Do you think I was wrong?

[DVCLiz]

I don't think I need to add my opinion here since it has been pretty thoroughly covered in three pages, but I had this happen once with an ADULT and it was soo embarrassing.

A friend and I had taken our children to a movie and she had also invited her adult sister, who was visiting from out of town. I had heard the sister was "different" but that was a code for mentally ill, and she evidenced it in the movie theater by talking through the ENTIRE film.

"Oh, look, she has on a dress that is the same color as the sky. That's pretty. Don't you think that's pretty? I wonder what she's going to do now - I think she's going to open the door and walk through it. Oh, look, she opened the door and walked through it." And on and on and on - in a regular normal tone of voice, no whispers at all. It was just a long running commentary about NOTHING - and my friend never said anything to her.

I am sure we were the targets of many hateful looks, but no one said anything to us - I would have if I'd been them. It was awkward for me because I didn't feel I could turn to my friend and say, "Hey, your sister is crazy - could you make her shut up?"

In the car on the way home my children kept saying how they didnt know a grownup could act like that!!! They were appalled and so sad for their friend who had the crazy aunt.

 

[jacksonsmom]

I haven't read all the responses but you were 100% WRONG!

I have been taking my son to movies (who is 9 also) since he was about 4 years old. The number one rule I have ALWAYS told him is QUIET when the movie is playing. The only time he can talk is if he has to go to the bathroom and can't wait until the end of the movie, but this is to be done in a very soft whisper. He hasn't ever had to ask me that because we make sure that is taken care of before the movie starts
He never talks during a movie, he knows it is RUDE.

My biggest pet peeve is people talking during movies. My opinion is if you need to talk during a movie then you wait until it comes out on DVD and watch it at home. Then I don't care how much you talk!

 

[DVCLiz]

I just went back and read the OP and noticed it was a DAD who was asking the question. That explains a lot, OP - every reply you've gotten has been from a MOM!!!! Moms already know this is way out of bounds - next time you should ask your wife what the rules of movies are. It will save you a lot of grief on the internet later...

 

[mrsbert]

I just went back and read the OP and noticed it was a DAD who was asking the question. That explains a lot, OP - every reply you've gotten has been from a MOM!!!! Moms already know this is way out of bounds - next time you should ask your wife what the rules of movies are. It will save you a lot of grief on the internet later...

 

[Disneyglobegirl]

Friday night I took my DS9 to see Star Trek. DS has not seen any of the others, and was full of questions. As soon as the movie started he was firing questions off one after the other. About 5 minutes into the movie, the person (I'd love to call him something else...) turned and asked if DS could stop asking questions. My reply was "NO, he is asking questions about the movie." I was rather annoyed at his tone. Unfortunately it's not possible to convey his tone. I then told him, "you are welcome to move it's bothering you much." ********'s wife then asked nicely if he could wisper. Which I replied politely "sure." The rest of the movie went without incident.


Look, I am sort of a Trekky myself, but I was set off by this ********. Please tell me if I was in the wrong.

You were definately wrong. I'm sure that couple are calling you a few choice names and telling others about their horrible experience at the theater where a child was allowed to talk all through the movie. You are lucky that they didn't go to management and have you and your son removed from the theater for disrupting the movie. You do not talk during a movie, it is very disrespectful of the other movie goers who paid the same price you did and deserve to watch the movie in a quiet theater. You need to teach your child that is not ok to talk during a movie but he can ask questions afterwards. If that is not possible then you need to wait and rent the movie to watch in the privacy of your own home where you can talk as much as you want.

 

[stashbin]

There is a nice way to answer questions posted and a not so nice way. I feel sorry for the OP after reading this entire thread of people going OFF on him about a kid talking in a movie theater.

 

[claudia]

Friday night I took my DS9 to see Star Trek. DS has not seen any of the others, and was full of questions. As soon as the movie started he was firing questions off one after the other. About 5 minutes into the movie, the person (I'd love to call him something else...) turned and asked if DS could stop asking questions. My reply was "NO, he is asking questions about the movie." I was rather annoyed at his tone. Unfortunately it's not possible to convey his tone. I then told him, "you are welcome to move it's bothering you much." ********'s wife then asked nicely if he could wisper. Which I replied politely "sure." The rest of the movie went without incident.


Look, I am sort of a Trekky myself, but I was set off by this ********. Please tell me if I was in the wrong.

You were definitely in the wrong. People pay to "watch" a movie.....discuss later. In the future, get your DS up to speed before you go to the movie. Just curious as to how you could think that was ok????

 

[Sleepy]

I just went back and read the OP and noticed it was a DAD who was asking the question. That explains a lot, OP - every reply you've gotten has been from a MOM!!!! Moms already know this is way out of bounds - next time you should ask your wife what the rules of movies are. It will save you a lot of grief on the internet later...

I disagree. How many theaters these days DON'T play that segment "Silence is Golden! Please no cell phones, talking or crying babies so that everyone can enjoy the movie" The no talking rule has been in effect even when I was a kid over 30 years ago! You would have to be a person who has NEVER been to a theater to not know this rule is in existence. Even still, the "Silence is Golden" segment is there to inform everyone of the rules before the movie starts.

 

[MichelleVW]

omg....you were way wrong and very rude!!

 

[asta]

I know that you don't need to be told by someone else that you were wrong but your behavior was so appallingly bad that you deserve to be told that by everyone on the disboards. It is never OK to talk during a movie. It sounds like your son was not ready to watch this movie in the presence of others.

 

[daisax]

I actually find that the elderly are the worst talkers when I go to the movies (always feel bad shushing them, but I do it anyway).

I think most of the time it's a hearing aid issue ("What did he say?"), but of course since the person can't hear the movie, their companion has to answer their questions VERY LOUDLY.

 

[wvjules]

I don't think you were wrong. Afterall, you paid for admission too and if your DS didn't understand the movie then you wasted money on his admission. Whats the point of taking someone to the movie if they can't ask questions about something they don't understand? The rude people in front of you should have understood that. Geeze!

 

[MichelleVW]

There is a nice way to answer questions posted and a not so nice way. I feel sorry for the OP after reading this entire thread of people going OFF on him about a kid talking in a movie theater.

I feel sorry for the people that paid good money and had to listen to his kid yap the entire time.

 

[NMAmy]

I actually find that the elderly are the worst talkers when I go to the movies (always feel bad shushing them, but I do it anyway).

I think most of the time it's a hearing aid issue ("What did he say?"), but of course since the person can't hear the movie, their companion has to answer their questions VERY LOUDLY.

I have this problem with my mom. I think it's that she doesn't realize how loudly she's speaking--think very loud stage whisper. She thinks she's whispering. That's when I tell her, "Too loud, Mom," and she cuts it out. Luckily, she usually goes to the movies by herself so she's not bothering others.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

I will tolerate talking at a movie that is aimed for kids. I believe Star Trek is PG13. Nobody in that audience should be subjected to a child's constant questions. If you can't keep quiet in the theatre, wait for the DVD release and talk it up on your couch all you want.

 

[RadioNate]

I don't think you were wrong. Afterall, you paid for admission too and if your DS didn't understand the movie then you wasted money on his admission. Whats the point of taking someone to the movie if they can't ask questions about something they don't understand? The rude people in front of you should have understood that. Geeze!

If the DS wasn't old enough or mature enough to understand the movie than they shouldn't have been in the theatre to see it. Watch it at home where a dialogue can take place during the movie. The OP could have gotten a refund once he realized that the child wasn't ready for the movie.

I know it isn't going to seem this way but I'm definitely on the lenient end of letting my 8 year old do things and I can't imagine taking him to a theatre to see this. I also spend a lot of time with some 9 and 10 year olds who I also can't see in a theatre watching this. Maybe at home, where questions can be answered and encouraged but the movie (PG-13) was obviously too "mature" for this child if they couldn't understand it.

I will tolerate talking at a movie that is aimed for kids. I believe Star Trek is PG13. Nobody in that audience should be subjected to a child's constant questions. If you can't keep quiet in the theatre, wait for the DVD release and talk it up on your couch all you want.

I agree. It wasn't like this was Cars or Madagascar or something aimed young kids. This is a teen/adult movie. Like I said, I'm actually not a real stickler for "ratings" etc etc but the kid needs the maturity to 'handle' the movie.

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Was this thread OP's way of trying to bring the CB together and make us feel like one close knit, tight community? Shall we all hold hands now and sing Kumbaya?

 

[Sleepy]

There is a nice way to answer questions posted and a not so nice way. I feel sorry for the OP after reading this entire thread of people going OFF on him about a kid talking in a movie theater.

I apologize for using your exact words, but it fits here....

There is a nice way to respond to a request for silence and there is a not so nice way. OP chose rude. Why should they expect any different? If anything, OP should be thankful people stayed quiet. I have been in a theater when the movie was shut off, lights turned on and people warned.

 

[DVCLiz]

I disagree. How many theaters these days DON'T play that segment "Silence is Golden! Please no cell phones, talking or crying babies so that everyone can enjoy the movie" The no talking rule has been in effect even when I was a kid over 30 years ago! You would have to be a person who has NEVER been to a theater to not know this rule is in existence. Even still, the "Silence is Golden" segment is there to inform everyone of the rules before the movie starts.

Oh, I know, but wouldn't you agree more dads than moms are clueless about this kind of stuff? I can't imagine a mom allowing this but I can see a dad thinking it's no big deal.

Haha, I see the OP has fled this thread...

 

[allison443]

There is a nice way to answer questions posted and a not so nice way. I feel sorry for the OP after reading this entire thread of people going OFF on him about a kid talking in a movie theater.

Really, though, isn't it pretty much universally known by adults that you don't talk in a normal volume of voice in a movie theater, like the OP said his son was doing?
Something about the OP just makes me