Do you consider it rude when....

[nile455]

Say you're leaving a restaurant (or any public place for that matter). You open the exit door, walk through the door but you politely hold it with one hand so it doesn't close on the person behind you. But the person behind you is part of a family of 5 or 6. Do you consider it rude when not one person in that family offers to take the door from you? This happened to me today. I was kind of in a hurry but didnt want the door to slam in the face of the person behind me, so I held it open, only to see every person in her party walk out, make no offer to take the door from me, and to make matters worse not one of them even said thank you. It was like they were in their own little world and I was some kind of doorman.

And boy were they walking slowly.

 

[SnootyBear]

I don't find it rude, but I'm a polite person who would hold the door for someone anyhow, so, I can't say that I ever really thought about it, until you mentioned it. Sorry no help was I?

 

[C.Ann]

Hmm.. Never really thought about it.. It's been my experience that if I hold the door open for the next person behind me, they then hold the door for the folks behind them - so I can go on my merry way..

I'm not sure if what happened to you was rude or not, but it wouldn't have bothered me in the least..

 

[suejai]

YesI agree, I think that is rude. Usually when that happens I will let go of the door after the 2nd person, provided they aren't really old and frail or too little to hold the door.

 

[WhateverLolaWants]

Even though I'm not proud of this, I tend to bitterly say "you're welcome." Once I was leaving a Starbucks with two cups of coffee in my hands, my keys in my mouth, and using my backside to open the door and some man walked right in while I was trying to leave! The nerve of some people, really.

 

[lovetoscrap]

I do find it annoying. Sometimes I will just look at the next person and say something like "You go it now" so they know I am handing the door off to them.

 

[Kirby]

I think that is was rude for none of them to have told you thank you. As for the other, no. I would consider it more inconsiderate than anything. As for you, you did a nice thing and I believe it will come back on you. I am a firm believer in the saying "What goes around, comes around".

 

[mikron]

I have held the door for the person behind and had 4 or 6 people follow. I held the door and didn't think much about it. I think the people following don't think to take turns to hold the door for the few seconds it takes for all to exit.

 

[mhsjax]

Say you're leaving a restaurant (or any public place for that matter). You open the exit door, walk through the door but you politely hold it with one hand so it doesn't close on the person behind you. But the person behind you is part of a family of 5 or 6. Do you consider it rude when not one person in that family offers to take the door from you? This happened to me today. I was kind of in a hurry but didnt want the door to slam in the face of the person behind me, so I held it open, only to see every person in her party walk out, make no offer to take the door from me, and to make matters worse not one of them even said thank you. It was like they were in their own little world and I was some kind of doorman.

And boy were they walking slowly.

I absolutely consider it rude, it happens to my 8 year old all of the time. He like to hold the door. One time he held it for about 10 people because of the same situation, no one would take it from him and he didn't want to slam the door on them. They were just moving very slowly and talking and not one of them said thank you, a big pet peeve(in fact when they don't say thank you, i scream your welcome as they past by). Any way, I told him just to let go of the door. He said but mom it will hit them, I told him too bad, maybe then they will learn some manners.

 

[mhsjax]

I have held the door for the person behind and had 4 or 6 people follow. I held the door and didn't think much about it. I think the people following don't think to take turns to hold the door for the few seconds it takes for all to exit.

That is the problem, people don't think, There is no other way to describe it as rude. They act as if you are the doorman. It is common courtesy, no way would I expect someone to hold the door for more thn one person. That person should then take the door for the rest of the party, or for the person behind them and then let them fight it out. Sorry put this is a huge pet peeve of mine. because it happens so frequently to my kids it just makes my blood boil. I am doing my best to teach my kid manners and to respect adults, and then these same adults act like they are so above getting the door and we are just there to serve. without even a thank you.

 

[MIGrandma]

Even though I'm not proud of this, I tend to bitterly say "you're welcome." Once I was leaving a Starbucks with two cups of coffee in my hands, my keys in my mouth, and using my backside to open the door and some man walked right in while I was trying to leave! The nerve of some people, really.

I said that to a guy once. He had this big, bulky box he was carrying out of the store behind me. I went through the door and held it for him so he could get the box out, he didn't even look at me, didn't smile, didn't say thanks, absolutely nothing. So I loudly said "you're welcome!" He turned to me and said "ooooh, fiesty, I like them fiesty." Jerk. Made me wish I would have just let the door hit him.

I am not one to speak up like that, and I've held the door for many other people that didn't say thanks either. But that time I'd had enough of people's rude behavior.

 

[merryweather20]

I don't understand what the OP is mad about. Either you have your arm on the door and let go as you proceed in which case every person passes it on, or you are out of the way to the side holding the door open in which case it doesn't make sense to play the hokey pokey and rearrange for 5 people

If anybody wants a ticker tape for holding the door, don't do it!

Manners are a giving thing not an expectations thing

 

[Feralpeg]

This tends to happen to me on a regular basis at World of Disney at Downtown Disney. If I hold the door for one person, I get stuck standing there while throngs of people go through. No one offers to take the door and very few say thank you. I just want to shout "I'm not wearing a uniform...I don't work for Disney...Take the darn door!". Sorry, this is a pet peeve of mine!

 

[Stacerita]

It annoys me to no end. This past weekend I needed to use an EVC at DLR. My mother held open a door for me so I could leave, and people kept jumping in front of me to go through the open door being held by my mother. There were other doors for them to exit too. I kept inching forward, but they all made a bee line to my door. Like my mother was the door man or something. I even said, excuse me, Im trying to get out. And my mother even said, I am just trying to hold the door for me DD on the scooter. Still no one stopped. UGH!!!! And not one thanked her.

 

[Tarheel Tink]

Yes, I consider it rude and thoughtless.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I do find it annoying. Sometimes I will just look at the next person and say something like "You go it now" so they know I am handing the door off to them.

I'll say smile, say something like that and start turning away while handing off the door.

I think it's especially rude when a group of people that are together don't even attempt to get the door or acknowledge a kindness.

 

[LuvN~Travel]

It annoys me to no end. This past weekend I needed to use an EVC at DLR. My mother held open a door for me so I could leave, and people kept jumping in front of me to go through the open door being held by my mother. There were other doors for them to exit too. I kept inching forward, but they all made a bee line to my door. Like my mother was the door man or something. I even said, excuse me, Im trying to get out. And my mother even said, I am just trying to hold the door for me DD on the scooter. Still no one stopped. UGH!!!! And not one thanked her.

Now THAT is extremely rude! Some people think they are just so entitled....
Hehe, maybe she should have let go of the door and reached for another.

Kim

 

[Liberty Belle]

Yes, extremely rude. I always try to hold the door open so it doesn't shut right in front of the person behind me. I usually do get a thank you, at least, but sometimes not even a smile.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Hmm.. Never really thought about it.. It's been my experience that if I hold the door open for the next person behind me, they then hold the door for the folks behind them - so I can go on my merry way..

I'm not sure if what happened to you was rude or not, but it wouldn't have bothered me in the least..

You don't think it's rude when you hold the door open for someone and they merry on through without even a thank you? I find it incredibly rude.

 

[C.Ann]

You don't think it's rude when you hold the door open for someone and they merry on through without even a thank you? I find it incredibly rude.

Well in the case of the OP, yes - it was rude - but it wouldn't have "bothered me" - if that makes any sense.. LOL.. I guess I've just reached a point in my life where I realize that many people are lacking in manners, but that isn't going to stop me from doing what I know is the "right" thing to do - with or without a "thank you"..