Does anyone honest to goodness tithe?

mickeyfan2 said:
No problem. Hale House takes care of AIDs babies born in NYC (not sure if they have expanded beyond NYC). The Mission and SA I do for meals and adopt-a-family not the religious part.

ETA: Here is a link to Hale House http://www.halehouse.org/history.html

Thanks for the link. I think I got the name confused with a group in this area that is religious and has a very similar name.
 
cardaway said:
Thanks for the link. I think I got the name confused with a group in this area that is religious and has a very similar name.

Zippa D Doodah said:
Thanks for the link to Hale House. I had heard about it from another -erm -association, but had not taken time to research details about it. What a fantastic concept - love kids. :sunny:
Your welcome.
 
mickeyfan2 said:
I agree. Giving to God does not mean giving to a Church or organization. ............ All is part of my "tithe" to God.

::yes::

Any church that tries to imply otherwise are being disingenuous at best.
 

cardaway said:
So only people who give their donations to a church have achieved spiritual maturity? Ridiculous.

As I posted earlier, I believe what people like me give helps just as many people, if not more. Sorry if that is not mature enough for you.


That's not what I said. I agreed with another poster that tithing is a sign of spiritual maturity. Now I know that people define spiritual in all kinds of different ways. Let me define what I mean by saying that tithing to a church is A sign of spiritual maturity in the Christian faith. I know lots of folks say they are spiritual but have no ties to Christianity and that's fine for them.

But I still agree with what the poster said - from a Christian perspective. I knew lots of good Jewish folks in Savannah who gave as they were supposed to and they were very dedicated to their faith.

What I mean about it being a sign of maturity is that when you give that much to your church, synagogue, whatever, it means you are trusting God that you will have enough to meet your responsibilities with what you have left. And that, regardless of our agreement on it, is to me, a sign of spiritual maturity.

Blessings!
MarkyMark
 
FSUMARCHIEF said:
That's not what I said.

You still haven't posted anything that makes what you posted any less ridiculous IMO. Maturity is a pretty odd word to use in that context and I wouldn't be surprised if people who can't meet your expectations don't find it more than a little offensive.

IMO people can be fully mature without meeting your expectations. To imply otherse, to quote Galahad, is IMO disingenuous at best.
 
cardaway said:
You still haven't posted anything that makes what you posted any less ridiculous IMO. Maturity is a pretty odd word to use in that context and I wouldn't be surprised if people who can't meet your expectations don't find it more than a little offensive.


We obviously come from different places and beliefs and I guess we'll have to agree to disagree.

Blessings!
MarkyMark
 
Hmmmm... help me with something here. I know what Consecration Sunday is. Would you mind sharing what bothered you about the program? I would love to hear.

There are quite a few things that bothered us about the program. First of all was the interminable build-up. Services for the entire month of September were devoted to money grubbing. An entire month. That's regardless of whatever normal congregational business was happening during that time. So, we'd have a service that included baptisms, and the sermon, rather than being something uplifting, was an attempt to lay a guilt trip. Ditto for new member Sundays. Such a nice, warm welcome for the new folks. "Welcome to our church--before have time to meet anyone, we'd like to twist your arm."

Second, my husband and I will decide how much we want to contribute to the church. I'm not buying the guilt trip. I don't care what the minister would like us to contribute, or what the trustees want. So, rather than make me inclined to give more to the church, the net effect of all that arm twisting was for us to give less to the church and more to Habitat and the local food bank.

I also didn't like the public pressure nature of the Shakedown Sunday, when you are supposed to march up to the front and drop in your pledge card. The whole thing is just distasteful. Again, it made me want to give the church less, not more.

This, btw, was a very wealthy congregation. They never had trouble raising money for anything. So, having so much time devoted to arm twisting was obscene.
 
FSUMARCHIEF said:
That's not what I said. I agreed with another poster that tithing is a sign of spiritual maturity. Now I know that people define spiritual in all kinds of different ways. Let me define what I mean by saying that tithing to a church is A sign of spiritual maturity in the Christian faith. I know lots of folks say they are spiritual but have no ties to Christianity and that's fine for them.

But I still agree with what the poster said - from a Christian perspective. I knew lots of good Jewish folks in Savannah who gave as they were supposed to and they were very dedicated to their faith.

What I mean about it being a sign of maturity is that when you give that much to your church, synagogue, whatever, it means you are trusting God that you will have enough to meet your responsibilities with what you have left. And that, regardless of our agreement on it, is to me, a sign of spiritual maturity.

Blessings!
MarkyMark
OK, this seems a little silly.

If trusting God to provide is a sign of maturity, shouldn't the church not collect money, but instead trust God to meet its responsibilities? Shouldn't the church itself display the greatest Christian maturity?

I understand that churches need some dough to keep up the buildings. And that they need more to give to those in need and do good works, etc. IMO, that's what they ought to say when asking for money. The arguments that it is mature to tithe or that you're giving to God (like God needs money) seem contrived...and a little Reverend Tilton-like.

I'm all for giving money to the church (not my parish, like I said, but the church)...they do a lot of good things with it, and I'm proud to be a small part of that. But I'll give more to people who say, "Here's what we want to do...we need your money to do it," than I will to those who make me feel like they're trying to con me out of it.
 
It seems like a lot of people have been burned by how their churches have handled sermons about/attitudes toward tithing. I know that in my church, tithing is expected, but I have been a member since 2002 and can recall 2 sermons with the word tithe in them, and one sermon about tithing in that time. I think asking people to put a pledge card in the plate in front of the congregation is somewhat strange, but then I come from a church that expects people to be reading Scripture and complying with the commandments therein (including the tithe).

I can't speak for FSUMARCHIEF, but I have to agree that tithing is an act of spiritual maturity. I certainly appreciate those of you who support humanitarian or charitable organizations (United Way, children's hospitals, etc.), but I'd also agree with MushyMushy that these organizations do great things but not necessarily God's work. My perspective is that God's work, either through physical service, words of encouragement, spreading the Gospel through missions work, giving tithes and offerings, etc., is work done in the name of Jesus Christ. And while many groups exist in this world that go above and beyond lots of the rest of us, I personally don't consider it God's work unless it's done in Christ's name. You are free to disagree with me on this and I'm sure some will.

By the way, someone said people get "hung up" on the tithe because that's what the Old Testament mentions... to me, the fact that it's mentioned in Scripture is the entire reason I try to follow that.

As far as the church not relying on God to meet its responsibility, I thought that was an interesting question and a legitimate one. I believe examples have been given of churches who are trusting God - those given by the couple of pastors who've contributed to this thread - their churches are often in the red but still give to missions and pay their clergy (if applicable). To me, that's a big sign of faith that God will meet their needs, but I don't think it's faithless for the church to accept or hope that part of that need is met through the tithes of the congregants. I trust that God will help me have enough money, but I also hope and pray that the money will come through my employer cutting the payroll checks on time (I'm not great with analogies, but to me this is a pretty even one - I'm sorry if it only makes sense to me! :blush: ). I can only speak for my church - the reason we value tithing is because it is commanded by God, and we care very much that our members are following God's commandments. As members, we also open ourselves up to being confronted when we do anything that is in violation of what we believe Scripture asks of us - if we are stealing, having an affair, gossiping, battling an addiction, etc. For me and the members of my church, it's part of the expectation of representing Christ. That's a pretty big thing to proclaim to the world - "We are the ambassadors of Christ." Well, if we are going to say that, we need to be ready for someone to point out to us (hopefully in love) when we're not meeting that proclamation, because being hypocritical and saying one thing and doing another is a big problem in the western church. No one but the treasurer in our church knows who gives what, and that includes the pastor, and the treasurer DOES NOT compare what people give with what they should give - he does keep track for the financial statements we get at tax return time to include on our taxes.

I hope people can continue to share their perspectives in respectful ways. It's an interesting thread to see how others operate. I do think that if we call ourselves Christians we should obey all of Scripture and not pick and choose what we observe. I encourage people who believe their tithe is "just right" or is covered by what and to whom they give compare that with Scripture. And that's directed at everyone in this thread, including me. We should always be checking our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and actions with what is commanded in Scripture if we are followers of Christ.
 
donaldsgal said:
I can't speak for FSUMARCHIEF, but I have to agree that tithing is an act of spiritual maturity. I certainly appreciate those of you who support humanitarian or charitable organizations (United Way, children's hospitals, etc.), but I'd also agree with MushyMushy that these organizations do great things but not necessarily God's work. My perspective is that God's work, either through physical service, words of encouragement, spreading the Gospel through missions work, giving tithes and offerings, etc., is work done in the name of Jesus Christ. And while many groups exist in this world that go above and beyond lots of the rest of us, I personally don't consider it God's work unless it's done in Christ's name. You are free to disagree with me on this and I'm sure some will.

The issue with that reasoning is that it all but states that spirituality in that context is exclusive to giving to the Christian church, and I don't think even all Christians would agree with that. I'm certain the majority of non-Christians would not agree with that.
 
cardaway said:
The issue with that reasoning is that it all but states that spirituality in that context is exclusive to giving to the Christian church, and I don't think even all Christians would agree with that. I'm certain the majority of non-Christians would not agree with that.
As a Christian, I would agree with you Cardaway. I believe Gods work is being done well beyond the walls of any church and beyond the division of belief.
 
Cool-Beans said:
OK, this seems a little silly.

If trusting God to provide is a sign of maturity, shouldn't the church not collect money, but instead trust God to meet its responsibilities? Shouldn't the church itself display the greatest Christian maturity?

I understand that churches need some dough to keep up the buildings. And that they need more to give to those in need and do good works, etc. IMO, that's what they ought to say when asking for money. The arguments that it is mature to tithe or that you're giving to God (like God needs money) seem contrived...and a little Reverend Tilton-like.

I'm all for giving money to the church (not my parish, like I said, but the church)...they do a lot of good things with it, and I'm proud to be a small part of that. But I'll give more to people who say, "Here's what we want to do...we need your money to do it," than I will to those who make me feel like they're trying to con me out of it.

Please allow me to provide an alternate point of view. I am a member of our Churchs administrative council and before I start, let me state that no one should EVER be presured into giving. A gift given under presure is really a bribe, and God doesn't take bribes. That said, I must admit I am a bit confused about how upset some Christians get when people talk about the spirituality and necessity of giving.

For many years, my wife an I did not Tithe. We started doing so 4 years ago because a minister taught us about God's desire to bless all that we do in his name. He taught us that God returns to us much more than we ever give in his name, be it love, time, skills or money. We always get back (in some form) much more than we give, and in giving we help so many others that we could not help any other way.

I feel that learning this and experiencing one way of maturing as a Christian. I am sorry if that idea offends some folks, I really dont intend it to, but I can find no other way to describe it. Learning and experiencing this helped to strengthen my faith and grow closer to God. What is that if not maturing as a Christian? To offer your gifts to God (be they monetary or otherwise) and actually experience the pouring forth of blessings (and I am not talking about material or monitary blessings here) is a very spiritual and profound experience. Its not the only way to mature or grow closer to God, but I have found it to be an important way in my life.

BTW: I dont feel that that these blessings are reserved for Christians alone. As Cardaway points out, people of all faiths and those who dont practice a faith have all come to understand the gift of giving, but justr becuase it is important to non-Christians does not rule it out as an important part of Christian maturity as well.

I know you may not agree, but these are my beliefs which are drawn from my personal experience, and the experience of many Christians I know. Most ministers I know try to communicate that giving to God is another way of growing closer to God. The Bible clearly states this, and many people willl atest to it being true, but when a ministewr tries to share this, they are often accused of being greedy or trying to "con" people. Why?

As for Consecration Sunday, it would be nice if the church could ask for money only for specific things, but the fact is that there are many day to day expenses that simply cant be approached that way (office supplies, salaries, utilities, etc.). We either need commitments so that the money is there when it is needed, or we would have to call people each week to ask for money to fill a specific need like paying the phone bill (I suspect that would get old fast). It has been my experience that most people are willing to give to feed the poor, but very few are willing to make the very needed commitment to give more than a few dollars a month to keep the lights on and the phones answered. It is this need that Consecration Sunday is aimed at addressing.

Just like Zippy, our church is always in debt. Some months we have dont have enough money to pay the staff, yet when we go to the church and say we need folks to make a regular commitment as members of the body of Christ to meet our administrative costs, we get acused of being greedy or only being interested in their money. Likewise, when we try to talk about the blessings the Bible describes that springs from regular giving, we a again get accused of being greedy or trying to con people. I just dont understand. When we say that the Bible says we should love people, everyone nods in agreement. When we say that the same book calls on Christians to Tithe, people get annoyed, as if we made that part up or that those parts of the Bible somehow shouldn't be taught.

Giving money to God (via the church or whatever other means) is just one part of being a Christian. It shouldn't be stressed in every sermon, but it shouldnt be avoided either. Once a year is not too often to highlite this part of God's message, in my opinion.

And yes, the Church does need to trust God that the money it needs will come from somewhere, but remember, the church is you and me. We are the body of Christ. We are the Church. We need to trust that God will provide, but we also need to employ that trust by giving in his service so that we can feed the hungry, cloth the naked, aid the poor and also pay the church secretary, pay the utility bill, print the church bulliton, etc. We also need to learn about the spiritual growth side of giving that the Bible talks about.

God says "Test me in this". He was specifically talking about tithing (the regular giving of 10% of ones income). Why is it such a sin to say that we should do what Gods says we should do? Why is it such a sin to say that God promises to bless those who give, and that you can and should test this? I just dont understand.
 
Pigeon said:
There are quite a few things that bothered us about the program. First of all was the interminable build-up. Services for the entire month of September were devoted to money grubbing. An entire month. That's regardless of whatever normal congregational business was happening during that time. So, we'd have a service that included baptisms, and the sermon, rather than being something uplifting, was an attempt to lay a guilt trip. Ditto for new member Sundays. Such a nice, warm welcome for the new folks. "Welcome to our church--before have time to meet anyone, we'd like to twist your arm."

Second, my husband and I will decide how much we want to contribute to the church. I'm not buying the guilt trip. I don't care what the minister would like us to contribute, or what the trustees want. So, rather than make me inclined to give more to the church, the net effect of all that arm twisting was for us to give less to the church and more to Habitat and the local food bank.

I also didn't like the public pressure nature of the Shakedown Sunday, when you are supposed to march up to the front and drop in your pledge card. The whole thing is just distasteful. Again, it made me want to give the church less, not more.

This, btw, was a very wealthy congregation. They never had trouble raising money for anything. So, having so much time devoted to arm twisting was obscene.


From a different perspective - Consecration Sunday, or shakedown Sunday as you call it, has been a wonderful change of pace in the churches I have served. I have been involved with the program now for 10 years and each time it has brought tremendous spiritual growth to the churches that have used it. I don't know what your church did with it to make it so offensive.

All the program calls for is that for 3 Sundays before the event, a lay person (not clergy) is supposed to make a brief announcement about the actual day - it's coming, etc. Please don't forget to make a reservation for the free lunch that will follow worship that day. Also on those days, they are to remind folks in Sunday School that it's coming with the same effort of getting reservations for lunch.

Two Sundays before, cards are passed out during worship so folks can make a reservation for lunch - so that the free catered lunch following worship can have an accurate count. The Sunday before, a lay person shows a very revealing look at the congregational giving patterns. There is a stairstep illustration that is given in the worship bulletin that shows how many giving units (not names or anything like that) but how many giving units give at a level of 0 to 5$. Then up one step, 5$ to 10$ and then on up to over $150 per week. The numbers show how many people give at each of those levels. Then on the back of that sheet is a chart for you to find your weekly income and the figure of your current weekly giving amount. It's designed to help you figure out what percentage of your income you actually give. And then the challenge is to consider taking one percentage point up toward tithing. Then that day the pastor preaches about stewardship.

On the actual day of Consecration Sunday, the emphasis is on stewardship with a guest preacher preaching about it. Each person as they desire (no one is forced to do squat), fills out an estimate of giving card - not a pledge card, but an estimate of what they expect to give the following year. The church finance committee is then supposed to build their budget off of the estimates of giving for the following year.

On many levels, I think it is a much better program from a spiritual perspective than the old we have to have this much money and you've got to give it. It takes the emphasis off of the need of the church to receive and puts it on the need of the giver to give. I think it's excellent.

It's obvious that my opinion is different from others on this thread, and that's fine. That's why there are so many different denominations anyway - cause folks don't always agree. Ultimately in my mind we all have to answer to God - not each other. When I preach about stewardship it is totally about encouraging folks to do what they feel God calling them to do. If they are led to tithe, then they need to go for it. If they are led to tithe but aren't ready for it yet, then grow in that direction, don't just sit back and do nothing.

Churches can not function without money. Yes, buildings must be maintained, power bills must be paid. Salaries for staff must be paid. But people want good ministry with children. They want youth programs. They want things for themselves - all of that costs money. Not in a Robert Tilton like way. If churches are doing things right, following the Consecration Sunday program, the budget is based off of the estimates of giving and then approved by the church Council - elected leaders from within the congregation. Then it should be published and updated throughout the year. That's the way we do it.

As I said to cardaway, it appears we must agree to disagree and I assure you that is fine with me. I learned a long time ago that banging my head against a brick wall left me with nothing but a headache. I have responded with all this to give a different perspective of the Consecration Sunday experience so that people can see both sides. It is a program that many churches are beginning to use and I wanted folks to see that there have been many churches that have had very positive experiences with it.

Blessings!
MarkyMark
 
I do think you are supposed to tithe 10%, since I believe the Bible to be true. That being said, I don't think you're going to burn in hell for all eternity, if you don't.

Now, on the other hand, I believe God wants us to tithe to teach us to be giving people, just like he's a giving God. It's not like God needs the money. :teeth:

My church has NEVER once asked for money over the pulpit or told people to tithe. They pass an offering plate on Sunday, but that's the end of it. We know God will meet our needs, he always has and always will.

It makes me sick to hear these TV preachers telling everybody to send in their money, and then they live in million dollar houses. :rolleyes: --whatever it just seems hypocritical in my opinion.
 
WDWHound said:
because a minister taught us about God's desire to bless all that we do in his name. He taught us that God returns to us much more than we ever give in his name, be it love, time, skills or money. We always get back (in some form) much more than we give, and in giving we help so many others that we could not help any other way.

I can attest to all your minister taught you as it has been so for us as well. We had similar conversations with one of out pastors a few years ago. But, he was very clear and careful to distinguish tithing as a spiritual act from an edict that says "you owe us 10%". Indeed, we give more that 10% of our income in monetary contributions each year, but only about 6% directly to our Church. In short, as a Christian I also believe in the importance of tithing, but I don't interpret it as an invoice to be paid in only one manner. (For example, the United Methodist Committee on Relief is a social services agency of the United Methodist Church. They do non-religious human services work. Some of what might be given to our own church goes there instead.)
 
Cool-Beans said:
The arguments that it is mature to tithe or that you're giving to God (like God needs money) seem contrived...and a little Reverend Tilton-like.

How do you reconcile that with Scripture? As Hound said, it's right there in the Bible.

Luke 21
The Widow's Offering
1As he looked up, Jesus saw the rich putting their gifts into the temple treasury. 2He also saw a poor widow put in two very small copper coins. 3"I tell you the truth," he said, "this poor widow has put in more than all the others. 4All these people gave their gifts out of their wealth; but she out of her poverty put in all she had to live on."

What caused this woman to do this?
 
Galahad said:
I can attest to all your minister taught you as it has been so for us as well. We had similar conversations with one of out pastors a few years ago. But, he was very clear and careful to distinguish tithing as a spiritual act from an edict that says "you owe us 10%". Indeed, we give more that 10% of our income in monetary contributions each year, but only about 6% directly to our Church. In short, as a Christian I also believe in the importance of tithing, but I don't interpret it as an invoice to be paid in only one manner. (For example, the United Methodist Committee on Relief is a social services agency of the United Methodist Church. They do non-religious human services work. Some of what might be given to our own church goes there instead.)

Yup, its about giving to God as God gives to us. Giving to God takes many forms. The bulk of our giving is through our church because I have a clear understanding of where and how the money is used and know that the money is used effectively, but any giving that serves God and our fellow man (be it through religious organizations or not) is all the same thing to God.

That said, I beleive that some regular commitment (even a small one) to the Church where one is a member is important, so that members can help support the Church that supports them in so many ways. Though, like all giving, ishould ne be not a requirement or something someone should be presured into doing).

BTW: Thanks for mentioning UMCOR. They are an amazing organization that does a great deal of good in the world.
 
WDWHound said:
I know you may not agree, but these are my beliefs which are drawn from my personal experience, and the experience of many Christians I know. Most ministers I know try to communicate that giving to God is another way of growing closer to God. The Bible clearly states this, and many people willl atest to it being true, but when a ministewr tries to share this, they are often accused of being greedy or trying to "con" people. Why?

I'm really sorry this affects good people like you, but I think the answer is simple. The crooks running many mega churches, and even some smaller ones.

When they see how much money is already flowing, including seeing how much benefit these crooks are already receiving, to be aksed to give more might be much more than the last straw. Especially if they have already given 10% in more than one way.

Personally I feel that the rule in helping out in your community is true in this context as well. Any time given is worth at least as much as any money given, if not more. Must be hard for people to accept that they have not given their 10% when people are not counting the time they may put in.

Likely not true for your church, but it some cases, they ignore anything but cash because time isn't legal tender.

I also have never seen anybody prove that what is said in the bible isn't something that could be translated to simplpy giving 10% of yourself which could done with money or time.
 


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