Do you find this inappropriate?

[babar]

I work in a hospital and we do concurrent coding on the floors. (don't ask!) Anyways, this lady comes back to our area yesterday all flustered saying "oh, I just saw the most inappropriate thing on the floor today." I guess a doctor was leaning on the counter charting, and a nurse was kind of leaning on his back with her arm slung over his shoulder. That's it. So while everyone else is going "oh, not at work, that's awful," I was still waiting to hear what was inappropriate!!!

Now do you find that wrong? Yes, patients are around, but I asked if it looked anything other than innocent, and she said no, but it's still wrong.

Am I nuts here? I don't think it was a big deal. A lot of other people did.

 

[Harley Chick]

Sounds like a very friendly place to work. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[EROS]

WOW.............sounds like the last days of POMPEII

I always wear a sign on my labcoat which states:

NURSES, PLEASE DO NOT LEAN ON MY BACK!!!

 

[browneyes]

What did the dr look like?

It would probable make me think the dr and nurse were a little too comfy with each other. But that's my opinion.

 

[honeywolf7]

Gosh, if that's inappropriate then I'd hate to think what my hugging the girls I worked with when I worked retail and one of us was having a hard day (and sometimes even getting a hug from our male manager) would be considered.

 

[Serena]

There will always be someone to complain about everything. It may have been more friendly than that person liked, but who cares.

 

[December99]

I don't think it's a big deal either! It wasn't like they were kissing or making out or groping each other. My daughter hangs on me like that all the time (I ask her to please stop).

 

[EROS]

One of our hard-working Nurses...............I frequently remind her NOT to lean on me .................

 

[babar]

hmmm, that's not exactly what our nurses's look like.

Now, I on the other hand.........

drea

 

[Blondie]

I think it shows a sign that they are all comfortable with each other.

I know on our unit, there are several MDs that we are more at ease with than others, and we know the ones that have a good sense of humor, and the ones that don't have the *God* complex.

There are the ones that you could do what you've mentioned, as well as walk arm in arm with for a few feet to a patient's door, or to another area of the work station. There are the ones that will come up behind you and whack you upside the head with some paperwork as a sign of playful interraction--not inappropriately, (and then we do the same to them) etc.

Ofcourse there are also the MDs who would take all of that the wrong way because doing something like that is "beneath them."

To answer the question, on our unit, that would not be considered inappropriate.

 

[mamajoan]

Lord have mercy.. you would think they were swappin spit right there at the nurses station...
no I don't find anything wrong with their comfortable behavior...

as long as they both are comfortable it is ok.. some folks do not feel comfortable with hugs, or contact of anysort... I feel sorry for them..

 

[DocRafiki]

Inappropriate. If a man draped himself over me like that, we would "have words."

 

[CRB#33]

Over the years, the line has blurred in the work place as to what is appropriate and what isn't.

Many co-workers are now very friendly outside of the workplace and here's where the problems come in. If people are touchy-feely when they're not at work, they take it into work with them.

I don't think it's appropriate to flirt in the workplace. That's what this sounds like. I don't think that it is a behavior you should expect of professionals. You are there to do a job. Take it seriously.

Hugging a co-worker because of a bad day is not a bad thing. But if there are patients, customers or whomever around, a professional needs to think about the perception of their consumer. Just a fact of life. Not everybody thinks the way you are thinking. And it could be important. That's why professionalism is important. You can't be selfish and just do what you want. You have the consumer to think about.

Goof off and flirt on coffee breaks and lunch hours.

 

[CRB#33]

Oh, and I can't believe I forgot this, but flirting with someone is pretty disrespectful of that persons spouse. On both parts.

 

[EROS]

Originally posted by CRB#33


Goof off and flirt on coffee breaks and lunch hours.

Thanks for the sound advice . BTW, there's a PM in your mailbox from me which you can view if you take me off of your IGNORE list .............

 

[babar]

I have no idea if they are married or not. That wasn't the point.

But, since you brought it up , a lot of married people flirt. Sorry, that's a fact. I've seen it with my own two eyes. My 64 year old father flirts with the waitress where he eats breakfast in the morning. My mom knows, she laughs. Life would be pretty boring without harmless flirting.

 

[believe]

Personally I would find it inappropriate. What is the hospital's policy on this? I worked in a hospital for 4 years and this would not have been tolerated.

 

[helenabear]

You know I've been thinking about this for a while and I think it would be considered inappropriate in most of the places I have worked at. My DH and I worked in the same place in college and we never did anything like that at work. An occasional quick touch is okay at my work place and hugs goodbye or for comfort/special occasions are okay, but not that.

 

[Blondie]

Originally posted by babar
Life would be pretty boring without harmless flirting.

Amen to that!

And what you are posting about I don't necessarily consider flirting. I guess you just never know what the other person is thinking. But if they want to turn it into a soap opera, let them.

This world we live in has become way too politcally correct and some people need to lighten up.

**disclaimer** I am not referring to any one poster in particular when I say "lighten up." This post reflects only one DISers point of view and should NOT be considered common workplace behavior!

 

[CRB#33]

, a lot of married people flirt. Sorry, that's a fact.

In my opinion, that's a shame. I have seen for myself that many times it is harmful, not harmless.

Life would be pretty boring without harmless flirting.

I'm not bored! I am actually extremely happy!

I guess you just never know what the other person is thinking. But if they want to turn it into a soap opera, let them.

That's fine outside of the workplace. Be who you want to be. (Again, just my opinion.) But inside the workplace, like I said, you do need to worry about what others think and how people act. It eventually will reek havoc if you don't.

This world we live in has become way too politcally correct and some people need to lighten up

I agree with the first part of that sentence. But I don't think this is a matter of political correctness. It's a matter of respect. It's a matter of professionalism.

As to the second part of that sentence, you say you are not referring to any one poster, but I'm to assume you are referring to people who share my opinion. I think so anyway, your disclaimer was confusing to me. I'm not sure what you meant. If I'm right though, I would agree I need to lighten up on these boards (although I'm not sure how I would feel if someone commanded me to lighten up.) I've tried, and I do have quite a bit of fun here. However, please don't tell me to lighten up about my principles IRL. I don't think that's anyone's place

No one has to agree with one another here, just respect, which I hope I've done.