Do you feel good about yourself?

[BethR]

I'm not too sure about me, but I think there is good stuff around me and that I benefit from that. It's turned out that I am a pretty lucky person and I picked out a really, really good DW. So it's good to be me, but maybe not because of me.

Sounds like me in a lot of respects. I know that there are some good things about myself, but RIGHT NOW, I feel like the bad is outweighing the good.

I too feel like I have been incredibly lucky. The other day - I just thought "Beth, you have lived a charmed life." And most of that can be attributed to my DH and my wonderful parents.

But again, RIGHT NOW, I don't feel as if I deserve the good that I have had...

 

[LadyAmongTramps]

Quite honestly, it changes from day to day but I feel wonderful about myself tonight.

 

[Tiziminchac]

Do I feel good about myself, yes.

 

[miss missy]

Sometimes I feel better than others. But right now, I am not feeling good about myself. I just know that I could be a better person than I am.

ditto! I got so much going on, I am like but I am trying to keep my head up. I am trying....

 

[cancer_survivor_06]

I have to say yes I am proud of who I am in every way possible.

As for my outside. I am a short person 5'3" and I have always been a little heavier than I should be for my height. I did at times feel uncomfortable but that didn't happen often and didn't last long either. I decided at a young high school age that I didn't have to be a size 0-2 is not attractive to me. I am very comfortable with my big butt, thich thighs, small chest, and on occasion my bald head. Yes thats right I said my bald head.

I am very happy that I decided at young age that I don't care what people think or say about me otherwise I probably would not have been able to leave my house during my treatments and all. I have spent the past three years with and without hair. I have only put on a wig one time and that was for my brothers wedding. I have had looks and stares from people of all ages and it bothers me none. I am proud of who I am because I am me and there is no one else like me nor will there ever be.

As for my inside. When I decided that I was comfortable with who I was on the outside I had a burden lifted and it made me happier and stronger. I did still have some issues hear and there but they were manageable. For all that I have been through over the past 5 yrs I have become a stronger person in all aspects of who I am.

 

[Planogirl]

But again, RIGHT NOW, I don't feel as if I deserve the good that I have had...

I can relate to that feeling but much of mine has to do with a great many things not going the right way lately. I feel kind of snake-bit as the saying goes and it's making me feel a bit down on myself.

I guess that most people go through these things from time to time though.

 

[agnes!]

I love myself, I think I'm grand.
I go to the movies, I hold my hand.
I put my arm around my waist,
When I get fresh, I slap my face.
...

Shades of Dorothy Parker.

agnes!

 

[Caradana]

Great question. For myself: I derived a lot of identity in the first 20 or so years of my life from feeling SMART. I felt ugly, but smart. Huge family trauma but really great mom. Then, I went to a place where I was an intellectual minnow among some really big fish. There, I felt crappy about my brains, but weirdly beautiful. Finally, somewhere around junior year of college - I was 21 or so - something clicked in my head: I am smart enough, and pretty enough, and loyal enough, and I stand out enough to reap some rewards, so I'm going to arrogantly decide what they are going to be. I decided that life is going to work in my favor, through luck or vision or willpower. And for the last 6 years, it has. Have things gone wrong? Absolutely. Am I where I thought I would be? Not exactly. Are there any unresolved dreams or wants? Yes. Do I feel like on a scale of 1 to 10, life is a total 11 and climbing right now? YES. I feel blessed.

One of my best friends is a staggeringly beautiful girl who is one semester away from graduating from law school. Her parents are wonderful, her mind and her soul are so high-quality ... but she dates losers. You can tell that there are chinks in her self-image that draw her to these guys. Now here's the interesting part: I'm sure if I asked her this question, she'd say 'fine! great! life is beautiful! I feel confident!' weeeeeeeeeell ... her actions betray it. I wonder how many "yes" replies to this thread might be betrayed by one action or another?

Do we all have chinks in our armor?

... thoughtfulness ...

 

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

No.
I hate myself
I hate how I look
I hate where I am in life
and I hate that I have allowed myself to fall in love with someone who has made it crystal clear they just want to be friends. The one decent guy in my life and he just wants to be friends.

 

[Narnian_Princess]

I really don't know. I love some parts of myself and others not so much. I love my determination, focus, and sense of humor, but I hate my lack of confidence and lack of effective verbal communication skills. I love my body but hate my voice. I love my athletic talent and way with written words but hate my lack of musical or artistic talent. I'm just one big bunch of strengths and counter-strengths and it's confusing when I think about it. If I don't think about it, however, I think I do like myself. At least, I'm comfortable being myself and don't have any desire to be like anyone else.

 

[miss missy]

I have to say yes I am proud of who I am in every way possible.

As for my outside. I am a short person 5'3" and I have always been a little heavier than I should be for my height. I did at times feel uncomfortable but that didn't happen often and didn't last long either. I decided at a young high school age that I didn't have to be a size 0-2 is not attractive to me. I am very comfortable with my big butt, thich thighs, small chest, and on occasion my bald head. Yes thats right I said my bald head.

I am very happy that I decided at young age that I don't care what people think or say about me otherwise I probably would not have been able to leave my house during my treatments and all. I have spent the past three years with and without hair. I have only put on a wig one time and that was for my brothers wedding. I have had looks and stares from people of all ages and it bothers me none. I am proud of who I am because I am me and there is no one else like me nor will there ever be.

As for my inside. When I decided that I was comfortable with who I was on the outside I had a burden lifted and it made me happier and stronger. I did still have some issues hear and there but they were manageable. For all that I have been through over the past 5 yrs I have become a stronger person in all aspects of who I am.

You go girl! We should all be able to say what you did. I am just not there YET.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

i'm definatly not one to care what other people think, but i do have low self-esteem about myself.

DH2B always tells me how beautiful i am, and so does my sister, but that's about it. and even when they tell me i always think "well they HAVE to say that" my parents were never the type of people who said things like that. i think it might have something to do with being "taught" it. i'm not really sure. i've never felt "sexy" or ever looked in the mirror and thought "wow, i look good!". once in a while i'll think "i look kinda nice today" but that's as far as it goes.

 

[DisneyCP2002]

Not as happy as I should be with myself but I am getting there.

 

[Kitty 34]

For the most part, I feel good about me. Menopausal mood swings has been packing a punch to my self esteem but I still try to come out on top.

 

[JVL1018]

You sure look beautiful in your picture.

What a sweet thing to say, thank you!!

 

[JunieJay]

I do feel good about myself. I find at 43 that I've developed a certain realism that I lacked in younger years. That certainly makes life more enjoyable. I don't have the face or figure or eyesight that I had at 23 but I don't have the tiny mind I had then, either. So overall, while I ocassionally have some regrets that I'll never again be the pretty young woman I once was, I'm o.k. with myself. I'm thrilled with my family, like where I live, and like my job well enough. I can't really complain.

 

[helenabear]

I do better than I used to, but in general I still don't feel all that great about myself. I know some of it comes from family who have probably very unintentionally brought me down over the years. Not just how I felt about myself physically, but I never was able to feel smart at all. Being very overweight at one point in my life hurt more. It's hard to dig out when you feel down on yourself. I'm not sure if I will ever feel really good about myself ever.

 

[UrsulasShadow]

I wish I felt better about myself. When I was losing weight, I felt great. Now, not so much. May be the Winter Doldrums right now, but I feel stupid, lazy, selfish, ugly, mean, evil, incompetent. How nice is that??? I can blame my mother all I want, but the problem really is with me.

 

[DISNEYMOM23SONS]

Surprisingly, I do feel pretty good about myself. I am overweight, but I am working on it.

Along the lines of a previous poster, I would rather be where I am now at 41, than that naive fool I was at 21.

 

[Danauk]

I voted no. I need to loose weight (yet again!!) and am not feeling great about my job right now, I am not very confident in what I do even though I am told I do a good job. Work is stressful at the moment and we know it will continue to be so for at least the rest of this year. I have never been a very confident person and have always doubted my ability to do things. I don't think it is something I have learned to do. Growing up I was good at things academically and musically and was told so by other people, but even then I doubted myself. There are some things I like about myself, I have a nice house which I have worked for and do get to do nice things and have some great friends. Maybe once I have lost the weight and the work situations improves (in that I find a new job!) I will have a different answer.