Do you hold hands/link arms when out and about with your husband, wife or partner?

[Kycha]

Depends on where we are at the time. If we're strolling about our neighborhood, we don't touch. There are tons of Joe's students who live in the same area we do and we'd rather not deal with any stares or comments and we certainly don't want to risk anything at his the school where he teaches (also in same neighborhood).

But if we're in Manhattan, no problem. One of us will reach out and hold the other's hand or fingers from time to time and we'll walk like that. We're not touchy feely guys at all, but it's still nice to hold hands from time to time.

We do, but we are sort of like Rick, it depends on where we are. Sometimes (and I hate saying this) it is easier not to do it then end up in a confrontation, and sometimes we don’t hold hands out of safety.

PghLybert--That's awful. Of course you need to be safe, but it makes me sad & angry that you have to make that choice. Our society would be a better place if everyone was free to be publicly affectionate with their partners. We need to see more love, not less. (I know that sounds like such a cliche, but I couldn't get the right words to express my feelings.)

Thanks deekaypee, for articulating my own feelings much better than I could have. I am saddened that something a simple as holding a loved ones hand would compromise your safety. I am so sorry to PghLybrt and RickinNYC that this is a "choice" that you are forced to make.

 

[ZachnElli]

Yes, we are always holding hands or I take his arm when we go places, even if dh is pushing the stroller. We are very touchy feely. Our kids are use to seeing us snuggling on the couch, hugging, kissing and it doesn't bother them (oldest is 12). Actually they are touchy feely too. My 12 year old came back in the house this morning because he forgot to hug me before he left for school!

 

[pyrateswife]

If we did not touch eachother or say I love u it would be odd... we are always holding hands (his on top) walking, in the car exc. and sneek kisses all the time.. kids are always making fun of us.. but we are going strong for 10 years.. Shoot I cant sleep good unless some part of me is touching him..what can i say... I love the man..

 

[DMickey28]

Sometimes!! DH and I do about 50% of the time. We don't link fingers though .. he has HUGE hands and fingers so it's uncomfortable.

DH isn't a very romantic guy, I am not really either. When he reaches out and touchs my knee in the car, it's always exciting!!

 

[Freyja]

We always do.

 

[Stitchfans]

Yes we hold hands.

 

[SamRoc]

Married 25 years this month and we dont hold hands that much. My dh likes to, but his hands are so rough from the work he does so i will just hold on to his arm.

 

[winniedapooh]

Been together for 25 years this past January and married for 22 years in 11 days and we always hold hands. People make fun of us, but it is just natural and what we do.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

 

[JVL1018]

We did for the 2.5 years we dated and the first 7 years we were married..and then we had our first baby and one of us was always using both hands pushing a stroller for the next 4, 5 years.

So no holding hands except for the seldom occasions we were out without the kids.
Then the kids were in the too big for strollers, but needed to hold hands stage, so since we weren't going to walk 4 abreast, we each held one of the kids hands.

Now the kids are 6 and about to be 8 and we've gone back to holding hands 75% of the time, if we don't it's because we're holding the kids hands.

I love holding hands.
When we're in bed watching TV we always hold hands.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

You are gonna think this is totally weird but i hold onto one of hubby's fingers. Yes you read that right FINGER. He sweats so much that it is too uncomfortable to do it any other way. But we do it almost everywhere we go , sure get lots of strange looks.

Just don't pull it!!!!