Do you hold hands/link arms when out and about with your husband, wife or partner?

[MushyMushy]

Not every single time -- like if we're in a hurry or focused on a purpose we don't. But if we're just strolling along we do. He has me hold his arm when I'm having a problem walking, which has been a good bit more often lately.

 

[NMAmy]

Yep, DH and I hold hands while walking, too.

Even my 16 yo dd will link arms with me when we're walking sometimes (unless I've annoyed her somehow.)

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Yep!! We hold hands all the time!

 

[Disney Doll]

Sometimes...depends on what we are doing.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Well since we have 4 small kids (5 and under) we usually never have a free hand. We do skip occassionally and of course there is always the butt grab!

 

[jax677]

You bet. We have always held hands. My kids think its cute.

 

[HollyJoy]

Sometimes.. it really depends on where we are. Plus, if we have the kids with us, it's usually one of them holding our hands

 

[littleteapot]

We when are alone (no little ones between us), we always hold hands or link arms. 19 years for us.

He still puts his arm around me at church too.

 

[stczt]

We hold hands when we are out, and in the car. He puts his arm around me when we sit together.

 

[RickinNYC]

Depends on where we are at the time. If we're strolling about our neighborhood, we don't touch. There are tons of Joe's students who live in the same area we do and we'd rather not deal with any stares or comments and we certainly don't want to risk anything at his the school where he teaches (also in same neighborhood).

But if we're in Manhattan, no problem. One of us will reach out and hold the other's hand or fingers from time to time and we'll walk like that. We're not touchy feely guys at all, but it's still nice to hold hands from time to time.

 

[Mickey&Donald]

We hold hands all the time - out walking, in the car... sometimes even while we're sleeping.

 

[momof2inPA]

Yep. We always hold hands, pat each other on the butt, or I'll hold onto his bicep. It just feels comfortable that way.

 

[2bemarried]

We hold hands anytime we're walking together. Even if it's just a short walk from the car to a restaurant we still hold hands. I'm short so my hand is under his and our fingers are linked.

When we're sitting together somewhere his arm is typically around my shoulder, resting on my leg or we're holding hands.

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

My DH and I still do. We have been together for 6 years. He always sits with his arm tightly around me at church also. Our pastor commented on it one Sunday morning from the platform . Slightly embabrrassing, but he was saying that more couples should be as loving towards each other as we alwayys are. I honestly could have died at the time. But hey at least I am loved!

 

[Donald - my hero]

You are gonna think this is totally weird but i hold onto one of hubby's fingers. Yes you read that right FINGER. He sweats so much that it is too uncomfortable to do it any other way. But we do it almost everywhere we go , sure get lots of strange looks.

 

[Stacerita]

We almost always are holding hands. No matter where we are walking, we hold hands. From the car to where we are going, we hold hands. Im pretty short, but every once in a while, we will walk with his arm around me. But because of my height, its not that easy. When we sit together, we usually are touching, either his hand on my leg, or we hold hands. We just like it that way.

 

[PghLybrt]

We do, but we are sort of like Rick, it depends on where we are. Sometimes (and I hate saying this) it is easier not to do it then end up in a confrontation, and sometimes we don’t hold hands out of safety.

 

[JunieJay]

We really don't. We've been happily married for 21 years but I guess we're not hand holders. I think it may be because we live in an urban area where there are many people walking on the street. To walk hand in hand would require us to take up too much street.

 

[Chipperdini]

Very, very rarely either in the home or out-and-about. DH would gladly do so, but I am definitely not a "touchy-feely" type, so I rarely think to touch just for anyhow. I have to make a conscious effort with respect to hand-holding, hugging/cuddling and kissing for DH's sake, since I really care very, very little about any of those things for myself.

I've always been very happy to be married to DH, so the fact that I'm not really into the above is no reflection on him or my love for him whatsoever. I'm glad to have seen this thread, though, because I can always use a reminder that DH does need and enjoy touch in these ways. Thanks.

 

[deekaypee]

Whenever we can and it's reasonably practical (i.e. not trying to carry things, negotiate crowds, I need my coffee--now! ), we do hold hands--his over mine. We also have this little habit that whenever we get out of the car, we lean over and kiss each other. Don't know why, but it one of forgets on the rare occasion, it feels odd.

Oh, there is one exception to the handholding--when we're with my MIL. When we were first dating, she had a real issue with our PDA. I'm not talking about heavy snogging/making out, or having our hands all over each other. I'm talking about handholding, standing with our arms around each other, kisses on the cheek. She's one of those women who are overly attached to her sons and treats her sons' GF/wives as competition. She let me know from the beginning that she didn't approve of our behavior, let alone of me. Long story short, DH and I are more reserved around her, physically and emotionally, than we are in our daily life. Strange thing is, she now makes comments about how emotionally distant I am and how I don't like to be touched because I don't give hugs, by which she means I don't hug HER!

PghLybert--That's awful. Of course you need to be safe, but it makes me sad & angry that you have to make that choice. Our society would be a better place if everyone was free to be publicly affectionate with their partners. We need to see more love, not less. (I know that sounds like such a cliche, but I couldn't get the right words to express my feelings.)