Do you feel good about yourself?

[Michie]

A friend of mine, who is one of the most beautiful people I have ever seen, not just on the inside, but the outside, has never had very much self confidence or felt good about herself. She has always worried about what others think of her, blahblahblah.

I really don't get it. I have never really cared about what others think;to a point I care, such as I want people to think I am a respectful and decent person, but it is not something I dwell on.

Do you think a good self image is something you are born with or is it a learned behavior or is this a million dollar question?

Poll to follow!!

 

[poohandwendy]

Yes, I am a very confident person and feel great about myself. I do remember a few periods of my life that I lacked self confidence though. When I was around 12 yo and also the first several years of my marriage.

I really think it is a combination of environment and personality that comes into play. I know that abuse can really mess with people having feelings of worthlessness and I am sure personality plays a part.

 

[JVL1018]

I said no--because I need to lose 10 lbs that I gained via a combination of vacation and Christmas--and I wand straight teeth

However, I am losing those 10 lbs and I got braces last month, so i am on my way to feeling better! LOL

For me, how I feel is 100% wrapped up in my weight--my mood for the day is determined when I step on the scale--if its bad, I am cranky and sad, if its good then I feel great about myself and am totally confident!

I do care what other people think, I try not to, but I do-but I dont have any issues with people thinking badly about me, not that I know of anyway!

 

[BethR]

Sometimes I feel better than others. But right now, I am not feeling good about myself. I just know that I could be a better person than I am.

 

[DISUNC]

HONESTLY! I NEVER UNDERSTOOD 'not" FEELING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF.

I GUESS IF I DID, I WAS TOO DUMB TO REALIZE! i GUESS I FEEL GOOD ABOUT BEING DUMB!

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Good question. There are few people whose opinion I truly value. I had a mean stepdad who was always trying to squash my self-esteem. I'm such a stubborn Swede that I refused to let him win and see myself the way he wanted me to. I had lots of other supportive people in my life though who told me positive things. My Mom was a super confident woman and I admired her independent nature. She taught me a lot about never following the crowd. I always have had a bit of a rebel streak. I never cared about the opinion of my peers, but then again I never heard anything negative from them. I really just wanted the respect of my close family members and I always had that. I guess in my situation it was a combination of genetics and my environment.

 

[azgal81]

I feel great about myself! I know how awesome I am!

 

[autumnbaby9]

Yes I feel good about myself

However feeling good about myself was not somethiing I was born with. I was very shy and self consious until I was about 16/17 years old.

I don't know what changed exactly but one day I decided to no longer care if everyone liked me and just stick with the people who did.

 

[Liberty Belle]

No, I don't. There are so many things I could be doing better. I'm working on them, but I've got a ways to go.

 

[BethR]

You see, I don't necessarily think that other people don't like me (and that may be part of my problem ), I just don't always like what I know myself to be.

 

[Cool-Beans]

I love myself, I think I'm grand.
I go to the movies, I hold my hand.
I put my arm around my waist,
When I get fresh, I slap my face.


I don't think confidence can be given. People gain it from being proud of the accomplishments. Real self-esteem can only come from within.

But I do think it can be taken away. Kids who grow up with the wrong kind of parents...we all know the story.

There are things about me that aren't great, there are things that are. Some people are practically perfect, some are downright evil. I think that I, like most people, fall somewhere in the middle.

 

[Robinrs]

I love me. I found out a LONG time ago that my parents thought I was awesome and I decided to agree with them...

Like I tell my son, no one will like you until YOU like you.

 

[abaldacci]

Yes, I do. I am a good mother, honest, have a good job, good kids and ones a teenager. I am faithful to my DH and good to my coworkers. I love my mother. I do have some faults I am overweight and am very opinionated and can't spell. Oh well no ones perfect.

 

[Michie]

I said no--because I need to lose 10 lbs that I gained via a combination of vacation and Christmas--and I wand straight teeth

However, I am losing those 10 lbs and I got braces last month, so i am on my way to feeling better! LOL

For me, how I feel is 100% wrapped up in my weight--my mood for the day is determined when I step on the scale--if its bad, I am cranky and sad, if its good then I feel great about myself and am totally confident!

I do care what other people think, I try not to, but I do-but I dont have any issues with people thinking badly about me, not that I know of anyway!

You sure look beautiful in your picture.

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

I've been having a lot of self image issues over the past few months. I'm healing. I'm in the middle of the whole, "need to fit in" stage.

 

[ckret01]

Wow good question. I have to say that I always see my glass as half empty. I have always had a self esteem problem and never feel smart enough when I am around people. My job makes me feel lousy most of the time and I go home miserable and carry that feeling with other things about myself. I am trying to work on myself by thinking positive and I always seem to fall backwards.

 

[Sparx]

Yes I do.

 

[Chipperdini]

No.

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[Micca]

I'm not too sure about me, but I think there is good stuff around me and that I benefit from that. It's turned out that I am a pretty lucky person and I picked out a really, really good DW. So it's good to be me, but maybe not because of me.

 

[Aidensmom]

Yes, I do. I haven't always felt that way though, so for me I can say it was most definitely a learned behavior. I had that nagging feeling that I just wasn't "good enough" (I didn't grow up in a supportive environment, so I know where that came from) most of my life. When I was 31, I got divorced, and that triggered a period where I just really didn't know who I was and I went through a very down period for about a year. However, I came out of it more confident and secure with myself than I ever thought possible.