Do you ever feel like...

[agnes!]

...just giving up? And I don't mean in the sense of life/everything, but maybe in a particular situation? Like you've seen the train coming, you just *knew* how it all would end up and here it is...in the station and all the people did what you thought they'd do...the passive-aggressive leader, the hanger-on, the person who went mia for all the work, the people outside the issue who you will now have a different relationship with because of how everything unfolded.

crap...just, y'know?...crap. I am so sad about it...one tries to do the right thing and it doesn't matter anyway.

It just all makes me so sad.
agnes!

 

[bicker]

I have found that when I've been frustrated in that way it is typically caused by expecting a higher level of success than past history justifies. While we always should hope for the best, we need to do so with open eyes and in full knowledge that success is often something to be celebrated because it is relatively rare, rather than expected because we want everything to go well in our lives.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Sorry to hear it

 

[Stitchfans]

I have found that when I've been frustrated in that way it is typically caused by expecting a higher level of success than past history justifies. While we always should hope for the best, we need to do so with open eyes and in full knowledge that success is often something to be celebrated because it is relatively rare, rather than expected because we want everything to go well in our lives.

Well said. Wise way to look at life. I try so hard to keep a positive attitude towards life's experiences. Each hurdle I have to overcome I hope is making me a stronger person. At times I think not, but after giving myself a little pity party I pull myself up and push forward. But yes, every success should be celebrated because, yes, they are relatively rare especially now with so much negativity going on around us.

I try not to look at the world as a dog eat dog world. But sad to say sometimes that is really hard. I just keep telling myself it is not just me I have to be concerned about I have others who depend on me too. So I have to continue to fight and try to overcome the hurdles. OP don't give up. As I keep telling myself it is bound to get better. It has too.

 

[horseshowmom]

...just giving up? And I don't mean in the sense of life/everything, but maybe in a particular situation? Like you've seen the train coming, you just *knew* how it all would end up and here it is...in the station and all the people did what you thought they'd do...the passive-aggressive leader, the hanger-on, the person who went mia for all the work, the people outside the issue who you will now have a different relationship with because of how everything unfolded.

crap...just, y'know?...crap. I am so sad about it...one tries to do the right thing and it doesn't matter anyway.

It just all makes me so sad.
agnes!

I have an idea of how you're feeling. Sometimes we just have to accept that we can't "fix" things (meaning help them to turn out okay) and that they're going to play out as they are. It took me a lot of years to come to understand that. It still can be frustrating (and sometimes very sad) though. Sorry you're dealing with it.

 

[Carly_Roach]

I "give up" all the time. There are some things I might be able to exert some kind of influence over, but the vast majority of things I see every day, especially when it comes to people, aren't things that are going to be changed by just my nagging, worrying or manipulating.

I'll tell someone once what I think. Maybe twice if I love them. But then I'll let it go, watch them hit the wall or drive over the cliff, and practice adhering to my value of not saying to people, "I told you so".

Sorry to hear you're having difficulty, but it does help when you really and truly release responsibility for other people's messes. Sometimes they have to learn the hard way before they'll really learn.

 

[KristaTX]

I quit a part-time nursing job recently because of this type of frustration. I tried to help and to make things better for everyone for several years, but it just kept getting worse. It was time for me to go; I made the right decision.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

...just giving up? And I don't mean in the sense of life/everything, but maybe in a particular situation? Like you've seen the train coming, you just *knew* how it all would end up and here it is...in the station and all the people did what you thought they'd do...the passive-aggressive leader, the hanger-on, the person who went mia for all the work, the people outside the issue who you will now have a different relationship with because of how everything unfolded.

crap...just, y'know?...crap. I am so sad about it...one tries to do the right thing and it doesn't matter anyway.

It just all makes me so sad.
agnes!

No, I am a realist, so I hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.

Also I am not a believer in "the right thing" to start with. The "right thing" for someone else is not always the "right thing" for you.