Do you ever get depressed over.....

[zeitzeuge]

These are the moments where I think that my Disney obsession runs a bit too far.

Our trip is 3 months, 3 weeks and 6 days away. I keep reading on the DL forums about people talking about their upcoming trip that's weeks away or how they just got back. Then I look at my ticker and it shows almost 4 months away for us. I get all bummed and depressed.

What's not helping, is that it's been a tough year. We've both lost most of our friends due to my last years break up with the ex. Finances have been tight. We made a pact to have all of our bills paid off by end of July and both trips this year paid for in advance. I shouldn't complain. Based upon our budget, we'll be 80% debt free by July and 100% by september. Both trips (Pride in San Francisco in June and Disneyland in September) are 100% paid for in advance, including spending money. This is hopefully putting us in a good space to buy a home by the end of the year.

But all of this has caused us to become hermits. No going out for drinks and/or dinner with friends much at all. Eating at home all the time, taking our lunches to work. Even going to movies seems like a luxury right now.

So all I can think about is heading to Disneyland. I've done all the planning that I can. I check out Disney sites weekly to see photo updates. I've watched so many Disney movies it's not even funny.

Why in the HECK does that place cause me to be this way?

It's seriously not normal.........

 

[rpmdfw]

It's seriously not normal.........

Eh. Normal is BORING!

And highly over-rated!

I know where you're coming from in terms of things seeming really depressing because you're not able to DO THINGS because you're being financially responsible, but at this point, you're SO CLOSE! Focus on the light at the end of that tunnel. Focus on the trips. Things will get better. And you're lucky that you KNOW when the "better" part will begin.

Don't let it get you down. You're doing the right thing, and you're doing it well. The sacrafices you're making now, will pay off big time. And when you're having a rough time, come here and talk to us. That's what we're here for.

 

[zeitzeuge]

Thanks honey. I do need to visit here more often. I've been away for a little while.

I know the payoffs are so going to be beneficial and really help us out. Plus knowing that our trips are already paid for helps. Maybe our June trip to SF will help get over the "we're hermits and not doing anything" sort of funk we're both in. Going from social butterflies to hermits is never an easy transition.

It's gotten me to draw some pretty depressing work. Guess that's a bonus.

 

[rosiep]

These are the moments where I think that my Disney obsession runs a bit too far.

Our trip is 3 months, 3 weeks and 6 days away. I keep reading on the DL forums about people talking about their upcoming trip that's weeks away or how they just got back. Then I look at my ticker and it shows almost 4 months away for us. I get all bummed and depressed.

What's not helping, is that it's been a tough year. We've both lost most of our friends due to my last years break up with the ex. Finances have been tight. We made a pact to have all of our bills paid off by end of July and both trips this year paid for in advance. I shouldn't complain. Based upon our budget, we'll be 80% debt free by July and 100% by september. Both trips (Pride in San Francisco in June and Disneyland in September) are 100% paid for in advance, including spending money. This is hopefully putting us in a good space to buy a home by the end of the year.

But all of this has caused us to become hermits. No going out for drinks and/or dinner with friends much at all. Eating at home all the time, taking our lunches to work. Even going to movies seems like a luxury right now.

So all I can think about is heading to Disneyland. I've done all the planning that I can. I check out Disney sites weekly to see photo updates. I've watched so many Disney movies it's not even funny.

Why in the HECK does that place cause me to be this way?

It's seriously not normal.........

I'm just like this. I focus on my Disney trips almost to the exclusion of anything else. Most of my friends good naturedly laugh at my obsession, and my husband, god bless him, supports it.
I have wondered about the nature of this for a long time. The fact is, I like being a kid at heart. Make no doubt about it, when i need to be a strong woman, I am...but for the most part, walking through my daily life...I prefer to be whimsical and youthful.
My love of Disney just recalls the few times in my young life when I believed in magic. There wasn't enough of it then and now....I'm making it for myself as often as I can!

 

[Sphyrna]

Just keep the faith and remind yourself why you're doing it all. Being financially free and saving for a house is a big deal and will make it all worth it. This month I should finally have all my credit cards paid off!! As close as it is I still can't imagine what it will be like not having to make the huge payments. It will be so nice to start saving money instead of paying off debt. Just start focusing on your trip in June, it's not that far off. Then you'll get out and have some fun to make up for your time being a hermit.

 

[kingLouiethe1]

I am so on the same boat with you. This past year has been tough not going out to happy hour with coworkers, not going out for drinks with friends, hardly any dinners out, all to pay for this wedding.

Not that I'm complaining, it's totally been worth it, but it has been a little difficult and depressing. The part that's not depressing is how much money I was able to save in a year, and realizing how much money I sort of flitter away on nothingness, sometimes I feel like I've got not a lot to show for it.

The hubby is excited though, because he likes to save and budget and be responsible. He's trying to talk me right now into a plan that would allow us to retire when we're 50, which would totally rock. Only thing is we would have to continue the current level of "hermit" age, for like the next decade.

Which wouldn't be a terrible thing, my friends just think of me as the cheap guy now, so they know we can go for coffee or rent a movie and stay in. And I have my annual Disneyland pass, so that is my cheapest form of entertainment (if I bring my own lunch, which I often do )

And also I've told him if we continue that level of aggressive savings I need an annual release, just one really great vacation a year that I can focus on every time someone invites me to bar and I have to say no. He says I can book our Disney world trip for late September or early October with the free dining

 

[MonorailMan]

I'm kind of the opposite when it comes to the days leading up until the trip. I get even more excited because I have something to look forward to. What's always depressing to me is the night before you have to head home. That always bothers me.

On the other hand, I know exactly what you mean about being unable to go out and do anything. I'm currently at a point where I don't go out unless I absolutely have to because I don't want to/can't pay for more gas. Financially speaking, living week-to-week isn't even the best way to describe it. It's more like living day-to-day right now. And what's depressing is that I honestly don't see a vacation being planned anytime for the next couple years for me.

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

There is not much more that I can say than what has already been said... So I will do what I am best at:



I am squishy, people like to hug me... and I like to hug people (well, people I know)!

 

[OrlandoMike]

It's weird really, I get depressed every time I head to Disney World......

 

[kingLouiethe1]

It's weird really, I get depressed every time I head to Disney World......

Talk yo your doctor about prozac!

Caution: Side effects may include suicidal thoughts, sudden outbursts of anger, uncontrollable weeping or other mild reactions.

 

[Kaler131]

I'm just like this. I focus on my Disney trips almost to the exclusion of anything else. Most of my friends good naturedly laugh at my obsession, and my husband, god bless him, supports it.
I have wondered about the nature of this for a long time. The fact is, I like being a kid at heart. Make no doubt about it, when i need to be a strong woman, I am...but for the most part, walking through my daily life...I prefer to be whimsical and youthful.
My love of Disney just recalls the few times in my young life when I believed in magic. There wasn't enough of it then and now....I'm making it for myself as often as I can!

You sound just like me Rosie!!

 

[jenn&nelsonrego]

It's weird really, I get depressed every time I head to Disney World......

That is understandable... but just think of the magic you create for the rest of us!

 

[ToddyLu]

Just picture yourself, its a beautiful day, sipping your favorite beverage watching people walk by the DL castle......and knowing that YOU ARE DEBT FREE!!!!!How cool is that.

I definitley think you need the trip in June--that should be really helpful. DH thinks that I am way too obscessed and need to step away from the DIS....dang it boy, step away from the WDW lover and let me be....I work really hard as a nurse and he wants to tease me about my 'puter time in the evening. I used vacation days earlier this year to stay home and be the loving wife...but come October I am going "home". We have not paid our Disney Visa off yet but very close--then we get Disney bucks to use on the trip weeeeehooooo!

My back was killing me today, I was a grump this morning, got in my car, slipped in my Wishes CD and it took me to my happy place. That and Welbutrin XL--have a terrific trip and for the next week I will be sending you both great wishes as you head toward a terrific fun summer trip and debt freeness.

 

[unfreshdiva1]

It's tough. I moved to Orlando thinking I had many friends. After "ex" and I went from being friendly to not speaking turns out none of them were "my" friends. I go to Disney alone (my new man of 1 1/2 years lives 2 hours south but we see each other every other weekend until I move back down next year). Disney solo can be fun at times, but so much better when you are with someone you love.

 

[Kaler131]

It's tough. I moved to Orlando thinking I had many friends. After "ex" and I went from being friendly to not speaking turns out none of them were "my" friends. I go to Disney alone (my new man of 1 1/2 years lives 2 hours south but we see each other every other weekend until I move back down next year). Disney solo can be fun at times, but so much better when you are with someone you love.

Awwww!

 

[starann]

I was wondering where you had been...Ithen looked for your blog link and saw it was gone (I'm not above internet stalking...jk!).


Anyway,DH and I are in a similar boat of digging ourselves out of debt. We have cuteating out way down (now ifwecanboth focus on bringing lunches towork, we'd be in decent shape), movies are a HUGE treat, and shopping for myself is long gone (although Ididjust get some new summer stuff for work at OldNavy, using a 25% off coupon.....it wasn't much fun ifyou were interested, I've gained so muchweight). It seems like when there might be a light at the end of the tunnel.....something happends, like a tree falling on our house, needing a new carand so on!

I am a nurse and the hospital cut ALL overtime, and that was about 20-30 hours a month for me....ugh!


One thing my friends and I have tried to start doing is a 'game night' We all bring over appetizer type foods, someone brings a board game (some of the new onesare fun....we stay away from monopoly or anythign else that cantake hoursand hours) and we play (and sometimes drink). It's a nice night 'out' and we don't feel like hermits! And itgives us a reason to clean really good!

Next month me and 4 girlfriends are doing a sleepover night!

 

[Crashdown]

not to bring you down... we only have 17 days till WDW!!! woo-hoo...

 

[rosiep]

You sound just like me Rosie!!

hugs right back at you!!

 

[kingLouiethe1]

hugs right back at you!!

After Rosie hugs you it's usually a good idea to check she didn't lift your wallet

 

[rosiep]

not to bring you down... we only have 17 days till WDW!!! woo-hoo...

And you're not taking me?????
Some admirer you turned out to be