Does anyone actually do the Ferber method with their babies?

[ClarabelleCowFan]

ClarabelleCowFan- have you thought about one of these?

http://www.armsreach.com/

Had one, used it and loved it but it didn't work well with the breathing monitor. Mason has outgrown it so we sold ours to another military family.

 

[disneymom3]

Bottom line - do what works for your family and don't worry about what anyone else does or says! Same goes for the breastfeeding/bottlefeeding or the working/stay at home Mom argument. Why debate it other than to try to make yourself feel better about the decisions you made?

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Exactly. Do these people who are convinced they are right all the time actual parent all of their children in the exact same way?? I sure don't. My oldest did not ever sleep with us. Maybe she would have slept better if she had, but you do what you think is best at the time. We did the Ferber method with the oldest two but not the youngest. He was always put to bed awake and never had issues in the middle of the night either. Middle DS OTOH went to bed just fine and then believed that he should be rocked to sleep and held all night long when we was about 8 months old. Two nights of crying and he stopped doing that.

Oh, and BTW, we always left the heat on so his room was never cold and dark.

 

[KariC]

Exactly. Do these people who are convinced they are right all the time actual parent all of their children in the exact same way?? I sure don't. My oldest did not ever sleep with us. Maybe she would have slept better if she had, but you do what you think is best at the time. We did the Ferber method with the oldest two but not the youngest. He was always put to bed awake and never had issues in the middle of the night either. Middle DS OTOH went to bed just fine and then believed that he should be rocked to sleep and held all night long when we was about 8 months old. Two nights of crying and he stopped doing that.

Oh, and BTW, we always left the heat on so his room was never cold and dark.

I'm right all of the time , and each of my children has a different "mom".

 

[darlak]

I never assumed anything about you or anyone else on this thread, YOU ASKED me for an explanantion & I gave you that. I never backdown on my opinion or changed my statment.
After I made the "mommy hat" comment other poster said I was calling them "part time parents" I never said that which is what I was saying when you asked me to explain myself. I don't appreciate words being put in my mouth, & I believe everything I said to be true IMHO of course!
Whether or not you consider what I said as stupid is not of consiquence to me.
No need to appologize, I'm in the Christmas spirit!
Are we done now?

Talk about putting words in someone's mouth! Wow!

Where to start here...okay, you may say that you didn't assume whatever you want, but I maintain that your posts speak for themselves. Still sounds like you're trying to backpedal.

Second...I didn't say that either anything you have said or certainly anything I have said on this thread thus far has been stupid.

Third...and perhaps my most important point to make...I was NOT apologizing. I want to be very clear on that point.

Finally...I'm so very happy that you're in the Christmas spirit. I hope you have a very Merry Christmas! As for whether we're done now, I suppose that's up to you.

 

[jodifla]

You know, OP, I could ask you the same types of questions about Attachment Parenting. I know Sears has his legions of devoted followers, but his ideas seem pretty nutty to me. There's no way I'd parent that way... TO ME, it seems like some sort of uber parenting. No thanks.

I think parents read about different types of philosophies, and certain ones strike you and you go with them. These philosphophies benefit the parent, not the kid. No matter which style you follow, the kid turns out pretty much the same.


We didn't do CIO with our son as much as we did sleep training. And we took that tack after having many, many, many of our friends become sorry about how they put their kids to sleep.

The all did CIO after they got sick of having the bedtime routine take hours, and then not getting consistent sleep at night. We decided walking into walls because of sleep exhaustion wasn't for us, and we were quite happy that our son was sleeping through the night at about five weeks old (11 a.m. to 6 a.m.).

Did that make me selfish? I don't think wanting to get a decent amount of sleep every night is selfish, it's just good common sense.

 

[katerkat]

Well, I’m not interested in rug burn, my walls all have a stipple finish and my table is covered with papers, so unless I invest in a sling, I’ll keep my boring bed, thanks. And my dd can stay in hers where she belongs bec IMO some boundaries are good things.

And to be really frank, given that a man does not have control over his body’s reaction to a dream or the natural rise of morning.... I’d rather not have my dd up against my dh in bed.

Dude, there's nothing like making guests wonder before sitting down on your couches.

And, when we co-slept, Russ slept on the side of the bed between me and a bed rail. DH was afraid he'd roll on the baby. So DH and I actually slept closer than ever when we were co-sleeping, because normally I think a queen bed is too small for two people.

Now, you see, KK, you have the ability to present your feelings on this matter without talking down to, nor judging others. Novel concept!

It must be all of that time you spent on the DB...

ITA with this. I think KK and I are probably complete, 180 degree, polar opposites when it comes to parenting. Guess what, she's got a happy, healthy, 3 year old, and I have a happy (most of the time), healthy 10 year old.

I resepct her opinions and her presentation on all of these 'mommy minefield' questions, and I have learned a thing or two as well.

Aww, thanks, guys! I think you're all good moms too - without judging! I read this online so I can't take credit, but bad moms are the ones who leave their kids crying alone all day while they go out to do drugs or something. CIO at bedtime, while it's not a parenting thing I'd choose, isn't the worst thing you can do to a child.