for that matter since she is 18, but she is an immature 18 and no telling what kind of trouble she could get into. She can have company almost as late as she wants, but that also depends on the situation. Her sister and I go back and forth with her over this, so I guess it is going to be one of those things until we decide she is mature enough to make decisions for herself.

Things sure were easier when I was her age, I hardly ever went out and I knew better than to get in trouble, I never knew when something might get back to mom

pepperw23, I agree with you completely, nothing different or good goes on after midnight and it is others that I don't trust, but we can't seem to get her to understand that.

Suzanne

 

[pepperw23]

I have custody of my 18 year old cousin and she thinks she isn't supposed ot have a curfew, but I am pretty strict about when she is to be home. It is on a case by case basis, though.

On Saturday night, she usually babysits for her sister's friend and she might not get home unitl close to 1 am, but that depends on when her sister's friend gets off work and brings her home. I don't worry about her then, since she is technically working.

Most of the time she has to be home by 12. She doesn't think she should have a curfew or any rules for that matter since she is 18, but she is an immature 18 and no telling what kind of trouble she could get into. She can have company almost as late as she wants, but that also depends on the situation. Her sister and I go back and forth with her over this, so I guess it is going to be one of those things until we decide she is mature enough to make decisions for herself.

Things sure were easier when I was her age, I hardly ever went out and I knew better than to get in trouble, I never knew when something might get back to mom

pepperw23, I agree with you completely, nothing different or good goes on after midnight and it is others that I don't trust, but we can't seem to get her to understand that.

Suzanne

And of course she is the only one of her friends with a curfew and we are ruining her summer!


Kudo's to you btw for taking on your cousin!

 

[akhenaten]

And of course she is the only one of her friends with a curfew and we are ruining her summer!

Oh yeah.... we have heard that line too!!

 

[pepperw23]

Oh yeah.... we have heard that line too!!

Yea, but did you get the fake tears?

Almost as I type I am hearing it because she wants to stay out until 2 tonight to go to a birthday party of a kid that gets off at midnight! How bout' NO!

Don't these kids have all day??!!

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

And of course she is the only one of her friends with a curfew and we are ruining her summer!


Kudo's to you btw for taking on your cousin!

Oh, yes of course you are. Please you can't pull that one on me

Her sister her she could do what she wanted after she went to college and moved out on her own and was paying her own bills, and I have to agree. I was 25 and still living at home and still had to follow some rules, although it was things mostly out of respect for not having to pay rent. I could come and go as I pleased, but I needed to be home at a reasonable hour 12-1, not too unreasonable compared to having to pay rent and other bills. Heck, I didn't move out on my own until I had been married almost a year, although by then I was paying quite a bit on the bills and there was no mortgage so no rent. How good can you have it.

Thank you, she has been a challange and I have been trying to explain to her how good she has it. Dh was told to pay rent or get out when he graduated, so he joined the Army. All I expect from her is respect and a little help with the housework, oh and to obey the few rules she does have.

Suzanne

 

[akhenaten]

Yea, but did you get the fake tears?

Almost as I type I am hearing it because she wants to stay out until 2 tonight to go to a birthday party of a kid that gets off at midnight! How bout' NO!

Don't these kids have all day??!!

Come on now...day is for sleeping!!

 

[shellybaxter]

I don't have an 18 year old so my only experience is from when I was 18. I lived in the country - 22 miles from town and high school. I never had a curfew. When I started driving I was allowed to come home whenever I wanted. Guess what, I was only later than 9:00PM on occation. I was really responsible - and very tired - LOL. Some days I came home right after school and was in bed by 7:30PM.

My sister on the other hand had a curfew even before she could drive. I was moved out by then so I don't remember what it was - but I think it was earlier on weekday and maybe midnight on weekends

 

[cteddiesgirl]

While it's usually a case by case situation, ultimately, your house, your rules.


I don't think that midnight is unreasonable for an 18 year old.

 

[Mandychelle79]

We have an 18 Year Old Daughter and she is constantly trying to get us to lift her curfew.

I am of course not going to (no matter what the results of this poll are ha ha) but I am curious how much of a Mean Mom I am.

Her curfew is 12:00 am. I think this is pretty generous considering both DH and I have to get up for work each morning.

Do you have a curfew for your 18+ year olds?

My curfew was state imposed ( ie couldnt drive between midnight and 5 am) and yes there were times that I came home after 5 am after being out all night. As long as my parents knew about what time to expect me home, and if plans changed I had to call, or more often have a friend call as I fell asleep on their couch watching movies, all was good. I guess I should mention that I lived and still do live in the middle of nowhere, so crime and things were never a factor. I moved out when I was 21 and still would wake mom up briefly to tell her I got home, work day or not, that was the rule in the house. They didn't care what time I got in, just wanted to know that I did get in. Then again my parents had enough trust in me to let me make and learn from my mistakes and didn't "hover" like some parents today. My MIL though was a hover parent before hover parenting was a parenting type. So dh and I will have lots to discuss when are kids are of that age range.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I had a curfew when I was 18 and in high school of midnight. Once I was out of school I didn't have one as long as my parents knew where I was at and/or who I was with. My poor parents with my 5 a.m. returns to home

 

[novajeanjellybean]

When I was 18 I had already completed my fiist year of college. So I didn't technically have a curfew and on most weekends I went out. I was out late. Alot. Needless to say I was 19 when I got my own apartment.

 

[PammyK]

If she is paying rent then she should be able to come and go as she pleases - however, one would hope that she would give you the consideration of letting you know her plans so you don't worry. She may technically be an adult but she will always be your baby girl and you will worry if you don't know where she is.

If she is not paying rent then it is totally a matter of Your House, Your Rules.