Do you get along with your Brothers and Sisters ?

[lakelandgal70]

It is complicated I guess. I have one sister and she has had many ups and downs, recovering addict(drugs and alcohol) and bipolar. Makes it very difficult but I do love her. I don't agree with a lot of the choices and decisions she has made but she is an adult. I am hoping finally that she is done with her ex who is still and addict. My parents are done with her so it makes it kinda difficult all around. The whole thing used to upset me but now it just makes me sad

 

[Neesy228]

I have a younger brother (15 years younger) and a younger sister (19 years younger) - they're technically half-brother and half-sister, but we've never used the term. We get along really well and are very close.

Because of the age difference, and having a less than spectacular mother, I do tend to be more "mothering" of them, but I think they like knowing they can count on me for anything...I talk to my brother almost every day about something - usually sports related - and we share the same sense of humor. He and I are more like siblings. The age difference between me and my sister makes it a little tricky sometimes, but I work hard to find common ground with her and she knows I'm always here if she needs me. We've gotten closer over the past three years. She moved to Dallas for grad school this fall and I miss her like crazy!

They are both amazing, fun people and I'm so proud of them.

 

[nikkistevej]

I get along great with my sister. We weren't always close(6 years apart), but since I got married and all(that's almost 20 years ago) we have been close since then. We agree to disagree i we have issues. LOL I tell her she is not the boss of me.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

My siblings (3 cats and 1 dog) are all gone now. I got along great with most of them, except for the white cat who really only liked my mom.

Only children have the best siblings.

 

[wenrob]

My siblings (3 cats and 1 dog) are all gone now. I got along great with most of them, except for the white cat who really only liked my mom.

Only children have the best siblings.

LOL! My parents have a very old Shih tzu and a puppy. My dad got very ill very quick and in the meantime they rescued two very mellow ones. Step mom's BFF would stay for weeks at a time to help out and the pup would follow her constantly. When the BFF went home the last time they sent the pup (not quite two) home with her. It felt like they gave away my sibling! Mind you I'm full grown with a family (and dog) of my own but I was unreasonably upset by that.

 

[DVC-Don]

I have only one sister who has stolen from both me and my dad (and others), that plus shes been arrested for distribution of cocaine. I have nothing at all to do with her and my kids don't know her. When my dad died she left a message demanding to know where he was buried. I never returned her call and changed my number.

 

[hulagirl87]

I have an older sister with a lot of issues. We have never been close and she was mean to me all the time growing up. I don't talk to her anymore. 3 months ago she threw her whole birthday cake at me, plate and all, dangerously close to DD's head. I will not forgive her. Since we were never very close, I can't say that I miss her.

 

[MIGrandma]

I am an only. Always have wished I had a brother or sister, but that was one wish my parents never granted me.

I especially wish I had a sibling now, as we recently admitted my Mom to a nursing facility and I have started the process of cleaning out her apartment and would love some help with all of this.

 

[gwynne]

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[powellrj]

Since our parents have become ill, my brother and I have become very close. It's funny, when DHs parents became ill, it drove them apart and they aren't close at all. My kids have become very close now that they are all in college or just graduated. Maybe they now have something in common.

 

[ronandannette]

I have a brother 3 years older than me. We didn't get along that much growing up, in our preteen-teenage years as he was kind of a jerk, I was kind of a drama queen. We havent spoken in 6 years.
I have a brother 2 years younger. He did not get along that great with my older brother growing up. See above but substitute pest for drama queen. They also haven't spoken in 6 years.
Older brothers choice not to talk to us, and we don't really know why.

However, I adore my younger brother, always have, always will. We are the best of friends and see each other once a week. He's awesome!

Maybe it lost something when you put it in writing, but this strikes me as hilarious.

 

[Vicki926]

Maybe it lost something when you put it in writing, but this strikes me as hilarious.

LMAO! Yes, it does look bad for us. We outgrew our drama and pestiness, I swear..we are very laid back adults! He remained a jerk, a bit, though! But maybe he held onto it from childhood. If he ever contacts me, I'll ask!

 

[Vicki926]

Sounds a lot like my family. I have an older (4 years) brother and a younger (4 years) sister. He was kind of the same way as your brother growing up but I just chalked that up to him being older. My sister and I always got along and still do. We do not see each other a lot but when we do we have good time. Whenever we would see our brother we got along fine but just seems like he preferred to alone and really not deal with family. Never wanted to share any of his life with anyone. As example my sister and I found out on facebook (through his wife's page) that they had sold their company and were moving to California. Neither one of them called to tell us anything about it. when we were little our parents divorced and he was bitter and never wanted to have anything to do with our father or be anything like him. My sister and I did not either but that was because I was 4 and my sister was a newborn and our father stayed in Pa. and we were in Ga. Ironically I found out not to long ago (on facebook) through a long lost cousin still in Pa. that my brother was exactly like my father in keeping things to himself.

Sorry for being so long winded

Yes! Same here. Moved and never told anyone.

 

[Bluestars]

To all of the people who lost siblings, I am very sorry. That has got to be extremely painful. It must also be painful to be the sibling of an addict. One of my husband's brothers died of alcoholism. Addiction can be so destructive. I know people who have sought treatment and now lead productive lives, so it's my belief that there is always hope. The person has to choose it though.

I come from a large family and get along with all of my brothers and sisters. I love spending time with them. They are all wonderful people.

 

[WorldWacky]

I'm the oldest of three. I live in NY, they are both in PA. My sister is three years younger and we text and talk often. My brother is six years younger and we very rarely talk or text. He's not one to do much of either. We get along very well when we get together for holidays and birthdays. My sister and brother see each other all the time.

 

[tennisfan]

Got one sister who is 3 years older, fought like cat & dog growing up but would always be there for each other. Got closer when she moved out, still close now she has 2 children but its not the same as before.

 

[eh24fan]

I am the oldest of 4 - my brother is 2 1/2 years younger than me, then we have 2 half sisters (although we NEVER call them that) that are nearly 18 & nearly 17. I am 37 and my brother will be 35 in December. He and I get along fine, no arguing there now that we are grown. When we were kids we fought some, but when our parents split, he eventually went to live with my dad, a whole 4 miles away. LOL So we didn't see each other every day anymore, cutting down on the bickering. Despite the 20 year age difference with our sisters, we are both incredibly close to our sisters. He lived with them when they were babies. My oldest is 17 months younger than my youngest sister. LOL He is VERY close to both of them, they grew up together. It's funny because my dad gets so annoyed with me when I'm around my sisters. He says I regress, and it's kind of true. We have so much fun together and I told him that if he wanted me to act my age, he should have given me sisters when I was a kid, not grown and out of the house. LOL Truth is, they tell me things they would never tell parents and I'm able to give them advice and "mother" them in a way, without them seeing me as "mothering" them.

 

[Lilacs4Me]

As a whole, absolutely yes. Individually, some more than others.

I have one sister who I talk to a few times a week minimum, and am closest to her more than anyone else in this world other than my husband and kids. They come first, she comes next I can tell her anything and she might judge, but she tells me she is judging LOL, and I with her. We are both pretty honest and fortheright with each other. We are two years apart in age - I am the older one - but have really similar personalities and outlooks on a lot of stuff. She is my rock.

I have one sister who is 14 months older than me, but we fought a lot as kids, but got along a lot, too, especially as younger adults. I'm more serious than she is, and she was the partier. I pretty much surpassed her in maturity when I was about 12, which caused a lot of fights. She wanted the perks of being the "big sister" but I took the responsibility and she hated that. We used to spend a LOT of time together when we lived closer together. Certain things/changes get in the way of us being TOO close, though, and although we always are happy to see each other, we don't really talk on the phone or confide in each other a whole lot.

I have a couple other sisters who are much younger and it's always been more of a mother/daughter type relationship than a sister/sister one. But that is OK - they always look to me for advice and help, and I love them unconditionally. I always have a good time around them, and they think I'm hilarious, which I'm sure helps Their kids are younger than mine, so I can help and give (solicited!) advice based on my experiences but without the "my kid is better than your kid" skewed outlook that a lot of parents tend to have when kids are the same ages.

I have a stepsister who I last saw when she was about 12 and stopped coming over to visit because her father (my stepfather) is pretty much the world's worst human being ever. But I see her on FB, and she is doing well - engaged and planning her wedding. I'm happy for her, but I would not say we are close at all. I probably will not make the short list for her wedding, and I am totally OK with that. She should invite people who are really in her life over some stepsisters who she never sees!

Lastly, I have two brothers. One I have never met. He was given up for adoption before I was born. Sad story, but I won't get into details. The other is my 1/2 brother, who is 14 years younger than me. I raised him as a baby/toddler. His father is my stepfather. Neither he nor my mother had any intention on having a child together and when it happened, they saw having teenage girls in teh house as built-in extra parents and pretty much handed all parenting responsibility to me and my next younger sister. (remember...older sister was the partier!) Since I now refuse to see the stepfather, it makes it kind of hard to keep a good relationship with my brother. But we all try. He has a beautiful baby girl and little guy on the way. I will not let the stepfather get in my way of seeing my nieces and nephews, so we pretend like each other is invisible if we are in a room together and carry on.

All in all, I have to say that my absolute favorite times of the year are when my 4 sisters and my brother and I are all together with all our families. We always get together the weekend before Christmas, for the weekend, at one of our houses. And at least once a year, someone will host an overnight summer party that we all go to. No matter what petty differences we have, we all agree that we love when all 6 of us (and families) are together. Parents are NEVER invited Just the 6 siblings and families. And we like it that way!

 

[PollyannaMom]

I have one brother, and we get along very well, but live far apart, so we don't see each other much.

 

[Disneylover99]

I love my three sisters dearly. We all got along well growing up and we are all very close now.