Do you argue about money problems?

[sunlver]

For those who are married, or in a relationship do you argue about money?

Do you believe that money is one of the top things couples argue about?

Money is a big issue here, or lack of it , and it is a cause of stress for me and my spouse.

What about you all?Is money or lack of it a cause of stress and arguements in your relationship?

 

[soupy11]

No. We never fight about money. It is a deal we have had in place for 4 years and it never gets broken. This is a big issue for us and we can see around us the destruction that it causes amongst our friends and family.

 

[OctMtnWoods]

We did when we were first married. Now, never. I can't even remember the last time we needed to have a money discussion other than what new goals do we want.

Once you get on the same page about how things will be, there is no more fighting about it.

You are right though that lack of money caused the fights. It was more the lack of understanding just how much money there was and that spending needed to stay within the budget. Once that is done, nothing left to fight about moneywise.

 

[LuvOrlando]

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[tink_n_pooh]

We don't fight about it but money (well, lack of money) def causes stress for DH and I.

 

[cheermom1]

we have fought over money a lot! but what we do is we always find a way to compromise and we have also gave each other permission to flat say we can afford that if it is something that we don't really need to get. for example my dh LOVES gaming and thinks we need every last one out there so we compromised with one in one out rule. I have a love for clothes and shoes and purses so the same rule applies to me one in one out. so we have gotten so much better on money and we HAVE to have all the bills paid b4 anything else is bought.

 

[wvjules]

So far the only fight we have had was about me smoking. I lost that one.

But we did just move in together so that may change in the future.

 

[ajk912]

No, we don't fight over money. I pay the bills, so I have the final say on everything. He is obviously welcome to give his input and I will consider his thoughts!

If and when he gets too upset with my final decision, I tell him he is MORE than welcome to take over the bill paying (and I am DEAD serious, this is NOT an idle threat) and then he can handle the bills however he sees fit. He shuts up REAL quick. But I have to say I do get annoyed when he says, "We need to buy this, I want to buy that." I am like "Ok, here's the budget. Show me where to find the money. Because I am not seeing it." More often than not that stops the discussion right there. I think, like the others say, when you don't have extra money you can't argue about it!!!

 

[lovemygoofy]

We've never really argued about money. We knew when we got together what the other's ideas and priorities were. When we didn't have money, it just wasn't there and we made do. I understand that sometimes there is more month than money but if both people are on the same page you can get through it.

 

[Uncle Remus]

For those who are married, or in a relationship do you argue about money?

Do you believe that money is one of the top things couples argue about?

Money is a big issue here, or lack of it , and it is a cause of stress for me and my spouse.

What about you all?Is money or lack of it a cause of stress and arguements in your relationship?

Sociologists 'n other mental health/family agencies are predicting this situation will rise. Time to relearn copin' skills.

 

[mickeyboat]

We argue more about money the more money we have. When we had no money, we never argued about it. When we started earning more disposable income, we started arguing about how we should spend it. After one particularly difficult disagreement, we set some boundaries which seem to be working o.k. for us.

Denae

 

[puffkin]

We do at times.

I do all the bills, budgets and shopping. My DH is REALLY good about not spending money. However, he has NO IDEA how much it takes to run our household, even with all the scrimping and saving I do. He just sees our annual salary and thinks we should have a lot more money than we really do.

For instance, he decides all his pants are too small (or too ratty, or too big etc) and he will want to buy 2-3 new pair this weekend. I have not budgeted for that and say how about 1 pair. He gets upset and says that he never gets stuff he needs. I tell him to let me know further in advance and we will work it in. He gets mad, we fight, and then it is over til the next incident a few months later.

We also fight about another child. He thinks that we make plenty of money to have two. I tell him there is no way we can afford 2 in daycare and he says "everyone else does it". I have run the numbers this way and that and we would be able to pay our bills and that is it with two in daycare. No vacations, no christmas, no birthday, no eating out, no movies, no ANYTHING EXTRA. Or, we can go into credit card debt. Neither option is acceptable to me, so I am willing to wait the extra 2 years for another child.

I encouraged him many times to take over the "money" and he doesn't want to so I throw that back at him and that usually stops the arguements. Usually we aren't really arguing WITH each other, just blowing off some steam that we are trying to be responsible adults and with good jobs and we still live paycheck to paycheck.

 

[momto2girls]

No, we don't. We are very financially stable now, so we have much less to potentially argue about. However, even when we were just starting out and had nothing, we still didn't argue. We have always been on the same page financially and always discussed our money situation regularly. We never bought anything big without consulting the other person, etc. Now we don't have to follow all of those rules, but we have learned to trust each other since for years it was a concern.

 

[ElizK]

We used to. He's a spender, I'm a saver. That gets ugly at times. We finally went to seperate checking accounts. He gives me X amount of money each month towards paying bills most of the household bills. He has to cover his own credit cards and his car payment. This has worked for us for the past 15 years. One day I hope we can combine again. I want us to go through Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace together so that we can agree about money.

 

[frisco]

I wouldn't say we fight, but at times, it does cause stress.

My wife and I do things a bit differently. We keep our money seperate. I pay a portion of the bills, and she pays a portion of the bills. I pay for all entertainment/vacation/leisure.

Neither of believe just because people are married do they have to have just one bank account. Most couples do that, and half of those couples get divorced.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

I think I read that money issues are one of the top causes of divorce.

We never fight about money - 12 years married. We have three accounts - joint, mine and his. We fund the joint account with the same percentage and the rest of the funds are ours.

Husband has come home with new motorcycle - my response was how nice!
I bought a pair of Manolo's and he said great shoes.

We could never live if I had to ask to buy an item of clothing - life is too short to not live it to the fullest.

 

[DVC Sadie]

I think I read that money issues are one of the top causes of divorce.

Money is the #1 reason why couples divorce.

 

[Sneezie]

My ex-husband and I argued about money all of the time. Because he has no idea how to handle money but he swears that he does. He would not take advice and refused to save. He is 36 years old and hasn't started a retirement fund or has a savings account anywhere. We never had a joint account and I never told him how much I made. He would have drained the account dry with unnecessary spending and wouldn't have cared where the money was going to come from to pay the bills.

It's alot more peaceful (and I might add that I have more disposable income) now that he's gone.

 

[brockash]

For those who are married, or in a relationship do you argue about money?

Do you believe that money is one of the top things couples argue about?

Money is a big issue here, or lack of it , and it is a cause of stress for me and my spouse.

What about you all?Is money or lack of it a cause of stress and arguements in your relationship?

Yep, it's pretty high up there, although if I really think about it, I think money isn't the root issue. I think he (because you know I'm perfect ) just kidding, uses money as the reasoning for an arguement as oppose to whatever his real issue is. Hmmm... I'll have to bring this up next time. We are pretty decent finacially speaking, we just argue about how/where/when to spend it.

 

[brockash]

I think I read that money issues are one of the top causes of divorce.

We never fight about money - 12 years married. We have three accounts - joint, mine and his. We fund the joint account with the same percentage and the rest of the funds are ours.

Husband has come home with new motorcycle - my response was how nice!
I bought a pair of Manolo's and he said great shoes.

We could never live if I had to ask to buy an item of clothing - life is too short to not live it to the fullest.

Hmmm... I like that solution. If you don't mind me asking, do you all put away the same percentage into savings? Just curious... I think I would really prefer this.