Do you check his pockets when you do laundry?

[Tiggeroo]

how did I miss this thread. I'm not even going to bother trying to catch up. But i've been married for 22 years and dh and I have been fighting about this the whole time. I don't remember to check pockets and I don't usually make socks not rolled up. I do tons of laundry. I'm lucky it gets washed and dried and it's a miracle it gets folded. Nobody wants to check their pockets. One time i washed dh's wallet and ruined his soc. sec. card and he's griped about it from time to time ever since. I don't think it's my job. If I feel something obvious I remove it. If I'm all caught up on laundry and only doing a load here or there I check then. I'm so glad somebody else has this issue.

 

[MoniqueU]

I just washed one of those expensive keys for the car the other day. It was in my husbands pocket. He is usually great about checking his pockets. I just casually mentioned it to him and he said ok. No big deal, we all make mistakes.
If I do wash and find money I keep it though.

 

[daisyduck123]

I always check....last month, I started a thread saying that I'd found $80.00 in DH's pockets!!! Woo Hoo!!

 

[Disney Doll]

I don't usually check pockets. I assume pockets have been checked if clothing is in the hamper.

I ahve washed a few things, other than clothes, in my day. Mostly tissues, gum wrappers, business cards and money. The difference being that my DH would know better than to "chew me out" for a stupid mistake of his, and if he suddenly lost his mind and started chewing me out, we'd be having the "come back to Jesus" talk pretty quick!

 

[palmtreegirl]

We both do the laundry. I don't check pockets, not sure if DH does but probably not.

 

[MAKmom]

DH came flying up the stairs this morning asking if I had started the dark laundry load. Of course I had, and he flips out because he thinks his checkbook was in the pocket of his shorts. I stopped the load, and lo and behold, it was soaked and in a ball at the bottom of his pocket.

He then proceeded to chew me out because I hadn't checked his pockets. I told him that it was his responsibility to check them, and anything in the laundry hamper was fair game. We have been "fighting" about this the entire 14 years we have been married, and I thought we had come to some sort of resolution, but apparently not. The agreement was if I found the pants on the floor and wanted to wash them, I had to either check the pockets or check with him first. I agreed to do this after I washed and ruined his cell phone several months ago. But if the pants are in the hamper, I will assume he has already cleaned them out.

He was able to salvage his checkbook register and has plenty of checks, so there is no huge loss, but I expect we will discuss this again tonight when we get home from work.

So what do you do?

Denae

I've washed his wallet many times.

I think I 've been married to the same man as you for 14 years. Except he does not use a hamper very often which is another issue. I only check his pockets if the pants feel heavy.

I have laundry basket hampers, When they a full they go to the laundry room. Sometimes they do not make it back into our room. He thinks it is my job to have a laundry basket in our room.

 

[HOGFAN]

Let him do his own laundry.

ITA!!!!
MY DH does his own. Why? Because he generates alot of laundry. It would be different if I didnt work 40 hours a week. When I was doing everyones laundry, I did 2 loads a night. Now I just do mine and ds(13) and I do one load every other day. that means dh generates at least a load a day BY HIMSELF. I think if he is gonna create that much laundry, he can do it himself. he doesnt like it much but too bad. I might take it out of the dryer for him. now of course, if I happen across some money in the dryer, its mine!

 

[disneymom3]

Number one--nobody chews me out. Especially not when I am washing their clothes. No way, no how. Number two--you are not the hired help. If he doesn't like how you do the laundry, tell him to buck up and do it himself. That would be the LAST time I washed his clothes.

 

[Anne34]

I dont think your in the minority.....i still say i wouldnt do it....

Brandy

I DON"T do it either!!! I have found lots of stuff (including money) and it is either mine or the garbage cans! My husband it worse than the kids -- his mom always took care of it for him too.

 

[Grendalynn]

dh and I are both in the habit of emptying our pockets before removing our clothing at night, so no, I never check his pockets or mine when I do the laundry. I'm teaching the kids to empty their pockets too, but since they are less likely to remember, I do check theirs.

Ditto - same here! We have been married 9 years and DH is great about emptying his pockets. Its taken some time, he now does it at night when he goes to bed or changes and/or checks his pockets in the morning before he leaves for work. All money I find is mine however. The only payment I get for being the "Family Maid", which I remind them daily that I am not. The kids are reminded, but not held accoutable just yet... whats a few rocks in the bottom of the washer..?? Things sneak by me from time to time, but I "nicely" remind him that he is a big boy and he is lucky that I do the laundry... But I do get grouchy if something sneaks through that neither of us catch. Especially if it ruins anything of mine! Oh well - if bleach or stain stick can't get it out - its a good excuse to go shopping!

He has come a long way and will do his laundry when asked or if needed. He would chew me out just one time... I dont ask him to do my laundry however. Towles maybe, but not my "good stuff".

Now what to do about the boxers being left on the bathroom floor every morning? Or the trail of cloths that is left when he gets home from work: Socks in the living room on the couch and the pile of cloths on the floor on his side of the bed...?? I think that may be a whole 'nother thread!!?

 

[MushyMushy]

I mostly check pockets, but only because DH left a pen in his pocket once and it ended up ruining all of MY clothes. We were way too poor to replace them all at that time.

A while back, I ended up washing his work cell phone. He didn't get the least bit upset, even though he had to explain it to someone at his job. He wouldn't dare criticize me for something like that.

One thing I'm still battling after 14 years is where he puts his clothes. I'm not picky -- put them in the bathroom, bedroom, hallway, or in front of the washer. Whatever. But not him. He'll throw things that land behind the sofa, in corners, under the computer desk, under the bed, etc. It used to take me forever to gather up dirty clothes because I had to HUNT them down. No more. I finally said enough's enough, if you want them washed, they'll be in the above-mentioned areas. Even though I've stuck with that, I know there are still clothes in corners.

 

[Allison]

Nope-Husband does his own laundry.

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

The ONLY reason I check DH's pockets is because he is always leaving cash in them. I'm not talking change, I'm talking $20.00 bills. I have a big coffee can next to the washer, and any change/bills I find when doing laundry is mine. We have a table just inside the front door where wallet, check book and keys go automatically when we come in the door.
As far as his temper tantrum goes, he needs to get a grip. He needs to wear his big boy panties and take some responsibility here. His pants, his check book = your fault? I don't think so.

 

[SpecialK]

Not only do I not check pockets but if it goes in the hamper inside out I wash and fold it inside out. If he doesn't like it he can do his own laundry. I'm not his mother. Plus, he never washes my clothes at all. If he does a load he washes only his things. If I did that he would be naked.

I wouldn't be washing anything of my dh's if he got angry at me about not checking his pockets. He should be thanking me for making sure he had clean underwear.

Same in our house. I've asked DH to pull out one pocket before he puts pants/shorts in the hamper. When I'm doing laundry, I don't wash anything without a pulled pocket. I also don't wash balled up socks.

 

[babytrees]

Tell him you are not his Mommy and he should take the stuff out of his own pockets. I NEVER check anyones pockets anymore. (I used to check the girls pockets when they were small, but not anymore). Of course, they pretty much wash all their own stuff now. If something gets ruined oh well they learned their lessons, and if they leave money in there it's fair game! I have a huge plastic cup that all money goes into that I find in the machine. If no one claims it the money goes into the vacation fund.

My DH complained one time about how I washed the kitchen floor, guess what I haven't done in almost 20 years? I damp mop once in a while, but I don't scrub anymore. Yep, he now does it. If he complained about the laundry he'd be doing his own too.

My DH told me I wasn't mopping properly....every time since then (8+ years ago) when he's asked me to mop, I tell him I am sorry you told me I don't know how to mop so you can do it. He has made darn sure he doesn't say that on any other chore.

I used to check all pockets and pretreat all stains.....but I stopped....how is it my responsibility to get the bbq spot out of your shirt if you can't shout it?

 

[Sleepy]

I have lost enough laundry to chapstick and ink pens. I just save myself the hassle and check all pockets.

 

[Laurajean1014]

NO. I'm way too busy to worry about everyone's stuff. Occassionally, I find stuff in the washer, but rarely. I think I finally trained my men.

 

[Kahana-ri]

I do check DH's pockets. Not becuase he expects me too, but it saves his clothes. He does HVAC, so in his pockets he leaves drill bits, sharpie pens, writing pens, receipts for jobs, his asthma inhaler, and money. The pens have done in a few washes already. Besides, money I find I keep, its proved to be very profitable for me to check his pockets.

 

[spazzyjazzy]

I always check the pockets for money and stuff. Whatever I find I keep.

 

[geffric]

Another Mom checking in that doesn't check pockets...


I don't check, I never have. The money I get is my tip for doing the laundry.If something gets washed that shouldn't have .. Oh well..

if the clothes are in the hamper then they are there to get wash. Next to the hamper counts the same as in the hamper. but accross the room or downstairs.. nope I only do laundry in or near the hamper....