Do you check his pockets when you do laundry?

[taylor1293]

I always check pockets. Even though my husband and kids have been told to empty their pockets, they do forget to take something out now and then.

It's less of a hassle to spend a minute checking pockets than it is to clean the mess out of the washer or dryer!

And the rule in this house is if I find it, I get to keep it.

Your husband has no right to be upset with you. But after 14 years, you can either start checking his pockets or make him do his own launrdy because it doesn't sound like he's going to change.

Teresa

 

[amy4bruce]

I do 95% of the laundry in the house (part of our distribution of domestic chores), and I do keep the money.

However, I almost never check the pockets, and both DW and I are bad about leaving things. In the last six months, I've washed several pens (two broken open), DW's cigarette lighter about 10 times (always works), papers I can no longer identify, a book of matches, my cell phone and her IPOD. Both of the two latter items worked again after drying for a very long period of time (a month for the cell phone, two months for the IPOD).

It could be worse. When we were young, DINCs (duel income, no children) and lived in NYC without benefit of washing machine, we sent our laundry out. There, we only left cash.

 

[Bob Slydell]

We both do laundry and we're both responsible for our own pockets.

 

[CathrynRose]

I think its time to tell your husband to grow up and empty his own pockets.....

I agree. Your husband acted like my 15 y/o when I washed his iPod...also in his pocket.

As I told him "I dont have POCKET EMPTIER written across my forehead.... if it was THAT important to you, why was it in your pocket, rolled up in a ball, on the floor?!?! (or your case, hamper)"

Not my problem - and I still dont check pockets.

 

[Poohnatic]

The laundry is one thing that DH definitely does far more of than I do. Neither one of us checks-and if you've lost it, tough luck. The only time I ever got mad was when he washed an apron (which wasn't usually washed) and accidently washed my paycheck.


The only thing that shows up in the laundry with stunning regularity is legos. Phones-they ring too darn much to ever sit in pants pockets.

Suzanne

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Funny that you ask, because I never check, but this morning when I did a load of darks I did check and no, nothing was in his pockets. I think that once a person is potty trained, they should be old enough to clear their own pockets. And most certainly, once they are old enough to drive, they should be checking their pockets.

 

[phillybeth]

If my DH expected me to do the things his mother did, then he should also expect me NOT to do the things his mother didn't (wink wink nudge nudge). No milk and nookies at our house- I'm a partner, not a parent.

 

[inaminute]

We're all supposed to check our own pockets, but I check pockets anyway. The rule is that I get to keep whatever I find. I rarely find things and when I do, it's usually out of my own pockets.

I'd rather take a few minutes to be safe than have to replace an entire washer full of clothes because some nimrod forgot to remove the red marker.

Now, if my DH yelled at me for it...well, we don't have worry about that. He knows better.

 

[LadyyRedd]

I personally would check the pockets only because I wouldn't want something of MINE to be ruined because HE left something in his pocket that might ruin the load of laundry.

Kimya

 

[Luv'sTink]

Check his pockets. He's not going to change or he's unable to.

If he can't remember or wont change then how can I be expected too?

I don't check pockets, if it is in the laundry it goes in the wash. DS is the worse offender.

 

[ceiligh1]

I do all the laundry and I dont check his pockets. It actually never occured to me to do so, but then my DH cleans everything out of his pocket the second he gets home and puts the contents in a dish on his desk.
I know that when my DS is a little older and actually uses the pockets that are put on his clothes (why a infant or a toddler needs pocket I will never know) I will have to check his.
We are a partnership but I dont enable childlike behavior, I will do the laundry and if he wants to keep his stuff safe, he better check his pockets.
You should get a big "I'm Sorry" from him tonight.

 

[cheerful chickadee]

I do all the laundry in the house and I check all pockets, both DH's and ds's and my own. I keep whatever I find in them....money left in pockets goes in the Disney Fund!

 

[mickeyboat]

Thank you, everyone for your replies. I am glad I am not alone in refusing to check pockets. I do usually notice if his pants feel heavier than normal, and have been known to pull out his wallet, keys or cell phone on occastion. but I don't inspect every pocket every time, and I don't really think it is fair to expect me to.

DH has actually been much better about his pockets since I washed his cell phone a few months ago - which he did not get angry with me about. I agree that he was angry with himself and took it out on me this morning. That is is a very rare occurrence, and one I can forgive and forget if I get a decent apology.

Denae

 

[AllyandJack]

I always do. DH doesn't. I've lost so many chapsticks to his doing laundry. He doesn't tell me he's doing it. He'll just grab my stuff and do the laundry, never checking my pockets.

If I'm making the piles, I check all the pockets.

 

[Grumpy's Wife]

I don't check pockets. Any money that comes through the dryer is mine. This week I got $1.26 so far and it's only Wednesday.

 

[Mermaid02]

I don't check pockets. If you put it in the hamper- it ought to be ready to go in the washer.... PERIOD.

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

have not read past the first couple responses, but here is mine: My DH is an adult and as such can be responsible for his own clothing and stuff in his pockets. If he had chewed me out this way he would have met with a resounding "don't like how I do laundry, then you can do it yourself!!!"

I think it's much better for each person to check their pockets at the time - than have one person have to go through them all before starting the laundry - of course that "one person" is me!!!

 

[Talking Hands]

Don't check pocket or do his laundry. In fact he often does mine.

 

[highland3]

I'm the laundry hubby in our house. I search everyone's pockets. I got sick and tired of kleenexes and paper... and then there was the day DD left a pen in her pocket. GRRRRRRRRRRR

Now everyone is treated equally and any money I find goes in the Disney Tin!

 

[Horseshoes]

Well I always check all the pockets, I got chewing gum baked all over my dryer, could never get it out.

Its just easier to check it myself.