Does anyone else find this sad?

[WebmasterAlex]

Alison told me that one of her classmates was near tears and saying "my mom is going to kill me"
Her crime?
She got a B+ on her report card. Just one. In the fourth grade.

 

[piratesmate]

That's awful! The poor little thing. Some people put so much pressure on their kids. It's a shame that they can't just be kids.

Deb

 

[Breezy_Carol]

That is very sad. This is way too much pressure, even for an older child. While it is important to have high expectations, this kind of pressure for excellance is why kids end up with ulcers and eating disorders.

 

[pumba]

pressure put on them to achieve.......a B plus should be a wow...you had an awesome report card.......a young person in the town that isn't to far from here......committed suicide...two years ago...because he could not measure up to his parents expectations.......this is so sad......

 

[catsrule]

This should be wonderful, not .

 

[Michelle]

Sammy got one B+ along with all As and yet somehow she is still among us.

Yeah, it's sad that the poor girl was nearly CRYING about it.

 

[nativetxn]

Perhaps the girl is putting the pressure on herself? I used to be that way, I got very upset and thought my mother would kill me if I made a B, <b>very</b> upset, yet she never even spoke to me about my grades. I put the pressure on myself.

 

[loisg1]

So sad. Can't people realize that a C is average... actually a perfectly respectable grade?

 

[klombar]

I see it in both athletics and in school. Parents are nuts! Some of these parents are trying to relive their past and push these kids way to hard. I monitor my son who is involved in both school and sports activites. He has the last word.

Slight brag! I just went to my oldest sons honors breakfast.
I am so proud of him.

 

[gemmie214]

That is so sad. The poor girl should be proud.

I did have a cousin who would get upset and say she would be in trouble for B's. My Aunt never could understand it. She REALLY was proud of her daughters grades. It was her daughter that would be upset if her grades were not perfect. She would just say her Mom would get mad because she needed an excuse for crying about it. She did end up getting a full scholarship to Harvard though

 

[WebmasterAlex]

I don't think this is a case of the girl doing it to herself.
To make things worse, everyone is tracked the girl is in the highest group for everything.
My DD had a couple of B+'s but I certainly am not going to cry about B+'s in the highest group of a fairly tough school! Sheesh

 

[snuggles]

Thats awful. I wish parents could see what they do to their kids when they put that much stress on them.

 

[Zurg]

Nuts.

Think of all the therapy that the pressure for those A will cost.

 

[Zurg]

Nuts.

Think of all the therapy that the pressure for those A will cost.

 

[DaisyDebbie]

4th grade is so hard on these kids. There is so much pressure on them to do well on the ELA tests, so the school districts look "good"

I think a B+ is pretty darn good

 

[Travlin Gal]

I always had a hard time with my grades in school, especially math. My folks were O.K. with me as long as I tried.

Several mentioned about the therapy the child would have to have. I think the mother should have therapy NOW so she does not expect so much of her child.

 

[Kitty 34]

How sad for that child.......I know how it feels. My Dad was disappointed with my A- once in Biology.

 

[Mskanga]

How sad for that child! Of course I would like my kids to bring all A's home but I'm happy with the best they can get as long as they try. If a C is the best they can do, I'm happy with that but if they get a C because they goof off , that's another story. My DD last year thought the same thing, that I was going to be upset because she got a B+ in Math. My dd always strives for perfection which scares the heck out of me because she puts way too much pressure on herself.
Neither one of us puts any pressure on any of the children , we simply tell them to do the best they can and give them the tools to do so, we have been blessed so far.

 

[snoopy]

My FIL was like this with his kids, insistent that they get all A's. And my IL's wonder why their one daughter, who never lived up to their expectations, died from a drug overdose all alone in her car.

DH, luckily, was one of the younger kids and the pressure wasn't as bad. But the older siblings have horror stories of the way their father was about grades. I shudder at the thought. Thank God DH did not inherit this trait from his father.

 

[Buckalew]

I always thought my parents were going to kill me for whatever I did wrong...it was a phrase I still use and I don't say it jokingly although now, I realize that they would not have "killed" me--but I believed it then, I think. I agree with Katholyn's post. The pressure was put there mostly by me but my parents expected my best.
Whatever the case is with this poor little 4th grader--I hope she'll be OK and relax a bit and her mom also.