Do You Wait Up For Your Teen To Come Home?

[prettyprincessbelle]

I'm 21 and if it's a weeknight and I drive myself home, my Mom waits up for me to get home. I usually get in around 10:30-11:00. If it's a weekend and I'm not driving (my DBF does) she's half awake half asleep... I do wake both her and my Dad up when I get in...

She also sleeps with her cell phone next to her on the nightstand.

 

[dismom24]

I set an alarm clock in the kitchen for 10 minutes after their curfew. The rule is when they get home they shut it off and it will not wake me up. If it goes off (it never has) they will lose a privlage. I usually am half awake when they come in, but sometimes those late movie nights are too much.

 

[TEENEE]

It depends. My ds is 17 and recently started working at our NFL stadium selling merchandise. His first night he asked me not to wait up because he knew he would not be home until after 3:00 am and I needed to get up for work in the morning. I don't wait up for him on those nights. Most other times I wait up or go to bed but listen for him to come in. Often times I have my cell phone on the nightstand and we have a land line phone in our bedroom.

 

[MushyMushy]

One of us usually does. DH is a total night owl, so he's up playing around online or on a video game til the wee hours of the morning. On the rare occasion that he's sick or needs to go to bed early, I stay up.

Also, if DH is away on a business trip and I'm just way too tired to stay awake, I go ahead to bed because I know the dogs will wake me up when DS gets home.

I have to say that even though DS has put a gray hair or two on my head, he doesn't blow off his curfew. ONE time he wasn't where he was supposed to be, but other than that, he's never been late or not shown up. I can't say the same for myself when I was a teen. I was routinely HOURS late for curfew. And that was the days before cell phones.

 

[mamacatnv]

I don't have kids, but I know when I was a teenager and went out for the night, my mom and dad didn't wait up. However, the rule was that I had to wake my mom up as soon as I got home to let her know I was in for the night. If that hadn't happened by a reasonable time, I imagine then she'd have started waiting up so she could bring the thunder at me when I finally did roll on in.

Well, in the beginning when DS was first driving, yes, always but there was a city curfew and he couldn't be out until all hours.
Last fall he turned 18, no curfew from us on non-school nights and no city curfew. After a few nights of me on the couch waiting up I decided a different approach was needed.
He has to wake me as soon as he comes in the door. If he is not coming home or if he will be really late then he sends me a text message. I keep the land line next to the bed for emergencies and the cell in the living room so that I don't hear it but if I wake up and he is not home, I will go check for a message.
This method saved my sanity this summer.

Now he is off in college and I don't get a wake up or a call. My DH jokingly suggested we put his roommate on our "payroll" to let us know when DS is in for the night so that I can sleep. Honestly, have not been sleeping well since DS left last week.

 

[VirtuallyMe]

For my oldest it was never an issue- he didn't go anywhere until he was out of high school- and well- he was an adult then

My daughter has her curfew and doesn't drive- so dh sets an alarm for curfew time and we do sleep- she has a phone and knows she can call with anything.

When I was growing up- my mom was frequently up when I got in but not because she was waiting up for me- she just stayed up late at night and slept all day. She'd have been up if I was home too.

When she was out of town though- my oldest sister would wait up- and was much more annoying than my parents with curfew and things- I had no curfew with my parents- but my sister thought I should have one and would be all upset if I was in past midnight- usually I was riding with the only other non-curfew person to drop everyone else off for their midnight curfews- lol

 

[Minnie_me]

My friend's parents did the alarm clock thing. They were older parents (they were well into their 60s when we were teens), and just couldn't stay awake! LOL!

Anyway, it didn't work as well as they had planned. She used to go turn it off and then leave again!

 

[Disneynutbsv]

Yes...my son is 17 and I do wait up for him to come home.

 

[Rora]

Not a parent (yet!) but my parents would always stay awake until I came home when I was in High School.

I rarely broke curfew so I was never nervous about coming home to angry/worried parents.

I'm sure that when I do become a parent, me and my DH will wait up.

 

[hereyago]

I had a very different upbringing, or lack thereof. My parents were gone a lot especially on weekends, my DF played music and my DM would go out and hear him or other bands. So I had no curfew, but if I was staying out all night, I would call and leave a message.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

My parents didn't wait up for me. After the first time I woke my parents up calling them at midnight, and then again at 1 am saying I still couldn't get a ride, they just told me my curfew was "Whenever Jenny can drive you home." Essentially, I never had a curfew until I couild drive myself.

 

[undercovermom]

My kids and I live with my parents...I'm 48 years old and my mom still waits up for me...or, at minimum, calls my cell phone to make sure I'm OK.

older dd is 17 and will be moving into her freshman dorm this weekend. younger dd just turned 16.

I tend to stay awake until older dd comes home, since she had a license,a car and friends who drive. younger dd and her friends are too young to drive, and if I'm not driving them home, another parent is...and I am much more relaxed while waiting for a parent to drive dd home.