Do You Think This is a Bit Nervy?

[DawnCt1]

I was thinking the same thing!

I'd seriously feel like my privacy was violated. She may have had good intentions & it may be completely innocent, but I'd still bothered that she looked up my personal info & called me at home. At the very least it is unprofessional.

I certainly wouldn't call the dentist because I wouldn't want her to lose her job. If it happened again, I'd definitely talk to her about it.

I agree with the bolded part. They call to remind me of an appointment so I guess looking up my phone number which is in the book isn't a huge deal.

 

[JessicaR]

My impression is that she is just a bold individual that was hoping for some preferred treatment of the professional kind. It never occurred to me to think it was anything personal. Why in the world would she call the house if that was her intention. Oh hey how ya doing I was wondering if I could have your husbands cell # so I could chat him up and see where it leads? Then again it takes all kinds.

I would handle it exactly how Dawn did. No biggie really.

 

[luvmy3]

I agree with the bolded part. They call to remind me of an appointment so I guess looking up my phone number which is in the book isn't a huge deal.

Calling for an appointment remnder is part of their job description, so that wouldn't bother me at all. The fact that she thought nothing of looking you up in the computer for her own personal reason would bother me and I would report it. If she is so cavalier about invading your privacy (if she didn't call in a professional capacity, that is exactly what she did) what else is she so cavalier about doing in the office with access to people's file and maybe financial info ior ss#'s. I'm not saying she is a closet criminal or anything and I wouldn't want her to get fired, but I feel her boss has every right to know about it.

ETA, I'm not saying you should report her, just saying what I would do and why.

 

[sbell111]

Actually there really is only one possibility, she overstepped. He doesn't give out his cell phone number and that is what she asked for. I will tell DH when he gets home. I am not calling him at work to bother him about this.

I don't see it as inappropriate to ask for a cel number. If she pushed after you said no, it would be inappropriate.

Obviously, the best thing to do would be is to get her number and pass it to the person being called, rather than to give out the number. However, that doesn't make the caller 'wrong', solely based on the facts presented.

 

[DawnCt1]

I don't see it as inappropriate to ask for a cel number. If she pushed after you said no, it would be inappropriate.

Obviously, the best thing to do would be is to get her number and pass it to the person being called, rather than to give out the number. However, that doesn't make the caller 'wrong', solely based on the facts presented.

If she isn't calling him about an appointment in her office, but a personal matter, I think it is highly inappropriate. She didn't give me her cell number or her home number by the way, but her work number; my dentist's office.

 

[blissventure]

Actually there really is only one possibility, she overstepped. He doesn't give out his cell phone number and that is what she asked for. I will tell DH when he gets home. I am not calling him at work to bother him about this.

I'd be curious about several things:
1. Does Mommy actually have a son?
2. Is he truly planning a trip to Africa in the near future?
3. What is the nature of this trip? Is he going solo? I think it's more likely if a young person is going on a trip of this nature they would be going with a group. Why aren't Mommy and son getting their info from the group leaders (if indeed son is part of a "tour".)
My other question---If her son is old enough to go to Africa, why isn't he handling his own medical issues?
I guess the best scenario is that she's helicoptering her son. That's probably a lot better than helicoptering someone's husband.

 

[postage stamp]

I have never worked in a doctor's office, but I did work in a library for a very long time.

I cannot IMAGINE looking up a patron's information for something that was not library related. I could have been FIRED. Because it's against policy and quite possibly illegal.

Your dentist couldn't give the FBI information about you (not even your phone number) without a subpoena, so to me using that same information for personal reasons is BEYOND unprofessional.

 

[sbell111]

If she isn't calling him about an appointment in her office, but a personal matter, I think it is highly inappropriate.

It's only inappropriate if he didn't tell her that she could contact him. Since you have not discussed this issue with your husband, you don't know whether he did, or not.

She didn't give me her cell number or her home number by the way, but her work number; my dentist's office.

I assume that she was at the office.

I know that when I give out my number, I choose a number at which I can be reached. If I am at work, then I will always give my office number or that of my assistant.

 

[justhat]

Is it easy to get an appt at your travel clinic? I know getting an appt at our kids' pediatrician or my OB can be near impossible if I just call as a 'typical patient'. My husband, however, can get me in to see my dr of choice the next day.

Obviously I have no idea if this is the case with your hygenist, but maybe they waited till the last minute to be vaccinated, can't get in, and she's hoping your husband can make a call to get her son in?

 

[Dancemom03]

I was thinking the same thing!

I'd seriously feel like my privacy was violated. She may have had good intentions & it may be completely innocent, but I'd still bothered that she looked up my personal info & called me at home. At the very least it is unprofessional.

I certainly wouldn't call the dentist because I wouldn't want her to lose her job. If it happened again, I'd definitely talk to her about it.

It must be something in MD's water. That's what I thought of first too!

Definitely out of line but I probably wouldn't do anything about it - other than perhaps casually request the other hygenist next visit so we didn't need to get too cozy...

 

[Serena]

Watch that girl.

This is entirely too familiar for comfort. I need his advice, help, etc etc. Yeah, bold is what she was and shameless.

I hope this is nothing inappropriate.

 

[Liberty Belle]

But you don't know what your husband has said to her. He may have told her to call if she needs any help with her son's traveling.

 

[DawnCt1]

I'd be curious about several things:
1. Does Mommy actually have a son?
2. Is he truly planning a trip to Africa in the near future?
3. What is the nature of this trip? Is he going solo? I think it's more likely if a young person is going on a trip of this nature they would be going with a group. Why aren't Mommy and son getting their info from the group leaders (if indeed son is part of a "tour".)
My other question---If her son is old enough to go to Africa, why isn't he handling his own medical issues?
I guess the best scenario is that she's helicoptering her son. That's probably a lot better than helicoptering someone's husband.

Parents are always parents, and as a parent I would worry about one of my kids going off to Africa if I were 100 and he was 70. It isn't a tour. He has a friend who is living there temporarily so its a solo trip. She probably said, "you need immunizations and antimalaria drugs". He probably said, "Ma, its no big deal, I will be fine, I am indestructible." I NEVER consider that someone is flirting with my husband and even if there are, he is perfectly capable of dealing with it himself. It could be as a previous poster said, that she is looking for reassurance that and information. Her affect is always a bit anxious and worried looking. She could just be worried.

 

[luvsJack]

Good grief! Does anyone out there trust anyone in their life anymore?
I have had some things happen in my life that make me think twice about someone's intentions, but jeesh! It just takes too much energy to be so paranoid all the time.

(not aimed at you Dawn, you seem to be thinking reasonably)

 

[DawnCt1]

Is it easy to get an appt at your travel clinic? I know getting an appt at our kids' pediatrician or my OB can be near impossible if I just call as a 'typical patient'. My husband, however, can get me in to see my dr of choice the next day.

Obviously I have no idea if this is the case with your hygenist, but maybe they waited till the last minute to be vaccinated, can't get in, and she's hoping your husband can make a call to get her son in?

Could be. Or perhaps they assumed that their family doctor would have access to the vaccines and medication that he needs for a trip to Africa, and most often they do not.

 

[RitaZ.]

My other question---If her son is old enough to go to Africa, why isn't he handling his own medical issues?
I guess the best scenario is that she's helicoptering her son.

That's probably what's going on. My previous hygienist told me that she brushes her 16 yr. old daughter's teeth because she doesn't do a thorough job.

My impression is that she is just a bold individual that was hoping for some preferred treatment of the professional kind.

That's what I'm getting, too. Just a pushy woman that wants things done her way and now.

 

[shortbun]

Aw, let it go. She's a worried mom and really respects your husband's expertise. It's funny but our hygenists treat us like family too. My son's even has a nickname for him and she only sees him twice a year. They must be a lonely group, lol!

 

[Bob NC]

OMG.......maybe she just wasn't thinking.

Sometimes I'll look back at something I did and ask myself, "Why the heck did I do that"?

I hope there aren't hundreds of people sitting around discussing that stupid question I asked this morning.

 

[crz4mm2]

Yep, a little balsy.

Not quite as balsy as the person who called and wanted me to read her "CT scan" (it was a DVD copy they gave her) and tell her what was wrong with her, because her OWN CARE PROVIDER couldn't see her for a couple of days.....

#1, I don't READ CT DVDs
#2, you are NOT my patient.

Nothing anyone does surprises me anymore.

 

[ZachnElli]

Yes, it is nervy, but I'm not surprised. I have a friend whose dh runs our convention center and arena and he can get a limited number of tickets to anything. Last year, when the whole Hannah Montana sell out fiasco happened, my friend's dental hygenist called her and asked for tickets!! She had cleaned her teeth once! She didn't even remember her. Some people have alot of nerve!