There are things I do in our relationship that might seem like mothering... I do tend to pick out most of DH's clothes when we're shopping, but it's because I have far superior taste.However, he gets himself dressed just fine in the mornings because he has such a nice selection. When he was in Montreal for two year without me he reverted to looking like a grad student - wearing ratty t-shirts, hoodies, and worn out jeans. Now that I have him home he's back to looking much nicer.
I remember the important dates and I tend to plan most trips. I enjoy the planning and he doesn't, so that just worked out naturally. I also control the finances. After he made a few "mistakes" I couldn't take the stress of not knowing if he had remembered to actually pay something or if he only thought he did. So I took that over, too.
However, he does all the grocery shopping and cooking, so in that sense I guess he mothers me... He also does most of the laundry and we split the rest of the chores.
Haha, I just went back and read your post and realized this sounds almost identical to our situation.
. Finanaces....we combine all our money, he handles the physical paying of the bills and I handle getitng the $$ where it needs to be in terms of bank accounts...he hates going to the bank and that doesn't bother me. He does not ask permission to do things, but we will both check with each other before making plans to make sure there are no conflicts with other plans.
